How have I dealt with the disconnect between my gender and my faith?

Short answer: I haven't.

Long answer:
    I am a Christian.  I am also a woman who was born with the body of a man
who has, through a number of unfortunate circumstances and poor life
choices, been forced to live the majority of her life-to-date as a man.  I
hear and have read volumes of rhetoric addressing gender issues in religious
terms.  Quite frankly, I don't think I buy any of it.  We (gender alternate
society) make an incredible effort to justify our gender and sexuality
choices in the eyes of Christ - those of us who do not condemn Christianity
(and religion) entirely.
    Yes, I did say choices.  I know first hand that I was born with the
feelings that I have, so in the question of nature versus nurture, I say
nature.  However, we choose how we deal with the things that are inside
us... but I digress.
    I am not a Theologian, but the more I've studied and reflected over the
last couple years, the more I'm coming to think that discussions of gender
and sexuality are not Biblical discussions.  My thought is that questions of
gender and sexuality are some of the greater non-issues involved in
determining what is or is not a Christ-centered and Christ-filled life.  As
I see it, we are measured by our faith in Christ, and it is our faith that
leads us to live in a way that is pleasing to God.  How do we accomplish
that?
    Abiding the Ten Commandments is probably the most straightforward
template.  Pastor Rick Warren also laid pretty solid framework in his book
"A Purpose Driven Life," in which he outlines the five purposes for our
lives in Christ - as he sees them.  It is an excellent resource - in my
opinion.  Neither of these ever suggests I shouldn't be a girl.  There are
countless other resources on Christian living available as well, and few if
any of the reliable ones (that I've seen) ever address gender or sexuality.
I don't think this is an oversight.
    To live a Christ-centered life we must first love Jesus, then others,
then ourselves; and in that love we worship God and do good works.  That has
nothing to do with gender or sexuality - those are earthly concerns.  Does
that mean we shed those things from our lives?
    No, as humans we are imperfect.  We do not shed our sexuality or gender
concerns any more than we shed prime time television or little white lies.
Those are not the things that make us Christian, those are the things that
make us human.  Does that mean we are to be condemned?
    Again, no.  God loves each of us in spite of ourselves, and we shall be
counted by name among his flock so long as we love and worship Him.