Finding Your Life Purpose by Dan Millman

Those on the 35/8 life path are here to work through issues of emotional honesty, independence, and power, manifesting abundance, authority, and freedome achieved through discipline and depth of experience. Because our life purpose does not come easily, an inherent challenge for 35/8s involves the dynamic tension between drives for wealth, power, and respect and fears of these qualities. This inner conflict frames the life of 35/8s and manifests in both passive and aggressive tendencies; they either behave in a subdued, passive manner, or they act pushy, flamboyant, or even ruthless. One challenge for 35/8s lies in accepting and integrating the passive and aggressive parts of their makeup to form a more balanced and authentic self of acknowledged power and presence.

The life of 35/8s unfolds in the world of action and influence. Their capacities and genius lie in the areas of authority, leadership, and responsibility. Unless they are inhibited by unconscious fears of their own power, 35/8s can be very dramatic, even ostentatious or flamboyant. When they make a lot of money, they know how to spend it with class.

Wealth, power, and respect fascinate or even preoccupy 35/8s the way a weapon might fascinate a child who is attracted to it but avoids it for fear of doing harm. With their underlying ruthless drive for success, despite their mild exterior, 35/8s have a repressed power that can at times make other people uncomfortable even though they don't know why; this power sometimes frightens 35/8s themselves.

The Law of Higher Will (page 381) can serve to remind 35/8s of their higher purpose and open the way for them to clear subconscious fears and associated tendencies to sabotage themselves. Such self-sabotage can take the form of having physical accidents, alienating other people, "forgetting" to renew their health or fire insurance, arriving to appointments chronically late, or losing money in speculation or gambling. Self-sabotage ends when they when establish a heartfelt commitment to service.

Before 35/8s can truly serve, however, they have to dedicate and use their success for the common good. They need to begin from an assumption of inner power, freedom, and abundance rather than from a state of need or dependence. In other words, 35/8s experience wealth when they start out feeling their abundance by counting their blessings right now; this gratitude attracts more blessings.

The key to resolution for 35/8s lies not in pursuing or avoiding wealth or power for their own sakes, but in manifesting them in the course of providing a valuable service in the world. In fact, 35/8s benefit from visualizing themselves making good money, doing what they enjoy, while serving other people - with the emphasis on service. Such visual images help to attract the support of a reluctant or fearful subconscious.

Volunteer work or any gesture of selfless service also helps 35/8s to overcome subconscious resistance and self-sabotage. As they come to feel more deserving, they get out of their own way. Since most 35/8s don't tend to give unless they expect to get something back, selfless service can provide powerful leverage for change.

Those working 35/8s share the same life purpose as other 8s, but the influence of 3 and 5 creates very different strengths and hurdles on the path to positive fulfillment of their destiny.

With the quick wit and versatility of 5 come strong issues around discipline; 35/8s have intense ambitions but may not appreciate or be willing to do the work necessary to achieve these goals. Their ambitions outstrip their discipline; they sometimes wait for their ship to come before they've sent one out.

The positive impact of a healthy discipline and focus in their life cannot be overestimated. Discipline leads to personal power and self-control (rather than attempts to control others). When 35/8s practice discipline in teir life, they do the work necessary to manifest success. Although they have a steep climb up the mountain, because what we're here to do doesn't come easiest, the rewards are significant, both personally and in terms of their potential contribution to the world.

Even if they are willing to work hard, many 35/8s get scattered trying to do too much, diluting their efforts by pursuing too many opportunities. Discipline in the form of focus responds to and balances this scattering tendency and amplifies their effectiveness.

These individuals also need to balance a tendency to swing from extreme dependence when feeling passivity or self-doubt to extreme independence when feeling aggressive; they do this by forming balanced, mutually supportive, interdependent relationships in their personal and professional lives.

If 35/8s get stuck in neediness, they tend, almost out of desperation, to use others in their world as means for advancement or learning that may lead to their liberation. When they shift this attitude and see everyone and every situation as an opportunity to serve and share themselves, their life makes a corresponding shift.

With the influence of 3 energy, 35/8s can feel inhibited about expressing their feelings, especially ones that aren't "nice." This inhibition may manifest, as it does for others working 3, in their talking abstractly or in their not sharing much at all unless someone draws them out. The 3 can also signal a tendency to manipulate or strategize to get what they want without stating their desires directly.

The Law of Honesty (page 377) applies to 35/8s both in terms of direct and honest expression and also in terms of following the law; 35/8s do best when they follow the highest ethics in business and personal relationships. At first this may seem toi go against the grain because they generally don't wan to be bound or tied down to conventions; they are used to making the rules, not following them.

The more 35/8s freely share their money, power, freedome, and sensitive heart, the more their abundance expands. The fulfillment of their destiny lies not in 35/8s' awesome mental capacity, but in their capacity to love and sacrifice. Their life path comes to fruition not merely through achieving wealth or power, but through using money and power in self-transcending service to the world.

Working 35/8 in the Positive

These individuals have achieved a sense of inner abundance and power through inner discipline, and many blessing have appeared in their life - blessings of abundance they share generously and wisely through their high intelligence and expressive abilities. Others view them as powerful leaders due to their powerful mind, their ability to see the bigger picture, and their genius at getting things done. Emotionally open and vulnerable, they know when to stand their ground and when to let go. These self-made people have a generous, philanthropic nature, taking on positions of leadership and authority. Their relationships are open and mutually supportive.

Working 35/8 in the Negative

People fear these individuals without knowing why. Their drive for success, along with dependent feelings and self-doubt, lead them to a tendency toward opportunism as they seek to obtain from others the power and support they haven't found within. They tend to express and control indirectly, through manipulation. They desire wealth and power, but they lack the necessary focus or discipline and tend to sabotage their own efforts because of their inner conflicts. Feeling bad about themselves and powerless and frustrated over their circumstances, they have difficulties with lasting relationships, which degenerate into struggles for control or alternate between aggressive independence and extreme dependence and neediness.

Life Path Issues

Health

Generally, 35/8s have strong constitutions. However, when they spread themselves too thin, driven by scattered ambitions, they face burnout and possible injuries due to distraction, ignoring traffic laws, or self-sabotage. All 35/8s should wear seat belts and avoid high-risk activities, especially in their late twenties. The preceding problems occur less frequently when 35/8s focus their energies, balance hard work with rest, and commit themselves to working for a higher purpose, thus minimizing the tendency toward self-sabotage.

If 35/8s make work their God, dietary discipline or refinement may take a back seat. Generally, 35/8s' keen intelligence leads them to make informed dietary choices. They are wise to treat food as a medicine for optimal functioning. Like most people without specific dietary needs, a balanced, low-fat, primarily vegetarian diet is optimal. How 35/8s eat is nearly as important as what they eat, and their biggest dietary challenge is moderation, since they may overcontrol or undercontrol this area.

Depending upon their values, background, and lifestyle, 35/8s may or may not make exercise a priority in their life, but they are well suited to forms of exercise that bring a feeling of personal power, such as martial arts, weight training, and individual sports.

Relationships

In many cases, 35/8s have difficulty sustaining long-term relationships until they are thirty or forty yars old; before that time, they tend to fall into power struggles. If their passive and aggressive tendencies haven't yet found a balance, they experience subtle or not-so-subtle control issues in their relationships, as well as issues concerning dependence and independence. On the positive side, 35/8s can be exceptionally attentive and enjoyable to be with, and as they begin working their powerful combination of energies in the positive, they are able to sustain happy, passionate, mutually supportive relationships.

Although 35/8s can be dedicated parents and loving partners, their work is almost always the center of their lives, and it helps if they find self-sufficient partners who understand their dedication to their work from the outset.

Many 35/8s bring the emotional sensitivity and self-doubt of the 3 energy into their relationships. At the same time, their blend of a powerful, versatile mind and wit, along with sensitivity and a strong drive for success, leads them to connect with friends and lovers on many levels. In the highest sense, 35/8s can form lasting bonds based on mutual sharing, mutual sacrifice, and mutual generosity of spirit. Their sexual experession reflects this energy.

Talents, Work, and Finances

These individuals are here to use their powerful mind, often bordering on genius, to create wealth through service, to step forward in positions of benign leadership and authority in their family, in their community, or, for example, in the arenas of industry or politics. These individuals make excellent inventors, innovators, or writers; they excel in any field in which a brilliant and curious mind has free reign. In one of the highest aspects of their life path, 35/8s may assume the role of a philanthropist, generously sharing their wealth and influence in service of a humanitarian cause.

Financial issues always have significance for 35/8s, on whatever scale, since money is one of the central themes in their life path. Most commonly, 35/8s pull themselves up by their own bootstraps; among them are many self-made millionaires. If they start out wealthy, they have to learn to use their money and influence wisely and with compassion.

Well-Known 35/8s

• James Cagney
• Oliver Stone
• Buddy Holly
• Bob Newhart
• Jack Dempsey
• Normal Vincent Peale

Guidelines and Recommendations

• Combine your billiance with hard work to find success.
• Own your power, but remember your heart.
• Find a focus; keep it practical and grounded.
• Visualize and then put into practice the good you would like to do for others.

Useful Questions

1. Have I done the focused work necessary to achieve abundance in my life?
2. Hav I found abundance and power within?
3. Do I uphold the highest ethical standards in my business agreements and personal life?
4. Do I freely share my feelings with others?

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