Part II
Written By: Melissa Hsieh
Guys always seem to fall in love with the wrong girls. Well--at least on TV and in the movies and in punk songs. All this moping about the WRONG girl--when the RIGHT girl is right in front of you. (DUH!). Looking at representations of popular culture, the best friend girl is always a little bit less feminine than the girl, always smarter, and always willing to sacrifice her happiness for the guy's. And what's even better than this? The girl they are usually interested in doesn't even know them or think of them in that "boyfriend" way. Like in those punk songs--for some reason, the tortured teenager always falls in love with the popular girl. Well think about it--why would this "popular" girl be interested? Does this eager male even know her outside of the context that she's hot and popular? Probably not. So what does this mean? Sometimes these "loser" guys bring the angst and torment upon themselves. Why do they always whine and gripe about this bitch that turned them down, didn't give them the time of day, that is dating someone far worse than them? Well--that's obvious...because all artists are self-absorbed. Yes. That's right. Wallow in self-pity. And yes--I do love watching these movies and listening to these songs...but at the same time--do you think this actually happens in real life?
In my personal (professional) opinion--it rarely happens that guys figure out that the "girl right in front of them" is "the one." Why? Well frankly because guys are shallow bastards. Unless you pull a "She's All That" or a "Miss Congeniality," then there is little hope that they will realize you in all your blossoming glory. So what's the plan? Give up! Give up on the guy! Who cares if his sorry ass can't figure out that you are great!!! Then he can have time to realize what he's missing blah blah...get my point? And what about all this--letting him be happy with the person he "loves"? I say to that--Bullshit. Why can't we be happy to?! You might as well fight the good fight, and if you lose--then find another guy. That's right. Don't let it get to you. Am I just rambling now? Anyhow--yeah. Don't wait around for the guy to realize you--cuz chances are, he's not.
