| March 6, 2006 An odd rant on a common topic Do you know why I don't like being single? Not because I'm lonely, or needy, or horny, or incomplete, or sad, or depressed, or angry, or jealous. It's because men tend to disrespect me more when I am single. Sounds bizarre, doesn't it? Think you've never experienced it? You're probably wrong. When a guy starts talking to me and asks if I have a boyfriend, if I respond in the affirmative, he'll generally back off little bit and treat me like a woman who is unavailable- fun to talk with, but off limits. He may ask if it's serious, and when I respond that it is, he'll respect that and my space. It may be because he is dismayed that I am unavailable, but he recognizes that I am committed to another person and does nothing and says nothing that may jeopardize that. Whatever it is, they understand no touchy. On the other hand, if I should respond that I am single, these jerks take it as a sign that I'm open for business or something, apparently. He'll feel free to be crude to me and make vulgar references because a girl without a boyfriend, it seems, should not be offended if someone shows interest in her. He'll undoubtedly suggest we get together and/or "hook up" (again, ew- I'd sooner and safer lick a stranger's foot). If we happened to have met in person, he'll feel free to touch me and invade my bubble. Why should you think it is okay to put your hand on a single girl's knee and not a taken girl's knee, assuming either one is little more than a stranger to you at this point? I'm single. I'm not looking. I'm not a ho. Don't treat me like one. I am a lady, and I do deserve your respect. Just because I'm single, doesn't mean I even want to flirt with you. Gauge the situation and take a fucking hint. Flirting with me like a cheap slut won't get you this booty. Telling me how much you like my booty also won't get you this booty. Don't start a chat just to tell me I'm hot and have a nice rack. I'm a person, not a thing. If there are a hundred single women out there, trust me that definitely less than 99 are on your little "playing field," but you don't really give a damn, do you? Ladies, please tell me I'm not the only one who's experienced this. Men, can you honestly tell me a single woman doesn't deserve the same respect as a married woman? It's a real shame some days that I only have one "You are icky" shirt. |