細心聆聽 (Active Listening)


  1. 細心聆聽的應用篇:
  2. 夫妻篇 經文:以弗所書 5:21-33 Ephesians 5:21-33

和合本 弗 5:21-33
NIV Eph 5:21-33
21又當存敬畏基督的心、彼此順服。 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 你們作妻子的、當順服自己的丈夫、如同順服主。 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
23 因為丈夫是妻子的頭、如同基督是教會的頭.他又是教會全體的救主。 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 教會怎樣順服基督、妻子也要怎樣凡事順服丈夫。 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 你們作丈夫的、要愛你們的妻子、正如基督愛教會、為教會捨己. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 要用水藉著道、把教會洗淨、成為聖潔、 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27 可以獻給自己、作個榮耀的教會、毫無玷污皺紋等類的病、乃是聖潔沒有瑕疵的。 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 丈夫也當照樣愛妻子、如同愛自己的身子.愛妻子、便是愛自己了。 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 從來沒有人恨惡自己的身子、總要保養顧惜、正像基督待教會一樣. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--
30 因我們是他身上的肢體。〔有古卷在此有就是他的骨他的肉〕 30 for we are members of his body.
31 為這個緣故、人要離開父母、與妻子連合、二人成為一體。 31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
32 這是極大的奧秘、但我是指著基督和教會說的。 32 This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church.
33 然而你們各人都當愛妻子、如同愛自己一樣.妻子也當敬重他的丈夫。 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.


個案:一扎蔥的故事*

一個星期五的黃昏,帶著輕鬆心情下班回家。進門的時候廚房傳來弄晚飯的聲音,心下更高興,因為太太患病數天,知道她能夠康復下床弄晚飯是個好消息。

討論問題

  1. 既然關顧者要存敬畏基督的心彼此順服,為什麼聖經仍要求丈夫要愛,妻子要順服呢?試用湯先生太太不同觀念研討如何對話呢?

  2. 如果你是湯先生,你如何用「愛」來問:「哪裏來的蔥?」

  3. 如果你是湯太太,你如何用「順服」來回應湯先生的憤怒呢?
但是當我進入廚房,眼前卻出現一個奇景,一扎扎的蔥,了無生氣地排列在餐桌上,我心底下問:哪裏來的蔥?當下打開雪櫃,前天晚上,我洗擦乾淨的蔥卻不知所終。詢問之下,太太說是她拿出來風乾。我心裏很不高興,因為我的心機,洗淨而包好的蔥便給她破壞了。我當下用專家的意見,告訴她怎樣為蔥保持新鮮,不料卻引發了太太雷霆暴發,說:「你們湯家真是麻煩!」

說這話真是傷透了我的心,想不到我太太 --- 湯太竟然和湯家劃清關係!她不單止人身攻擊,更加禍及本家。

「開桌食飯」太太說。

「我不吃,你和兒子先吃吧!」我賭氣地跑去浴室,問自己為什麼?今天很快樂地回家,現在要匿埋在浴室。今天可以說是乘興而來……。突然之間,一度光亮出現眼前。有人開了浴室門……。心裏想不是要追殺入來吧?!這重創了的心靈面臨崩潰。就在這一刻,我太太用了溫柔的語氣說了三個字---結婚二十年,這三個字首次出現在太太的口中 ---「對唔住」--- 我的心頓然獲得釋放。


*特別感謝湯先生和湯太太提供一扎蔥的故事。*

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