This article is basically about the weird way love works. You watch TV all the time im guessing, and one show that commonly is watched, especially by americans, is "Everybody Loves Raymond". Why do i bring this up? because this is something ive come to realize recently. We watch the show routinely almost and we see that seemingly, Raymond is a prick, picking at the smallest problems all the time, and his wife, Debra does the same. Ive always sat watching and thinking 'Wow, these people are nuts!!!' and today i realized, given the right circumstances any couple can be that way.
An example is me and my girlfriend Krystal. Krystal and i got into a fight the other night about a MSN display picture. As a little background, we have a long distance relationship, and i originally just thought this pic would be a good idea for it to be made known to her friends (guy especially) that shes seeing someone, and someone they dont know.
This started innocently enough, about 6 months i asked her about it and never really gave it a second thought, but recently thought about it again and asked her. She actually did put me as her display pic (stupid, i know) and it made me feel really good. As she always does, she changed her display pic the next day and i began to grow annoyed like "What the hell is so bad about having me on her picture????". About 3 days later (AKA Last night) i asked her about it again. She grew frustrated with the whole thing and im sure we had a 4 hour fight about an MSN display picture.
Why do i bring this up? Because i find it odd how two people in love can have such a dumb f***ing argument about nothing for 4 hours, almost in tears, and go back to loving eachother. Am i saying its bad? no of course not, i just thought it was weird.
I have, however, learned from this experience that dumb fights shouldnt split a couple for 4 hours like it did, there should always be someone who can stop the fight, calm the other down, and move on with life, cos really, is it that important?
Another way i find love is strange is how it turns friends into enemies.
One example of this is a friend of mine, fell for a girl at work. They actually started out on bad terms, got on better. Finally he fell for her and as he was to make his move, another guy took her and she was out of reach. Did he resolve to be her friend? No, he practically hates her again just because love made him feel bitter about her, which is odd dont you think? Im not slandering my friend because ive done the same, i just find it odd how manipulative love is....
Another example is with me and a former good friend, friends for 5 years. I met a girl i was fairly interested in, and my friend swooped in and took her, how many times do we talk now? once a month (on a good month) and its always pretty bitter and it kind of discusts me how we let love get to us in bad ways like this, its pretty horrible actually.
When you find the special someone like i have, its easy to think that love was always pure, and its good to remember that a good love is the most amazing feeling in the world, but when it comes to ruining friendships, before jumping into it, think to yourself is it REALLY worth it???
- Johnny
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