Posted by Friend [Friend] on November 09, 1999 at 19:40:31 {4Hfg918T5ghxaL3hj3H2OgnjR4Br/g}:
In Reply to: **Apology posted by COMF on November 09, 1999 at 19:06:20:
COMF
Those who are unwilling to accept Greg’s apology because he represented his honest feelings should rethink their own motives.Excuse me... are you judging my motives? That's a fine big speech you made to AF about not being able to determine folks' motives from their actions. So how does it come about that you know my motives need rethinking, huh? What's wrong with my motives, and how did you come to know it was wrong?
No, I am not judging your motives. My comment to rethink was intended to mean reconsider or be sure, that is be sure that prejudice is not at work. My comment encourages reconsidering whether Greg’s expressions exhibited his honest views or not. If he did express his honest feelings then, even though we/you may not agree with them, they are nevertheless honest. In that case they do not detract from his apology. On the other hand we/you may do that reconsidering and still feel as we did initially, whether that be accepting or rejecting.
Also, I made not speech to AF about not determining motives from actions. Indeed we do that everyday of our life. My speech to him was about respect or not for other people’s views on quite subjective issues. AF apparently feels those accepting of Greg’s apology are immature. In so doing AF disrespects those who disagree with him on accepting Greg’s apology. I find that troubling but it is his prerogative. I will not be sucked in by that kind of mentality.
By the way, I noticed your post and understand why you may have taken special umbrage at my words. No inference to you was intended.
Friend