Posted by CPiolo [CPiolo] on November 23, 1999 at 09:03:01 {KNpNN6QGfwHljYPCrMsQfhe3reEu4M}:
In Reply to: My Update... posted by Gretchen on November 22, 1999 at 18:32:00:
Gretchen:
Asking him how devout he is may or may not elicit the truth. I am not saying your boyfriend is a liar -- he may not realize the extent of his loyalty to the WT until it is tested. When my wife returned to the organization it was, at first, only going to be meetings on Sundays. That became Sundays and Tuesdays. Then Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Now she wants to stop working Sundays so she can spend time proselytizing.
Unfortunately, in my view, I see this situation as a growing divide between the two of us. A marriage or relationship requires time and work. Her time away from the relationship takes time away from the family and our relationship. I cannot in good conscience partake in this activity with her. It would be extremely dishonest of me not only with her, but more importantly, I wouldn't be true to myself.
I don't know your boyfriend and can't and wouldn't want to try to judge the extent of his involvement or how devoutly JW he is. You two need to work things out for yourselves. What I am trying to point out and share from my experience is that what he says may be one thing for him and another for you, that his interpretation may be quite different from yours. Each of you is coming from very distinct points of view. Even if you use the same words to describe something, those words may mean something entirely different for one person than for the other.
Be careful and best of luck,
CPiolo