by: Jaci Jace
So many people seem to be unhappy in life or in unhealthy, destructive type of relationships. I believe the majority of us go through this at some point in time. Life isn't as hard to change as some may think. People can do anything they put their heart, mind and soul into doing. It may take a while to get there, but just think of everything you learn on the way. Everyday that you accomplish something new, whether it be big or small, will make you appreciate life just a little bit more. The reason some people fail is because they are so focused on the final outcome. They want it now and when it seems far from reach, they usually give up. Staying positive and recognizing even the smallest accomplishment of the day will make you feel better and help you realize that you are one step closer to your goal.
Now as far as relationships go, what can you do to make one better? I'm no expert, as I'd have to be in one to actually know! lol But, I am very observant and I've noticed that there are alot of miserable couples out there. I can't even begin to explain why. I've been there and I still have no clue as to why I stayed in it for so long. For me, having this bad experience opened my eyes to relationships in general. What I realized was that some people get out and others stay in them thinking there is no other choice. Well, there is a choice! But, it's not what you may think. If you are out there looking for the one person that will make you happy, you are never going to find him/her. No one can make you happy... YOU make yourself happy! If everyone learned to make themself happy first, than and only than, could you find euphoria. Answer this: Does your significant other make you happy or unhappy? If you answered happy, than there's no reason to keep reading this, right? If you answered unhappy, well, could it be that they are unhappy with themself, so they take it out on you? The world is filled with insecurities, but if we could all get passed that, we would all be much happier. No one is perfect! No one has a perfect face, body, attitude, or anything else. So many women try so hard to look like the supermodels, but I got news for ya... Supermodels are not perfect either. Their life is sometimes sad and lonely. I mean, how miserable would you be if you could never eat! lol I think that women let their insecurities take over their life. Women worry too much about their body or other silly little things. But you know what us women forget sometimes? Men are often insecure too. They just hide it better. Have you ever jokingly called a straight guy GAY? Or told an obviously gorgeous man he was UGLY? Oh Lord! lol His insecurities start to rear their ugly little insecure heads.
Well, so far in life, here are some things I've learned:
1) Every once in a while you should walk up to the one you're with, rest your hand gently on their cheek, look them straight in the eyes and whisper softly, "you are so extemely beautiful in and out and I cherish you every moment". The thing is, we sometimes take the one we love for granted and forget to let them know how we feel about them. **cough**cough** And if they read my first commentary, they know if they don't get it from you, to go to your bestfriend for a little "extracurricular" activity! lol
2) It makes a person feel good if you smile at them. Like they say, "Smiles are contagious"! It will make your day much better, as well, if they smile back. If they don't smile back, it will make your day much better if you go over and smack them upside the head! lol Either way, you win!
3) Don't worry so much about your flabby parts. Things were meant to jiggle! lol But seriousy, if the person you're with didn't find you attractive, they wouldn't be with you. If they love you, they love ALL of you.
4) Don't try to change anyone, because that means you don't really love them...so let them go. They end up wandering anyway...Probably with your bestfriend **see above**lol
5) Don't be afraid to be alone, because you will never be alone unless you shut yourself out. It's your life...your choice! Once you find that inner peace and love, anything is possible.
All the dreams you have can come true if you just believe in yourself. You may get hurt every now and again, but it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, right!?! Just remember, your dreams are not just dreams... They are your goals and nothing in life is too far from reach!
Until next time....
Yours truly,
~Jaci
