Posted by mntzion [mntzion] on November 16, 1999 at 21:54:56 {pRztWiaeuki1Us5iQnLw9dahiI6DLo}:
In Reply to: Advice?? posted by Gretchen on November 16, 1999 at 20:19:18:
Dear Gretchen,
Imagine yourself and your significant other on the opposite corners of an equallateral triangle and at the peak of the triangle is "God" "Truth" or "Reality", chose your term. Rather than focusing on each other across the flat plain, agree to focus on drawing closer to the point at the top of the triangle. I know this sound sophmoric, but agree to "investigate reality" together. After all the WT admonishes him to examine his beliefs, I can give you the WT references if you like, but agree to be friends regardless what the outcome of your search is.
If you are both honest, patient, (dam hard to do when the old hormones are up and running)and open minded and hearted, you will come closer and closer in what you both view is "truth" "reality" or "God".
A game plan, even if it sounds simplistic, may help quite some of the heat and give some light. You read the same things together, sort out the same issues together and work on strategies to resolve the differing opinions together. If certain issues are "unresolvable" you will have to chose whether or not it will be a source of disunity for you and whether or not you want to risk a life of happy bliss for something as fundamental as "reality".
I hope you find a way of rationally addressing your situation. The above formulae is one my wife's boss of 17 years used as a family and marriage councellor and while it worked amazingly well for some, it did need a professional coach at times to keep it on track.
Best wishes and keep us updated.
mntzion