From The Madison Institute Newsletter, Fall Issue, 1894:

          INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE 

by Ruth Smythers Beloved wife of The Reverend L.D. Smythers, Pastor of the Arcadian Methodist Church of the Eastern Regional Conference 
Published in the year of our Lord 1894 Spiritual Guidance Press New York City 

                  INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE 
On the negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride must face for the first time the terrible experience of sex..Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! A selfish husband can easily take advantage of such a bride. 
GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY. Otherwise a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust.   While sex is at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be endured, and has been by women since the beginning of time. It is useless, to suggest the groom forego the sexual initiation. Most men, if not denied, would demand sex almost every day. The wise bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly during the first months of marriage. As time goes by she should make every effort to reduce this frequency. Feigned illness, sleepiness, and headaches are among the wife's best friends in this matter. if used in the late evening about an hour before the husband would normally commence his seduction. Clever wives are ever on the alert for new and better methods of denying and discouraging the amorous overtures of the husband. A good wife should expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a month by the end of the fifth year of marriage. By their tenth anniversary many wives have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all sexual contacts with the husband. And she should keep the quantity of sex as low as possible, the wise bride will limit the kind and degree of sexual contacts. Most men are by nature rather perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in revolting practices.. Nudity, talking about sex, reading stories about sex, viewing photographs and drawings depicting or suggesting sex are the obnoxious habits the male is likely to acquire if permitted. A wise bride's goal::never to allow her husband to see her unclothed body. Sex, while it cannot be prevented, should be practiced only in total darkness. Many women have found it useful to have thick cotton nightgowns for themselves and pajamas for their husbands. They need not be removed during the sex act. Thus, a minimum of flesh is exposed. Once the bride has donned her gown and turned off all the lights, she should lie quietly upon the bed and await her groom. lest he take this as a sign of encouragement. She should let him grope in the dark When he finds her, the wife should lie as still as possible. Bodily motion on her part could be interpreted as sexual excitement by the optimistic husband. The wise wife will allow him to pull the gown up no farther than the waist, and only permit him to open the front of his pajamas to thus make connection. She should be absolutely silent Above all, she should lie perfectly still and never under any circumstances grunt or groan while the act is in progress.