Posted by new2this [new2this] on November 17, 1999 at 06:04:11 {xx2d.1sWpQ1vMkeTU9QQ3Xfj96p4YA}:
In Reply to: very intimate stuff posted by new2this on November 15, 1999 at 16:03:02:
Hi again, sorry for the delay of my reply. First of all I want to comment on the uncalled personal touch my previous post had. To my defend on that matter I have to say that I wasn't aware of the closeness you all feel for each other. To me it seemed (and still seems) that since you all are posting under alias, and since at least I don't have any clue of who you are, from where you are and so on, this was (and are) to me like posting anonymously and therefor not reveling any private stuff. It would have made a huge different if my husband or I would have known anyone of you privately but we don't.
Then back to the issue. As I have understood this forum most of you object, rightfully, to the "mind-controlling" aspects of GB. But I wanted to put out that most of the females involved in porn. are also suffering from this. As a matter of fact most of them are both mentally and physically trapped to this. There has been a great number of surveys regarding this during the yrs and they all come up with the same results: Girls involved have a major overrepresentation from sexual abuse, they are either forced/framed/ into the business by a former lover, due to their love for him or out of the need for money to drugs. The results also shows that well over 80 % (some say well over 90%) of these girls are drug-addicted. The whole business also involves assault, rape, threat and other criminal actions. By participating one is actually supporting the whole dirty affair. So I do mind that someone in my family is doing so.
Then there is the gender issue. I personally object to being "objectified" like in those pictures. Females are viewed as objects, something there for males to "take", they are very often viewed in passive behavior, with the only purpose of satisfying male needs. And to me this is discriminating, I too am a human with different kinds of needs and I am not living only to support the male needs. I think women have to be regarded as equal to men in all respects also sexual.
Then there is the subject of being roll models. I want my kids to grow up having respect for all humans, regardless of age, sex, race, economic status et cetera. Therefor I object against these porns being available to them, on the net or at our computers at home.
And there is also an implicit race aspect to this. Asian girls are preferable in those pics and they are always viewed in submissive positions with white males. I object to that too.
Yes, I do object that ppl are submitting to these things I think it is a criminal world with a very high cost to be paid. And it's not ppl as my husband who pays the price - it's the girls.
And then finally back to the private aspect. We have had a very active sexual life together for 25 yrs, and I dare say to our mutual satisfaction. I don't restrict our behavior in any way. But I want to be the person my husband desire, not a substitute. And I also feel that I have the right to grow older (wiser in some things) with the declining in bodily firmness' that goes with it, without feeling ashamed for it.
/new2this