Dear Jenni Fbjaksfas,

MY friend the quiet coyote was speaking of resigning his name, now this doesn't seem like a big deal aye? but i feel it would be killing a part of themself... I support them to stay themselves but they are pretty unpredictable. Any thoughts on the matter of resigning a name:-P? --The little zen that could

Dear Little Zen,

Personally, I wouldn't dream of resigning MY name, but if your friend wants to resign their name, by all means, let them. How is this person unpredictable? Do they do things that you wouldn't expect them to? They just might be considering this resignation as a possibility in the future, but considering that you call this person "unpredictable", they might not resign their name. As for it killing a part of them, let them know that it's become part of their personality and that you would like them to keep their name. Show them some positive points on having their name for fun. Good luck with your friend!

Dear Christina,

I have feelings for a girl and i have absolutely no idea what she wants. She told me about a month ago she wasnt ready for a relationship and that she was comfortable around me, but i have no idea where to take things from here. It seems shes never there to talk to and every time she IS home, shes on her way out the door. I want to tell her a million things but never get the chance to get them off my chest. Thankfully, ill be seeing her when i get back to school. What are your thoughts?

--Waltz in the Cloudz

Dear Waltz in the Cloudz,

I think that if she isn�t ready for a relationship, the best thing to do is to just be friends, and not look to take it anywhere but a friendship. If she is never around to talk to you, and you really need to talk to her, next time you get a hold of her, even if she is running out the door, tell her that you need to talk to her about something important, and it would mean a lot to you if she took the time to listen to what you have to say. Most likely she will agree to it, and then you will get your chance to really talk to her. School also helps you to see her, but it creates more problems with people�s busy schedules. I wish you luck, whether it is in pursuing a friendship or a relationship.

Dear Christina,

Hello, I have a question that�s pretty personal to ask, and might be quite tough to answer, so if you don�t have a response, that�s ok...... Anyways, I�ve liked this girl, lets call her Becky, for quite some time now, more than 5 years, I have gone out with her before, and it hasn�t always gone well, and we broke up within a week or two. I really like her, onto the point of love if that�s not to drastic to say, and I think she knows how I feel, I want to go out with her, but if we break up again and her self esteem drops, it will be my fault, and I cant see her like that any longer, because her self esteem is already down in the dumps. Do you have any suggestions on what I should do, I�m extremely confused, and I�ve been looking for help for some time now, and just recently stumbled upon this site. Thanks for even getting to this, thanks even more for a response.

--Disclosed

Dear Disclosed,

I must say, this girl is quite lucky. To say love is one thing, but to actually act upon it, caring about her feelings and her life much more than your own proves it. You would rather have your feelings suffer than hers shows that you really care about her, and she�s lucky for that. The fact that you two have problems in a relationship, and that it ends badly, makes me think that staying very close friends for now would work, at least until you both are sure that you can keep a relationship. Breakups are hard, and they are even worse when you still have feelings for the person and don�t want to break up, but you staying in the relationship is hurting her more. I think you should definitely talk to her about it, especially if she feels the same as you, and come to a mutual decision. If she is willing to take the chance in a relationship again, and you are also, and no blame will be put on either of you if it fails, then it may work. Considering that she has low self-esteem, a relationship may fail because it will put a strain on the relationship. Communication is the key here, and whatever happens, make sure that she knows that you love her. Trust me, it is a self-esteem booster. :o) Good Luck!

Dear Christina,

I have a very difficult, very big problem. Most of it centers around my ex girlfriend. I liked her, well more than liked her, but the feelings sadly weren�t shared. It has taken me a while to get over that, and I�m pretty close to moving on. But know, I�ve been told she has found someone else, and though it doesn�t bother me, it bothers me that she has never said anything to me about it, and when I see them together, they don�t act like it. I�ve had problems before, some were serious, I�ve contemplated suicide, I admit, but this is all so new to me, I guess, I�m just am not looking for an answer, that�s impossible, I just want something that will either ease the pain, or just help me move on. This question is really to anyone, just give me something! Thank you.

--Troubled Youth

Dear Troubled Youth,

Everyone has been in a situation like this before: one feels something more than the other does. It is good that you are moving on, and although it is hard, it is the right thing to do. The fact that she found someone else helps this, even though it is very hard at first to deal with. I think that she was just trying to protect you and your feelings by not telling you that she found someone, for fear of rubbing it in, or just that she doesn�t want to hurt your feelings. Suicide is not the answer here. There are many other people, and just because you suffer a broken heart now, you should not end your life. Things will get better, and the best thing to do is to try to remain friends with her if that helps, or just find other people to be with that make you happy. Being alone all the time just makes you dwell upon the fact that you are alone. She is giving you an open invitation to move on, and knowing that, the best thing to do is to find something to soothe the pain for now, and then look to find someone for yourself. Broken hearts hurt, but they can be mended, they just need time. Hang in there, and good luck. I�m sure you will find someone.

Dear Christina,

Ok well I have a HUGE problem. I�m 17 and I�m friends with a girl I really like. I�ve known her for about 4 years, and I�m sort of ok with just being her friend, since I know that I have no chance with her. Here's the problem. Lately I�ve been getting to know her sister, who is much younger than I am by about 3 years. I am very attracted to her not only physically, but also emotionally. This is a problem because I don�t know if I should act on these feelings. I am afraid that her sister (my close friend) will be weirded out by it, and I don�t know how her parents, or anyone else for that matter, would react to me going out with someone much younger. What do I do?

--The Grey Ghost

Dear The Grey Ghost,

Are you becoming attracted to her younger sister because she just wants to be your friend and not more? Do you think you would have a better chance with her sister? I think this is a tough situation to be in, but I think that acting on these feelings may cause more problems than it�s worth. Is this younger girl interested? If she is interested it is one thing, because three years is not a very large difference, but other than that, I would suggest that you don�t act on these feelings. You may lose two friends, and I think many people would not react to this well. It seems to me that you might just see something in her that you see in her sister that makes you like both of them, and it may not be really what it seems. If you wait this out for a little bit to see if either is interested, you may be able to make a better decision, but personally, I think leaving it as two friendships works, and no �weird� feelings will exist between anyone. Good Luck!

Dear Christina,

Hii! Okay I�m having some trouble; you see, my cousin & best friend, who is my age, lives in Florida. Over this past summer my mom decided she wanted to send me there for a birthday present all by myself so I could hang out with my cousin. So I went, and while I was there I was introduced to all of these new people; like all of the kids that she goes to school with and whatnot. So anyway, I met her one friend Alex who is a year older than me, and when we started talking, I realized how much we have in common. We listen to all of the same music, and we act just like each other. So when I left Florida, I gave him a hug goodbye, and he gave me his screen name and phone number. When I got home I was talking to him online and he said "he wished he could have spent the whole day just sitting there talking to me because I�m so awesome".. I nearly died when he said that.. I started to realize that I really, really like him, even though I only knew him for a short amount of time. In January, ill be moving to Florida, and going to the same school as him. I was wondering, since we are starting to become really good friends, and will soon start too see a lot more of each other, should I tell him I like him? Or should I just leave us as friends because we get along so well.. Please help! Thank you so much =]

--Wondering

Dear Wondering,

I am very happy for you that you met someone that you are such good friends with, and that you like them much more. For the time being, I would suggest that you just be friends with him, considering you still haven�t moved yet. When you get to Florida, I suggest just to scope out the situation for a while, and then you can see what you want to do about it. Don�t bring it up just yet, you don�t want to jeopardize anything before you even move there. If he brings it up and seems interested, don�t worry about holding back. Good Luck!

Dear Christina:

I have quite an issue in my life, and I figured why not get advice from this web site to see what it can do. Okay, first of all, there are two girls in my life. I have a girlfriend and a best friend. I really like them both and before my girlfriend and I were going out I did't know what I should do. Finally, going with my gut instincts I chose my current girlfriend, because I've known her longer and had been very good friends with her and did not want to hurt her. Meanwhile, my best friend still has feelings for me and continues to flirt and persue a relationship with me. Sometimes I just wish she wouldn't interfere, but as I said before I like her a lot also and don't want to make it seem like I'm pushing her away. And eventually things started happening with my best friend that I have felt absolutely guilty about. Right now in my life I am still very confused as to what to do. I don't know what I want, and the last think I want to do is hurt anyone. What do you think is the best thing for me to do? Help!

--A Boy from MA

Dear A Boy from MA,

This question is tough, and I believe many people face this same issue. In order for me to give you advice, I need more information if that is possible. Do you have feelings for your best friend that are more than "just friends"? What exactly happened between you and your best friend? How does your girlfriend feel about this other friend? Is it affecting your relationship? If you don�t want to answer the questions, I can give you some advice based on what is in this question, but it may not all be accurate. It seems like your friend doesn�t understand that you are in a relationship, and that she isn't happy with just being friends. If you want to keep her as a friend and not hurt her, you need to tell her that you two are only friends, and that there can't be anything more because you have a girlfriend. You also need to make it clear to her that you do not have feelings for her... and that means you can't lead her on. Anything that may have happened between you and her was wrong, I won't lie to you and say it wasn't, but she needs to understand that it won't happen again, and you need to make sure that it doesn�t happen again. You can still be friends with her, without pursuing feelings either of you two have. This is all providing that you have feelings for your girlfriend, and your girlfriend only. The second situation is that you do have feelings for the other girl, which will provide you with even more problems, I'm sad to say. If you do have feelings for the other girl, more so than your girlfriend, you can do one of two things. You can either stay with your girlfriend and follow the above advice, which would allow you to keep both, one as only a friend the other as your girlfriend. The other option is to pursue your friend, which can have many consequences. I cannot tell you exactly what will happen, but your current girlfriend will be hurt, therefore, I would suggest that you don�t add insult to injury, and go out with your friend right after breaking up with your current girlfriend. Also, be warned that you may lose your girlfriend as a friend too. You can't have the best of both worlds, and you need to make a decision here. Just remember that there are other people's feelings at stake here, and you need to be considerate and tasteful. They are also emotional girls, and they take things much harder.. be careful. In the meantime, while you are making your decision, make sure nothing else happens between you and your friend. You don't want to make your decision harder, or make the situation worse. Good Luck, and please, let all of us at Jenni Fbjaksfas know how it goes, and feel free to let me help you make your decision easier and give you better advice, by providing me with the other details. :o) Good Luck!!

Dear Christina,

I told my friend about the christmas songs, and now he isn't talking to me. He told me to go @#$% off... what now christina?!

--CapriSun

Dear CapriSun,

How did you tell him to stop? Were you mean about it? The whole point was to be nice, tell him that he annoyed you with his constant singing of "out-of season" songs. I understand that you may be annoyed with him singing, but I don�t think that it is worth losing a friendship over. If you told him how you feel, nicely, respecting his feelings, and he could not accept that, I think that there are more issues than just singing Christmas songs. I think apologizing to him might work, and maybe you can work out a deal that when he starts singing again, you can just look at him or say ahem or something and he will know that it is annoying you. Good Luck!

To anyone who can answer:

Why hasn't my question been answered?

--Impatient

Dear Impatient,

The people at Jenni Fbjaksfas are very busy trying to answer your questions. We will get the answers up as soon as possible. Thanks for your cooperation :o)

Dear Jenni Fbjaksfas,

I have this friend and he is insane about this girl. Problem is she has never talked to him. Recently he said he loved her, and I don't know if i should tell him to move on or actually talk to her... Help Me!

--Confused

What I think your friend should do is to try and talk to this girl he says he loves. If she is completely rude and hurts his feelings, then he should move on because someone who hurts you emotionally is not worth waiting for. You shouldn't tell him to move on unless he knows how this girl feels about him. I don't think that your friend would appreciate being told to move on if he hasn't even talked to her. He should try to talk to her and see if she's worth liking or not. Good luck to you and your friend! =)

Dear Jenni Fbjaksfas,

My friend has a problem with humming christmas songs out of season. Today he was singing jingles bells and it really ticked me off :'( should I tell them?

--CapriSun

Yes, you should nicely tell them that it annoys you, and ask them if they would refrain from doing so when they are around you.

Dear Jenni Fbjaksfas,

Recently I met a guy who I like as more than a friend, but my ex-boyfriend continues to flirt with me. I don't mind keeping him as a friend, but I want to move on. I'm afraid if I keep talking to him and he keeps flirting with me we will go back to where we started. Please help.

--Anonymous

Well stranger it seems to me like an age-old dilemma. There are two things to think of in this situation, 1 who do you see having a future with and 2 are things moving along with the person you like? Has the person you like every deceived you or led you on? Has your ex ever hurt you like this? And about you trying to figure out if you have the same feelings, make sure you know what his feelings are, maybe he is just flirting but I wish you luck.

Dear Jenni Fbjaksfas,

Ok I got this friend... let call her Mimi, and Mimi always thinks she's better than everyone. The perfect, smart girl that Everyone hates except teachers, adults ect. She always does everything. I am kinda hating her and I know all the people she thinks are her friends arent. She's going to my school next year. She lives across the street from me, and everyone that are my friends and her "friends" hate her, but I dont know I don't want to tell her cuz I don't want them mad at me. I dont even really like her but I know what its like to be made fun of. I've moved like 10 times.

--Anonymous Blonde

If you like her, then be her friend. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks no matter if they hate her or not. But, maybe you should talk to her and tell her that maybe she should cool it with the whole "I'm smarter than you" attitude. But I think you should keep good relations with her as long as you want to and that way she won't get hurt.

Dear Jenni Fbjaksfas,

I have this friend that I like as, um, more than a friend. Should I tell him?

--Katelynn

Well I dont know how your relationship is with this person completely. But if your not sure if he likes you too wait a little while and try and figure out if he does. If you already know he likes you then you have to make the decision on if he would take the news well or if he would be creeped out. It all depends on the guy..if you think he likes you and will take the fact that you like him more then a friend well then by all means tell him. If he doesnt seem like he'll take it well wait a while and see how the friendship between you two progresses. All in all if you like him he's probably a good person and will take the news well so I dont see why you shouldnt tell him.