Posted by Skeptic [Skeptic] on November 13, 1999 at 11:15:02 {OA5YBxH8IAPFKPeDxyCkQ0vvLkUBWM}:
In Reply to: ***JW Relatives Now Shun Me posted by Sunspot on November 12, 1999 at 22:57:38:
:Oh, Richard.......My heart just goes out to you! I know the pain of "inadvertantly" trading in on relationships, and it does set your emotions on end for quite a while.
Sunspot, you are so nice to me! Windrider and I still fondly remember your response to us announcing our relationship on H2O. And I still blush... :) You are obviously a very kind, sweet person.
My emotions are on edge right now. Both because of the shunning and other troubles.
:Now that certain ones are "aware" of your position,they have retreated, but yet you have the new and wondrous path to travel with your dear Windrider. So one set of emotions are dealing with losses and another set of emotions are experiencing a joy that only comes with a new found love.
Yes. The emotions of my new found love with Windrider help offset the pain of shunning.
:I am so glad that you have the security of being able to depend on Windrider during this time, and you will be alright. Cling to her strength right now, and be at peace with that for now.
Thank you. The love Windrider shows me gives me so much comfort. She is a real catch in every way, and I am so fortunate as to have found her.
:My situation is somewhat similar now, my world is expanding, and I have been shown MANY unexpected blessings since I disassociated myself a few weeks ago.
I am sorry that you will be shunned. But I am glad that you are enjoying your new freedom.
:Three of my children have since called me, and we have been reunited with a new appreciation of one another, and the bitterness is finally gone. We see each other under a new set of circumstances, and it has been very productive and satisfying.
Wow! That is great! I am overjoyed that you are able to reunite with your children.
:But, one daughter is a reg pioneer, and has obviously set her priorities (which I expected her to do) as well as another close relative who has chosen to disown me for my decision.
that's sad. hopefully she will come around.
:I don't mean to sound unfeeling, but I've come to realize that no matter what I do, I cannot please everybody. I had to follow my own heart, and the matter was NOT taken lightly, as you know.
That is not being unfeeling. That is showing maturity.
:So be absorbed in and surrounded by the person of Windrider, to buffer the slings and arrows of the very intolerant rules and regs of the WBTS, which governs the others that are causing you to hurt right now. They are only following "Mama's" orders, because they feel their salvation totally depends on it. I know that you understand this, but it helps to be reminded of it from one who is going through the same type of thing.
Yes, it is good to be reminded. Thank you.
:Continued happiness to you and Windrider, and let the others do what they have to for THEM to survive, I know it's hard.
I see very good things in the future for myself and Windrider.
:Take care, I've been wondering how you two have been doing.....love conquers all, so focus on that when the irritations set in........
I will...
:hugs to you both,
Sunspot
You are so sweet! Give yourself a big hug from me. enjoy your renewed relationship with your children. I really am overjoyed for you!
Richard