You become most comfortable in situations when the best offense is a good defense.
You seldom act aggressively towards others, but will demonstrate a passive resistance from time to time.
When treated fairly, you can be sound and stable and seen as a dedicated and devoted individual.
You hesitate to say no and will seldom, if ever, attack.
You are rather quiet and modest.
You tend not to show assertiveness and are never domineering or egocentric.
You prefer others to be in the spotlight rather than yourself.
When meeting new people, you may be rather unassuming and mild mannered.
You will be cooperative and easygoing in social groups and family events,
because of an inherent need not to make waves or cause hostility.
You may be well thought of because you rarely antagonize others or rarely want the spotlight.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language,
facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others.
The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior
you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
Because of a need to avoid confrontation, you may not express an opinion.
As a result, you may go along with others, even if you disagree with the activity,
sacrificing your own self-interests to accommodate others.
You would most likely not consider yourself
an extremist on various issues, or in socializing with others.
You do not need to be the center of attention like others,
and in fact may feel rather uncomfortable when in the limelight.
You generally communicate with others in a mild-mannered way.
You do not like to make waves and create disharmony.
As a result, you may defer your own ideas to those of others.
Your style shows you to be a much better listener than many other styles.
You will listen carefully and attend to what others say.
People who are talkative by nature may seek you out
because of the natural audience you provide.
In some new situations you may become somewhat unsure
because of your need to feel secure in most activities.
You will warm up to the new people or event in your own time.
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable.
Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism,
while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement.
Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences.
Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own.
Having a partner who understands and practices
these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Take time during explanations.
Allow time to ask questions.
Plan sufficient time to talk and listen.
Leave plenty of time for socializing and relating.
Be stimulating, fun-loving, and fast-moving.
Be prepared to listen to many stories.
Ask for opinions and ideas.
Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.
Plan interactions which support dreams and goals.
Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.
Following are some of the specific strengths
and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship.
These may form the foundations of many of your friendships
and dealings with other people.
Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others.
Take a moment to reflect on each
and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship.
You are generally good at cooling down tense situations in a relationship.
You like to gather facts and think things over before offering a strong opinion.
You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.
You are skilled at finding "win-win" solutions when conflicts arise.
You are excellent at listening to your partner.
You are optimistic and tend to make others feel good about themselves.
You tend to enjoy life and share that enjoyment with others.
You are usually enthusiastic about activities and planning.
You have an excellent sense of humor and tend to see humor in events spontaneously.
You are socially poised and people-oriented.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
Frequent appreciation.
A predictable environment with few surprises that are not "planned."
Peace and harmony.
Tried, established ways of doing things.
An environment relatively free of conflict.
Activities that may involve friends.
To feel safe and secure in social situations.
Time to react to new ideas and sudden change.
Status quo.
Security for now, and in the future.
Time and opportunity to weigh pros
and cons of decisions.
An environment free from
conflict or hostility.
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