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On Self Empowerment
July 19, 2004
"You're fired!"..."You can't fire me! I quit!"

Doing what is best for you is not always the easiest option for many people. Many people tend to put the feelings of others before their own. This practice can lead to feelings of depression, anxiety, and just a lack of self worth. No man or woman can truly make you happy...on their own. If a person is starting from the bottom (depression) and someone else tries their best to make them feel special or happy, chances are the person will remain in that state of depression. It takes an inner initiative to achieve true joy.

Relying on a spouse,friend or acquaintance to constantly dish out compliments in order for you to feel worth something is a really bad idea. Take a second right now to take the J Speezy Self Empowerment Quiz:

How would you feel if:

your best friend came to you with the most serious
attitude and told you that you are extremely unattractive?

your spouse stopped 'telling you' that they love but 'showed it'?

a professors or teacher told you that they don't feel you are smart
enough to be in a certain course?

If, in any of those instances, you imagined yourself feeling sad or angry, you may
not be as strong willed as you think. I have often heard many cases of one partner asking the other "Why don't you tell me you love me?". You would think that at some point they would already know the feelings of their partner. However its possibly more than that.

You will never be your happiest unless you can look into that mirror and tell yourself that you are your own boss and mean it.

-J Speezy


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	Leaving the Past August 15 , 2004 *"Next stop, the future"* We all have memories (who would have thought, eh?). Unfortunately, we don't have much control over which ones we wish to keep, and those we would rather have discarded. Under certain circumstances people may feel that they were responsible for shortcomings in life. Though its a possibility that they were the cause, there's no reason to beat oneself up over it. Lingering questions like "What if I had done this differently" and "Maybe I should have.." will not do any good. Its times like that when you just need to forgive and forget. When no one else is willing to forgive you, forgive yourself and that should definitely serve some justice. On a topic that many can relate to, relationships often leave people stuck in the past. Sometimes, it IS better to just let it go. Holding on to a severely damaged relationship can often cause more pain than just ending it. As they say, "There are other fishes in the sea", which basically means that you can find another. Now don't get me wrong, I too believe in soul mates. Although, when you think about it, why would soul mates break up? The answer is quite simple. They were never soul mates to begin with. My final word on the matter is this: The past isn't the past until you let go. -J Speezy

	On Self Empowerment *July 19, 2004* *"You're fired!"..."You can't fire me! I quit!"* Doing what is best for you is not always the easiest option for many people. Many people tend to put the feelings of others before their own. This practice can lead to feelings of depression, anxiety, and just a lack of self worth. No man or woman can truly make you happy...on their own. If a person is starting from the bottom (depression) and someone else tries their best to make them feel special or happy, chances are the person will remain in that state of depression. It takes an inner initiative to achieve true joy. Relying on a spouse,friend or acquaintance to constantly dish out compliments in order for you to feel worth something is a really bad idea. Take a second right now to take the J Speezy Self Empowerment Quiz: How would you feel if: your best friend came to you with the most serious attitude and told you that you are extremely unattractive? your spouse stopped 'telling you' that they love but 'showed it'? a professors or teacher told you that they don't feel you are smart enough to be in a certain course? If, in any of those instances, you imagined yourself feeling sad or angry, you may not be as strong willed as you think. I have often heard many cases of one partner asking the other "Why don't you tell me you love me?". You would think that at some point they would already know the feelings of their partner. However its possibly more than that. You will never be your happiest unless you can look into that mirror and tell yourself that you are your own boss and mean it. -J Speezy

	On The Better Side (of life) July 18, 2004 *Life is full of ups and downs but the extent of those depends on your mindset.* Life. The dictionary defines it as 'The property or quality that distinguishes living organisms from dead organisms and inanimate matter'. Why should life be defined as a difference?. The only difference worth mentioning is that of leading a 'good life' and leading a 'bad life'. I don't think that there is any one definition that could sum up all the different classifications of 'life'. If 'life' is simply an organism that displays noticeable reaction to heat, then I need to rethink my perception of the word. My own definition of life is this 'The gift given to a soul, from God, that enables a person to have thought and emotion'. My definition is directly related to the term as it is applied to people. A life without emotion is no life at all. Taking things too seriously may will result in an angry mood. Taking things too lightly may result in unruly behavior. The key is to find an balance between the two, simultaneously. Maybe then it will be possibly to achieve true peace. I am a firm believer in living life to its fullest. That doesn't mean to try and do everything there is to do before you pass on, it simply means, try and do everything that is important to you before you pass on. To many people, an important thing to do is to carry on their 'legacy' by producing a child. I feel that way too. I wouldn't want all my memories and experiences to go to waste. I'd rather pass them on. If there was one piece of advice that I could offer everyone, it'd probably have something to do with not being stressed. Anxiety can really take away from a contemplating the order of your papers in the file cabinet back at work. Stay focussed on things that matter most to you. And although lust is a deadly sin, I suggest you acquire a lust for life. -J Speezy

	On Teen Pregnancy July 17, 2004 *Women get pregnant all the time. But what about girls?* Pregnancy is a big issue among teens. Lately I have been hearing a lot of these such instances and it made me think. In all the cases I have come a across the individuals involved didn't mean for it to happen. But then I think to my self 'Why even take the risk'?. Many of them are smart enough to know right from wrong but, as most of us do, they choose the wrong. At least if you are going to do the wrong thing try and do it right. In this case, if you are going to have sex at least where a condom. There are far too many S.T.D's out there not to. As many of you know, AIDS is a leading cause of death in Africa. Adults people are dying. As significant as that is, it still isn't the biggest problem. Children and youth are dying. Children and youth are the future, so I guess it can be looked upon as Africa's future is dying. There are certain actions that have been taken such as the distribution of free condoms and still there are a rebellious bunch who feel they are immune. In closing, teen pregnancy is a serious issue that needs major attention. Better yet, teens need to put major attention on the significance of the issue. -J Speezy