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In Islam there is absolutely no difference between men and women
as far as their relationship to God is concerned, as both are
promised the same reward for good conduct and the same
punishment for evil conduct. The Qur'an says: And for women are
rights over men similar to those of men over women. (2:226)
The Qur'an, in addressing the believers, often uses the
expression,'believing men and women' to emphasize the equality
of men and women in regard to their respective duties, rights,
virtues and merits. It says:
For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for
devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women
who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble
themselves, for men and women who give in charity,
for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their
chastity, and for men and women who engage much in God's praise,
for them has God prepared forgiveness and great reward. (33:35)
This clearly contradicts the assertion of some the Christian
Fathers that women do not possess souls and that they will exist
as sexless beings in the next life. The Qur'an says that women
have souls in exactly the same way as men and will enter
Paradise if they do good :
Enter into Paradise, you and your wives, with delight. (43:70)
Who so does that which is right, and believes, whether male or
female, him or her will We quicken to happy life. (16:97)
The Qur'an admonishes those men who oppress or ill-treat women:
O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against
their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you
may take away part of the dowry you have given them - except
when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary
live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take
a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and God
will bring about through it a great deal of good. (4:19)
Considering the fact that before the advent of Islam the pagan
Arabs used to bury their female children alive, make women dance
naked in the vicinity of the Ka'ba during their annual fairs,
and treat women as mere chattels and objects of sexual pleasure
-- possessing no rights or position whatsoever, these teachings
of the Noble Qur'an were revolutionary. Unlike other religions,
which regarded women as being possessed of inherent sin and
wickedness, and men as being possessed of inherent virtue and
nobility, Islam regards men and women as being of the same
essence created from a single soul. The Qur'an declares: O
mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a
single person, created, of like nature, his mate, and from this
pair scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence
God, through
Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and reverence the wombs
(that bore you); for God ever watches over you. (4:1)
The Prophet of Islam, peace be upon him, said, "Women are the
twin halves of men". The Qur'an emphasizes the essential unity
of men and women in a most beautiful simile:
They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for
them. (2:187)
Just as a garment hides our nakedness, so do husband and wife,
by entering into the relationship of marriage, secure each
other's chastity. The garment gives comfort to the body; so does
the husband find comfort in his wife's company and she in his.
"The garment is the grace, the beauty, the embellishment of the
body, so too are wives to their husbands as their husbands are
to them." Islam does not consider woman "an instrument of the
Devil", but rather the Qur'an calls her muhsana - a fortress
against Satan because a good woman, by marrying a man, helps him
keep to the path of rectitude in his life. It is for this reason
that marriage was considered by the Prophet Muhammad, peace be
upon him, as a most virtuous act. He said: "When a man marries,
he has completed one half of his religion." He enjoined
matrimony on Muslims by saying: "Marriage is part of my way and
whoever keeps away from my way is not from me (i.e. is not my
follower)." The Qur'an has given the raison d'être of marriage
in the following words:
And among His signs is this, that He has created for you mates
from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with
them; and He has put love and mercy between you. Verily in that
are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)
The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was full of praise for
virtuous and chaste women. He said: "The world and all things in
the world are precious but the most precious thing in the world
is a virtuous woman." He once told the future Caliph, 'Umar:
"Shall I not inform you about the best treasure a man can hoard?
It is a virtuous wife who pleases him whenever he looks towards
her, and who guards herself when he is absent from her." On
other occasions the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: "The best
property a man can have is a remembering tongue (i.e. which
remembers God), a grateful heart and a believing wife who helps
him in his faith." And again: "The world, the whole of it, is a
commodity and the best of the commodities of the world is a
virtuous wife." Before the advent of Islam women were often
treated worse than animals. The Prophet wanted to put a stop to
all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He
told the Muslims: "Fear God in respect of women." And: "The best
of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim
must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad
quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:
"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more
perfect in faith he is." The Prophet, peace be upon him, was
most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their
women when he delivered his famous sermon (Arabic: khutba on the
Mount of Mercy, at Arafat, in the presence of one hundred and
twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there
for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered
those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to
come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear God regarding women. Verily you have married them with the
trust of God, and made their bodies lawful with the word of God.
You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over
you in respect of their food and clothing according to your
means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She
can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is
entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as
sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her
husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an
irrational prejudice against their female children whom they
used to bury alive. The Messenger of God, peace be upon him, was
totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting
their female children would act as a screen for them against the
fire of Hell:
It is narrated by the Prophet's wife, 'A'isha, that a woman
entered her house with two of her daughters. She asked for
charity but 'A'isha could not find anything except a date, which
was given to her. The woman divided it between her two daughters
and did not eat any herself. Then she got up and left. When the
Prophet, peace be upon him, came to the house, 'A'isha told him
about what had happened and he declared that when this woman was
brought to account (on the Day of Judgment) about her two
daughters, they would act as a screen for her from the fires of
Hell.
The worst calamity for a woman is when her husband passes away
and, as a widow, the responsibility of maintaining the children
falls upon her. In the Eastern World, where a woman does not
always go out to earn her living, the problems of widowhood are
indescribable. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, upheld
the cause of widows. Most of his wives were widows. In an age
when widows were rarely permitted to remarry, the Prophet
encouraged his followers to marry them. He was always ready to
help widows and exhorted his followers to do the same. Abu
Hurairah reported that the Prophet said: "One who makes efforts
(to help) the widow or a poor person is like a mujahid (warrior)
in the path of God, or like one who stands up for prayers all of
the the night and fasts all of the day."
Woman as mother commands great respect in Islam. The Noble
Qur'an speaks of the rights of the mother in a number of verses.
It enjoins Muslims to show respect to their mothers and serve
them well even if they are still unbelievers. The Prophet, peace
be upon him, states emphatically that the rights of the mother
are paramount. Abu Hurairah reported that a man came to the
Messenger of God, peace be upon him, and asked: "O Messenger of
God, who is the person who has the greatest right on me with
regards to kindness and attention?" He replied, "Your mother."
"Then who?" He replied, "Your mother." "Then who?" He replied,
"Your mother." "Then who?" He replied, "Your father."
In another tradition, the Prophet advised a believer not to join
the war against the Quraish (i.e. the pagan disbelievers at that
time) in defense of Islam, but to look after his mother, saying
that his service to his mother would be a cause for his
salvation. Mu'awiyah, the son of Jahimah, reported that Jahimah
came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, and said: "Messenger of
God! I want to join the fighting (in the path of God) and I have
come to seek your advice." He said, "Then remain in your
mother's service, because Paradise is under her feet."
The Prophet's followers accepted his teachings and brought about
a revolution in their social attitude towards women. They no
longer considered women as a mere chattels, but as an integral
part of society. For the first time women were given the right
to have a share in inheritance. In the new social climate, women
rediscovered themselves and became highly active members of
society rendering useful service during the wars which the pagan
Arabs forced on the emerging Muslim umma. They carried
provisions for the soldiers, nursed them, and even fought
alongside them if it was necessary. It became a common sight to
see women helping their husbands in the fields, carrying on
trade and business independently, and going out of their homes
to satisfy their needs.
'A'isha reported that Saudah bint Zam'ah went out one night. 'Umar
saw her and recognized her and said, "By God, O Saudah, why do
you not hide yourself from us?" She went back to the Prophet,
peace be upon him, and told him about it while he was having
supper in her room, and he said: "It is permitted by God for you
to go out for your needs." The predominant idea in the teachings
of Islam with regard to men and women is that a husband and wife
should be full-fledged partners in making their home a happy and
prosperous place, and that they should be loyal and faithful to
one another, and genuinely interested in each other's welfare
and the welfare of their children. A woman is expected to
exercise a humanizing influence over her husband and to soften
the sternness inherent in his nature. A man is enjoined to
educate the women in his care so that they cultivate the
qualities in which they, by their very nature, excel.
These aspects were much emphasized by the Prophet, peace be upon
him. He exhorted men to marry women of piety and women to be
faithful to their husbands and kind to their children. He said:
"Among my followers the best of men are those who are best to
their wives, and the best of women are those who are best to
their husbands. To each of such women is set down a reward
equivalent to the reward of a thousand martyrs. Among my
followers, again, the best of women are those who assist their
husbands in their work, and love them dearly for everything,
save what is a transgression of God's laws."
Once Mu'awiyah asked the Prophet, peace be upon him: "What are
the rights that a wife has over her husband?" The Prophet, peace
be upon him, replied: "Feed her when you take your food, give
her clothes to wear when you wear clothes, refrain from giving
her a slap on the face or abusing her, and do not separate from
your wife, except within the house." Once a woman came to the
Prophet, peace be upon him, with a complaint against her
husband. He told her: "There is no woman who removes something
to replace it in its proper place, with a view to tidying her
husband's house, but that God sets it down as a virtue for her.
Nor is there a man who walks with his wife hand-in-hand, but
that God sets it down as a virtue for him; and if he puts his
arm round her shoulder in love, his virtue is increased
tenfold." Once he was heard praising the women of the tribe of
Quraish, saying: " . . . because they are the kindest to their
children while they are infants and because they keep a careful
watch over the belongings of their husbands."
The Shari'ah (Islamic Law) regards women as the spiritual and
intellectual equals of men. The main distinction it makes
between them is in the physical realm based on the equitable
principle of fair division of labor. It allots the more
strenuous work to the man and makes him responsible for the
maintenance of the family. It allots the work of managing the
home and the upbringing and training of children to the woman,
work which has the greatest importance in the task of building a
healthy and prosperous society.
It is a fact, however, that sound administration within the
domestic field is impossible without a unified policy. For this
reason the Shari'ah requires a man, as head of the family, to
consult with his family and then to have the final say in
decisions concerning it. In doing so he must not abuse his
prerogative to cause any injury to his wife. Any transgression
of this principle involves for him the risk of losing the favor
of God, because his wife is not his subordinate but she is, to
use the words of the Prophet, peace be upon him, 'the queen of
her house', and this is the position a true believer is expected
to give his wife. In contrast to these enlightened teachings of
Islam in respect of women, Western talk of women's liberation or
emancipation is actually a disguised form of exploitation of her
body, deprivation of her honor, and degradation of her soul!
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