Oh deb
Why did you leave us?
Why did you go?
Why did G-d take you.
From the ones who love you so.
I knew you for 28 years.
They went like a day.
Now I’ll never see your smile
Except on a calendar or a photo
Your pain is over
The cancer is now gone
Taking you from us.
Your pain is over
Ours just began…
For you are not here with us.
To share our hopes dreams desires
To see our children grow
To help in what they should know.
To dance at their weddings to hold the grandkids
So many things …you won't be there for.
I know you wanted to be
A silver haired old women bent over from a lifetime of work
Holding court as a queen in majesty
Everyone asking for your advice
And now all we can say is what would Mom want
What would She say
What would She do
Soon they will forget you, your friends that you loved so
The job that you did not want to let go
But we will not
We will not forget you
We love you always and forever
Till death do us part
Only for a little while
Until we are together again
Your loving husband and children.
There are many stories I remember of my wife my life with Joanne Debbie
Presant Behar. I will try to write them in order but it is hard to
write 27 years of love in order.
I first saw her in feb 1977 in the philosophy class. I would always
walk in a little late or earlier and she would be there, sitting in the
2 row and I would sit behind her and stare at her.
She was beautiful and I said to myself I had to meet her. There was
another guy who would talk to her and I was going out with another girl
in the class. The first day the other guy didn’t show up, I walked over
and introduced myself, offered her a ride home. It was raining and I
drove her home in my mothers old ford, the blue 74 ltd.
She lived in trump village with her mother and her brother. We stopped
for coffee in a dunkin donuts on Emmons ave we talked for a while.
The next time the class met the weather was nice and I offered her a
ride on my motorcycle. She came with me and we went for a ride
eventually we ended up in manhattan next to the cable car to Roosevelt
Island. She loved to walk around the city.
It was there I gave her a kiss, the first kiss on the lips that I loved
so much she had a sweet kiss. I would be lucky to kiss her for 28 years
.I loved to kiss her throughout the years and each kiss always with the
passion of that first one.
We went out with other people for a few weeks but in the middle of may
I realized that she was the one for me. We went for a ride to Limerock,
CT for car races on my motorcycle .We went to west point once and we
rode home riding like lunatics before the thunderstorms.
It was on a Sunday we were sitting outside on crossbay blvd. pizza
city,and we had a argument about something and she was upset . I felt
her slipping away and I made a gamble. I asked to marry me and I hoped
she would say yes.
Thankfully she did. By that friday we were married.When we said to have
and hold in sickness and in health till death do us part I meant
it and so did she but we didn't know how soon or how painful .
Fast forward to fall 2004 we went to a street fair and we parked like
on 32 st. and walked around me, her, and the kids. I bought her a black
and white scarf, for 10 bucks not knowing it would be the last clothing
I would buy for her except for her shroud which I bought her 2 weeks
ago for her burial…. I remember sausage grilling. We walked and talked
and felt almost normal.
Oh deb I cry so for your loss not only for me but for those of us who
were lucky to know you and be blessed by your presence...
This is a poem that I found
God looked around his garden
And he found an empty place,
He then looked dow upon his earth,
And saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you.
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best,
He knew that you were suffering
He knew that you were in pain
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw that the road
Was getting rough
And the hills are hard to climb
So he closed your weary eyelids
And whispered "peace be thine"
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn't go alone
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.