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Gradually the Muslims who remained in Mecca left the city and
traveled to Medina to join their beloved Prophet, and amongst
them was a little girl called 'A'isha, the daughter of Abu Bakr.
Soon after arriving in Medina, 'A'isha, who was now nine years
old, as married to the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him), who was now fifty-four years old. It was at
this point that she left her family's household and joined that
the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).
'A'isha later reported that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) had told her that Jibril came to
him and showed him a picture of her on a piece of green silk and
said, "She is your wife in this world and in the next world."
About her wedding, she related that shortly before she was to
leave her parents' house, she slipped out into the courtyard to
play with a friend. "I was playing on a seesaw and my long
streaming hair became disheveled," she said. "They came and took
me from my play and made me ready." They dressed her in a
wedding dress made from fine red striped cloth from Bahrain and
then her mother took her to the newly built house where some
women of the Ansar were waiting outside the door. They greeted
her with the words, "For good and for happiness, may all be
well." Then, in the presence of the smiling Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) a bowl of milk was brought. The
Prophet drank from it himself and then offered it to 'A'isha.
She shyly declined it, but when he insisted she drink as well
and then offered the bowl to her sister Asma' who was sitting
beside her. The others who were present also drank from it, and
that was all there was to the simple and solemn occasion of
their wedding.
Her marriage to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) did not change 'A'isha's playful ways, and her young
friends continued to regularly come to visit her in her own
room. "I would be playing with my dolls," she once said, 'with
the girls who were my friends, and the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) would come in and they would
slip out of the house and he would go out after them and bring
them back, for he was pleased for my sake to have them there."
Sometimes he would say, "Stay, where you are," before they had
time to leave, and would also join in their games. "One day," 'A'isha
said, "the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
came in when I was playing with my dolls and said, "'A'isha,
whatever game is this?' 'It is Solomon's horses,' I replied, and
he laughed." On another occasion, during the days of the Id al
Adha, two young girls were with 'A'isha in her room, singing a
song about the famous battle of Bu'ath and beating a duff in
time. "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) came in," said 'A'isha, 'and lay down with his face
turned away. Then Abu Bakr came, and scolded me, saying, 'What
is this musical instrument of Shaytan doing in the house of the
Messenger of Allah?' The Messenger of Allah turned towards him
and said, 'Leave them alone, for these are the days of the
'Id.'"
After a while, 'A'isha asked the girls to leave, and the Prophet
asked 'A'isha whether she would like to watch the Abyssinians
who were giving a fighting display with their weapons in the
mosque and she said yes. "By Allah," said 'A'isha, "I remember
the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) standing at the door of my room, screening me with his
cloak, so that I could see the sport of the Abyssinians as they
played with their spears in the mosque of the Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). He kept standing for
my sake until I had enough and then I went back in, so you can
well imagine how a young girl enjoyed watching this display."
Some might have viewed the marriage of Muhammad and 'A'isha as
an exceptional marriage, but then the two partners were
exceptional people. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) was the last of the Prophets and the best of
creation; and 'A'isha was a very intelligent and observant young
girl with a very good memory. 'A'isha (may Allah be pleased with
her) spent the next nine years of her life with the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and she grew into
womanhood, she remembered all that she saw and heard with great
clarity, for to be the wife of the Prophet was even more than
extraordinary. So much happened around him - the Quran continued
to be revealed, ayat by ayat, and people's hearts were
constantly being turned over and transformed, including hers and
she was a witness of so much of all that took place. It is not
surprising, therefore, that a great deal of the knowledge that
we still have today, about how our beloved Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) lived and behaved, was first
remembered and then taught to others by 'A'isha. It is thanks to
this exceptional marriage, between a man nearing the end of his
life and a woman still near the beginning of hers, that we know
so much about the both of them, and this is what makes it so
much easier for those who wish to follow in their footsteps to
try and follow their example.
Whereas Khadijah was already a wise and mature woman when she
married the Prophet Muhammad, 'A'isha was a spirited young girl
who still had a great deal to learn when she married the
Prophet, (may Allah be pleased with her, and peace be upon him)
she was very quick to learn, however, for she had a clear heart,
and a quick mind and an accurate memory. She was not afraid to
talk back in order to find out the truth or make it known, and
whenever she beat someone else in argument, the Prophet would
smile and say, "She is the daughter of Abu Bakr!" Musa ibn Talha
once said, "I have not seen anyone more eloquent than 'A'isha."
'A'isha (may Allah be pleased with her) became so wise that one
of her contemporaries used to say that if the knowledge of 'A'isha
were placed on one side of the scales that of all other women on
the other, 'A'isha 's side would outweigh the other. She used to
sit with the other women and pass on the knowledge that she had
received from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) and long after he had died, and as long as she lived, she
was a source of knowledge and wisdom for both women and men. Abu
Musa once said, "Whenever a report appeared doubtful to us, the
Companions of the Prophet, and we asked 'A'isha about it, we
always learned something from her about it."
On one occasion, the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said to her, "O 'A'isha, here is Jibril
giving you greetings of peace." "And on him be peace." She said,
'and the mercy of Allah." When she was telling Abu Salamah about
this, she added, "He (meaning the Prophet Muhammad (peace be
upon him) ) sees what I do not see." As well as being extremely
intelligent, 'A'isha became a very graceful young woman. When
she first came to live in the Prophet's household as a young
girl, a strong and lasting friendship grew up between her and
Sawdah, and Sawdah took care of her along with the rest of the
household. When 'A'isha grew up, Sawdah, who was by then an old
woman, gave up her share of the Prophet's time in favor of 'A'isha
and was content to manage his household and be Umm al Mumineen -
'The Mother of the Believers' - a title of respect that was
given to all of the wives of the Prophet, (may Allah be pleased
with them), which confirmed what the Quran clearly states that
no man could marry any of them after they had been married to
the Prophet for:
The Prophet is closer to the believers than their ownselves, and
his wives are as their mothers. (Qur'an: 33:6)
O you wives of the Prophet, if any of you is openly indecent,
the punishment for her will be doubled - and that is easy for
Allah. And whoever of you submits to Allah and His Messenger has
right action, We shall give her a reward twice over and We have
prepared a generous provision for her. O you wives of the
Prophet, you are not like any other women. If you are fearful of
Allah then do not be soft in yspeech, lest someone whose heart
is sick is attracted to you, but speak words that are wise. And
stay quietly in your houses, do not make a dazzling display like
that of the time of ignorance before and establish prayer and
pay the Zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger. Surely Allah
wishes to remove impurity far from you, O People of the House,
and to purify you completely. And remember that ayahs of Allah
that are recited in your houses and the wisdom. Surely Allah is
All Pervading, All Aware. (Quran 33:30-34)
It is sometimes difficult to picture what life must have been
like for the wives and the Companions of the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) because the light that emanated
from him and through them was so unique. The Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had no shadow because
he was light and this light illuminated the hearts and minds and
understanding of his followers, giving them insight without
blinding them. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) was truly a mercy to all the worlds, and no
one with a clean heart could possibly forget this, least of all
the Prophet himself.
O Prophet, surely We have sent you as a witness and as a bringer
of good news and a warner; and one who calls the people to Allah
by His permission, and as a shining light. (Quran 33:45-46)
It is said that people were awed by the Prophet Muhammad (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him) when they were in his
presence, and that they sat and listened to his words with their
eyes lowered, as if they had birds perched on their heads, and
that they would do anything for him, so great was their love for
him. It was because of the perfection of the Prophet Muhammad
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that everyone was
commanded to ask blessings on him:
Allah and His angels pray blessings on the Prophet; O you who
believe! Pray blessings of him and ask for peace for him. (Quran
33:56)
It was because of the Prophet Muhammad's unique station with
Allah that his wives and his Companions were expected by Allah
to behave with such respect and courtesy towards the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him); and that
his wives could not possibly marry anyone else after having been
married to him:
When you ask his wives for something, ask them from behind a
screen. That is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. It
is not for you to cause injury to the Messenger of Allah, or
ever marry his wives after him. To do that would be something
dreadful in the sight of Allah. (Quran 33:53)
During the nine years that 'A'isha was married to the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) she
witnessed many of the great events that shaped the destiny of
the first Muslim community of Madina al Munawarra: It was during
the course of their marriage that she direction of the qibla was
changed from Jerusalem to Mecca, thereby more clearly
distinguishing the Muslims from the Jews and the Christians, and
it was during the course of their marriage that she must have
listened to many of the Jews and the Christians an the idol
worshippers who came not to listen to the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) but to argue with him, in the
hope that they could find a plausible excuse to justify their
rejection of him. It was through exchange such as these that 'A'isha
learned to distinguish what was true from what was false. As the
prophetic guidance continued to be revealed through the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), 'A'isha's
way of life - along with that of all the Muslims - was gradually
reshaped and refined: It was during the course of their marriage
that drinking alcohol was finally forbidden, that it was made
clear what food was halal and what food was haram, that it
became necessary for women to wear the hijab in public and when
praying, that the guidance as to how to fast was revealed, that
paying the Zakat became obligatory on all Muslims, and that all
rites of the hajj were purified and clarified.
In fact every aspect of life, from birth to death and everything
that happens in between, was illuminated by the way in which the
Prophet behaved - and it was this way of behavior, the Sunna,
that 'A'isha helped to preserve and protect, not only by
embodying it herself, but also by teaching it to others. 'A'isha
was once asked to describe the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him), and she replied that he was 'the Quran
walking', meaning that his behavior was the Quran translated
into action. She did all that she could to do likewise. Thus she
not only knew and embodied the Sunna, but also she memorized the
Quran by heart and understood it. It was during the course of
their marriage that, amongst others, the battles of Badr, and
Uhud, and Al-Khandaq (the Ditch) were fought. These were the
three major battles against the Quraish, that shifted the
balance of power out of the hands of the kafirun and into the
hands of the Muslims. Although she was still very young, 'A'isha
participated in them all, bringing water for the Muslims
warriors, and helping to look after the wounded. She witnessed
life, and she witnessed death - both in the way of Allah and in
the way of the kafirun - and she understood both. Indeed one of
the meanings of her name, 'A'isha', is 'life'.
It was during the course of their marriage that the Jews plotted
and tried to kill the Prophet on more than one occasion, without
success, and were punished for this. First the Banu Qayunqa and
then the Banu Nadir were expelled from Medina; and then Banu
Quraydha - who had broken their agreement with the Muslims
during the battle of al-Khandaq and conspired to exterminate all
of them - were subjected to the punishment that was decided by
the man whom they themselves had chosen to judge their actions,
Sa'id ibn Mu'adh. In accordance with the commands contained in
their own book, the Torah, all the men were killed - with the
exception of four who accepted Islam and all the women and
children were taken as slaves. It was after this event that
another tribe, the Banu al Mustaliq began to prepare to fight
the Muslims, and accordingly the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) led an army against them. Often when the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) went to war,
he took one of his wives with him. He did not choose anyone in
particular, but simply drew lots and took the wife whose name
came out. When he went to fight the Banu al-Mustaliq, the lot
fell to 'A'isha, and she it was who traveled with him.
'A'isha who was now thirteen years old, was small, slim, and
graceful, so that it was difficult for the men who carried her
litter to know for certain whether or not she was actually
inside it when they lifted it up. On the way back to Medina,
after the Banu al Mustaliq had been subdued, the Muslim army
stopped for a rest, but then the Prophet unexpectedly ordered
the army to continue the march back. Unknown to everyone else, 'A'isha
had stepped out of her litter for a few minutes and had left the
camp, seeking some privacy. On her way back she had noticed that
her onyx necklace was missing and so she retraced her steps to
try and find it. When she had at last found it finally returned
to the camp, it was to find that everyone had gone. The men who
had been carrying her litter had thought she was still in it,
and had picked it up, strapped it to the camel and marched on. 'A'isha,
who trusted completely in Allah, sat down, and waited, hoping
that someone would notice her absence and come back for her.
Fortunately she did not have long to wait, for a young Muslim
man named Safwan ibn al-Mu'attal, who had fallen behind the army
after taking a rest, reached the camp during the night and found
her lying fast asleep. Safwan immediately recognizing her,
because he had seen her in the early days before Allah had
commanded Muslim women to wear the hijab.
"Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un!" - "Surely we come from
Allah and surely to Him we return!" he exclaimed in surprise,
waking 'A'isha up with the loudness of his voice. He did not say
anything else, and made his camel kneel down close to her so
that she could climb up on to it; and then, leading the camel
with his hand, he set off on foot after the army, hoping that
they would soon catch up with it which they eventually did later
the next morning, since the army had halted for a rest during
the hottest part of the day. Unfortunately, some hypocrites who
had seen Safwan and 'A'isha arrive alone together began to
gossip and spread slanderous lies about them. Eventually the
story reached the Prophet himself (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) and by then the whole community was talking about
what might or might now have happened before the two young
Muslims. Naturally the muminun were certain that nothing bad had
happened, but the munafiqun thought otherwise and were not
afraid to insinuate that was the case.
As a result of all this gossip, the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) and his household came under a great
strain, and in fact 'A'isha herself fell ill, not because she
was aware of what the hypocrites were saying about her, but
because the Prophet did not seem to care for her as much as he
had done before the campaign against the Banu al Mustaliq.
Finally, someone told her what some people were saying. This
made 'A'isha even more ill, so with the Prophet's permission,
she went to stay at the house of her parents. When she arrived,
she said to her mother, Umm Ruman, "Mother! What are the people
saying?" She replied "O my daughter! Do not make too much of the
business. By Allah, seldom has there been a woman of beauty with
a husband who loves her and who has co wives but that people say
a lot against her." A'isha said, "Glory be to Allah! The people
have really been saying this?" 'A'isha said, "I have spent the
entire night until morning unable to stop weeping and could not
sleep at all. Morning found me still weeping." In the meantime,
when Safwan was confronted with the allegations that had been
made, he replied, "Glory be to Allah! By Allah, I have never
removed the veil of any woman!" Since there had been no
revelation to clarify the matter, the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) asked Barira, who was 'A'isha's
maid servant, if she had seen anything in 'A'isha' s behavior
that was at all doubtful. "By Him who sent you with the truth,"
she replied, "I have not seen nothing wrong with her, other than
that she is a young girl and sometimes she falls asleep while
she is kneading the dough and a lamb comes along and eats it!"
Some of the companions who were present scolded Barira and told
her to come to the point. "Glory be to Allah!" she replied. "I
know as much about her as a jeweler knows about a piece of pure
gold!"
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) also
asked Zainab bint Jahsh for her opinion, since he valued it
highly. Although she and A'isha were frequently at odds with one
another and Zaynab's sister Hamana, was the one of those who
were actively gossiping and spreading the rumor, she replied
without hesitation, "O Messenger of Allah," she said, "I will
not repeat anything that I have not heard with my own ears and
seen with my own eyes. By Allah, I find nothing in her but
goodness."
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then
tried to vindicate A'isha's honor by calling everyone to the
mosque and publicly defending her reputation, but the hypocrites
who had started the trouble in the first place only made matter
worse, so that arguments broke out all over the mosque, and
people had almost come to blows over the matter before the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) calmed them
down and silenced them.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then came
to Abu Bakr's house, where A'isha had been crying her heart out,
and in the presence of her parents said the shahada, and then
continued, "If you are innocent, then Allah Himself will protect
your honor, and if by accident there has been a lapse on your
part, then seek the forgiveness of Allah and He will pardon you,
for when a slave admits a fault and turns to Him in repentance,
then Allah also turns and accepts that repentance."
A'isha said, "When the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) finished what he was saying, my tears
stopped so that I was not aware of a single tear. I said to my
father, 'Answer the Messenger of Allah for me regarding what he
has said.' He said, 'By Allah, I do not know what to say to the
Messenger of Allah,' I said to my mother, 'Answer the Messenger
of Allah for me regarding what he has said.' She said, 'By
Allah, I do not know what to say to the Messenger of Allah.'"
A'isha said, "I am a young girl who does not yet recite much of
the Qur'an. By Allah, I know that you have heard this story that
people are saying and it has become fixed in yourself and you
have believed it. If I were to say to you that I am innocent,
you would not believe me. If I were to confess to something to
you and Allah knows that I am innocent you would believe me. By
Allah, I can only say what the father of Yusuf said, Patience is
beautiful, and Allah is my protection against what you describe.
(Quran 12:18)" Then I turned over on my bed, Allah knowing that
I was innocent and hoping that Allah would proclaim me innocent.
However, by Allah, I did not think that any revelation would be
sent down regarding me. I thought too little of myself that
something would be said in the Qur'an regarding me, however I
hoped that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) would have a dream in which Allah would exonerate
me. She had hardly finished speaking when the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) received a direct revelation of
some more ayahs of the Qur'an, and when it was over, he smiled
and said, "Do not worry, 'A'isha, for Allah has revealed proof
of your innocence."
A'isha's mother, who had been standing next to her, said, "Get
up and thank him."
"By Allah," exclaimed A'isha, whose title, 'Siddiqa', means 'the
truthful one', "I will not thank him and praise him but rather
Allah Who has given the revelation that has protected my honor!"
Then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) went
to the mosque and recited what had just been sent down:
Surely those who fabricate the lie are a group from among you.
Do not think it is bad thing for you; no it is good for you.
Every man will receive what he has earned for this sin, and
whoever had the greater part in it will have a great punishment.
Why did the men and women believers, when they heard it, not
think good in their selves and say: 'This is clearly a lie?' Why
did they not produce four witnesses? Since they did not produce
witnesses, they are certainly liars in the sight of Allah. If it
were not for the grace of Allah, and His mercy on you in this
world and in the next world, an awful doom would have overtaken
you for what you repeated. Since you received it with your
tongues, and repeated what you did not know anything about with
your mouths, you thought it was a trifle, but in the sight of
Allah it is serious. Why, when you heard it, did you not say:
'It is not for us to repeat this, Glory be to You (O Allah),
this is a serious rumor.' Allah warns you to never repeat
anything like this again, if you are indeed believers and Allah
makes the signs clear to you; and Allah is Knowing, Wise. Surely
those who love to spread around slander about those who believe
will have a painful punishment in this world and in the next
world; and Allah knows and you do not know. (Quran 24:11-19).
A'isha forgave those who had let themselves be caught in the
slander and in later years would not hear anything bad said
about them. The fact that A'isha' s honor and reputation had
been protected by a revelation from Allah could not be ignored
by anyone, and from then on everyone was more aware of her high
station with Allah. It was also during the course of A'isha's
marriage with the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) that the Muslim community expanded so rapidly that
Mecca was eventually conquered by the Muslim army, and
preparations were made for the first of the many battles that
were successfully fought against the Greeks and the Persians
after the letters from Muhammad inviting Heraclius and Choroes
to embrace Islam and worship Allah alone had been contemptuously
ignored.
This extraordinary expansion - even the idea of which would, at
the time of Khadijah' s death (may Allah be pleased with her)
have seemed like a wild dream was heralded, in 6 AH, by the
treaty of Hudaybiyya, by virtue of which peace was declared
between the Quraish and the Muslims for ten years, and the right
of the Muslims to enter Mecca and do 'umra unharmed was
recognized by the Quraish.
Although the Muslims had to wait for a year before they could do
umra, that year was not long in passing, and in the interval the
Jews of Khaybar, who like the other Jews around Madina had
attempted to destroy the Muslim community by breaking their
peace agreement with the Muslims and supporting the idol
worshippers were fought and defeated. After the Jews of Khaybar
had been defeated, a Jewess managed to serve the Prophet some
poisoned meat, which itself informed him that it had been
poisoned, so that he only had a small taste of it. Even though
one of his companions who had already eaten some of the meat
subsequently died, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) forgave the Jewess and let her go free.
The Jews of Khaybar were permitted to stay on their land
provided that they paid a yearly tribute to the Muslims. As a
result, some of the Muslims began to grow more wealthy than they
had been in the past. Indeed on one occasion, the Prophet's
wives, led by 'A'isha and Hafsah, asked him for some money that
he did not have for there was never one night that he lay down
to sleep with any money in his possession. The Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him) was distressed by this not
because he did not have the money to give to them, but rather
because it was this that apparently they desired.
At this time, both Abu Bakr and Umar visited him and they found
the Messenger of Allah seated, surrounded by his wives who were
all silent. Abu Bakr said to himself, "By Allah, I will say
something to cheer up the Messenger of Allah!' So he said,
"Messenger of Allah, if I were to see the daughter of Kharija
asking me for money, I would strike her on the neck!" The
Messenger of Allah smiled and said, 'These ones you see around
me have asked me for money." So Abu Bakr went to grab A'isha and
Umar went to grab Hafsah, both exclaiming, "Do you ask the
Messenger of Allah for something he does not have!" The women
said, "By Allah, we would never ask the Messenger of Allah for
something he does not have!"
This was not the only marital problem which he experienced at
this time. There was a great deal of rivalry between some of the
wives and also Hafsah had told A'isha something which the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had told her
not to disclose because it was something which would increase
the friction between the wives. Some sources say that he had
told her that Abu Bakr and Umar would rule after him. In any
case, he stayed away from them for a whole month, during which
many of his Companions began to think either that he was going
to divorce them or that he had already done so.
It is related by Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that he
went to visit the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) who was staying alone in a small upper room, in order to
find out what was happening. First of all he visited his
daughter Hafsah, who was weeping, and asked her if the Prophet
had divorced his wives. "I don't know," she sobbed. Then he went
and asked to see the Prophet. After he had been given permission
to enter, Umar climbed up the ladder and into the small room: "I
visited Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) and he was lying on a mat. I saw down and he drew up his
lower garment over him. He had nothing else on, and the mat had
left its marks on his sides. I looked around at what stores
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
had, and saw only a handful of barley equal to one sa' and an
equal amount of mimosa leaves in the corner of the room and
tanned leather bag handing nearby, and I as moved to tears. He
said, 'Ibn al Khattab, what is making you cry?' I replied, 'O
Messenger of Allah, how can I not cry? This mat has left marks
on your sides and I can only see what I have seen of your
stores. Caesar and Chosroes are leading their lives of plenty,
while you are the Messenger of Allah, His Chosen One, and look
what you have!' 'Ibn al Khattab,' he answered, 'isn't it enough
for you that for us there is the next world, and for them there
is this world?' 'Yes,' I said. Then I said, 'O Messenger of
Allah, what has happened with your wives? If you have divorced
them, then truly Allah is with you, and His angels, Jibril and
Mika'il, and Abu Bakr and I and the believers are with you.' And
seldom have I talked like that and hoped that Allah would
testify to the words that I uttered. And so it happened that the
ayahs of choice were revealed:
If you both turn to Allah in repentance, then that is what your
hearts desire; and if you help each other against him then
surely Allah Himself is his protector, and Jibril, and the
righteous from among the believers, and as well as that, the
angels will help him. It maybe, if he divorces you, that his
Lord will give him wives who are better than you, who submit,
who believe, who are devout, who are repentant, who worship, who
fast, whether they have been previously married or are virgins.
(Quran 66:4-5)
In fact the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) never divorced any of his wives, and as we grow more
aware about how they lived, may Allah be pleased with all of
them, it is clear that they possessed all of the qualities of
the women described in the last ayat. Perhaps this ayat served
as a reminder to them, a reminder that they would remember for
the rest of their days which for most of them lasted long after
the Prophet's (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) death.
Returning to Sayyiduna Umar's account of his visit to the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) during the
month of separation from his wives, Umar then asked, "O
Messenger of Allah, have you divorced them?" and he replied,
"No." So after talking for a while longer and how in Mecca the
men tended to dominate the women, whereas in Medina the women
tended to dominate the men, which is what the womenfolk from
Mecca had learned to do after they had made hijrah to Medina -
Umar climbed down and stood at the door of the mosque and called
out at the top of his voice: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) has not divorced his wives!"
After the month was up, the Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) first went to A'isha's room. She
was delighted to see him, but grew more serious when he said
that some ayahs had been revealed to him which required him to
put two options before her. "Do not make a hasty decision," he
said, "and consult your parents first." He then recited these
verses:
O Prophet, say to your wives: 'If you desire the life of this
world and its adornments, then come, and I will make you
content, and I will release you with a fair release. But if you
desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the next world,
then truly Allah has prepared an immense reward for those of you
who do good.' (Quran 33:28-29)
"Is there any need to consult my parents?" replied A'isha.
"Indeed I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the
next world." And her response was followed by all of his other
wives. A'isha remained true to her word both during the lifetime
of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and
afterwards. Once, when the Muslims were favored with great
wealth, she as given a gift of one hundred thousand Dhirhams.
She was fasting when she received the money, and distributed all
of it to the poor and needy, even though she had no provisions
in her house. Shortly after that, her maid servant said to her,
"Couldn't you have brought a dirham's worth of meat with which
to break your fast?" "If I had thought of it," she replied, "I
would have done so!"
After a year had passed following the treaty of Hudaybiyya, the
Muslims traveled to Mecca and they were able to complete all the
rites of the umra, doing everything as the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) did it. In accordance with the
terms of the treaty, the Muslims left after three days, when
their umra had been completed. Not long after this, the Prophet
sent an army of three thousand Muslims northwards to the borders
of the Byzantine territories in what is now Palestine to
chastise the tribes there for killing the messengers whom he had
sent to call them to Islam. The tribes called on the Emperor
Herclius for support, and when the Muslim army arrived at Muta,
they found themselves facing an army of two thousand men. Many
of the Muslims died as shahids on the day of the battle, but
thanks to the tactics of Khalid bin Walid, the Greeks withdrew
the next day, and so the Muslims were able to return to Medina
relatively unscathed. When the news of the battle of Muta
finally reached Mecca, the Quraish mistakenly believed that the
Muslims had been thoroughly defeated by the Greeks and decided
to renew their opposition to the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him). In doing so, they deliberately broke their
treaty that they had made at Hudaybiiya, by allowing their
allies to attack and kill some of the allies of the Muslims who
lived near Mecca.
Accordingly the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) marched on Mecca at the head of an army of ten thousand
Muslims. Despite everyone's fears, he conquered it with hardly a
drop of blood being spilled. As always, the mercy and
forgiveness that he displayed towards those who had relentlessly
opposed him for so many years changed people's hearts, and many
of the people of Mecca now embraced Islam as a result. Having
pardoned all of the Quraish, with the exception of four men who
had all committed murder for personal reasons, the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) smashed all the idols
and destroyed all the paintings that had been placed inside the
Ka'ba by the idol-worshippers. The sanctity of the sanctuary of
Mecca had been restored, and at long last the Muslims were free
to come and go in Mecca as they pleased.
In the midst of the peace and rejoicing, however, news came that
the tribes of Hawazin and Thaqif were preparing to attack the
Muslims. The Muslim army that had conquered Mecca, swelled to
twelve thousand by some of the men from the Quraish who had just
embraced Islam, marched to a place called Hunayn. For the first
time in their experience, the Muslims actually outnumbered the
enemy, of whom there were only about four thousand. This nearly
proved to be the Muslims' undoing, for many of them felt secure
because of their large numbers rather than because of the
reliance on Allah. When the enemy suddenly attacked at dawn,
showering down arrows from the hills, the Muslims were taken by
surprise and many began to flee. A small group stood firm with
the Prophet, one of whom was Umm Sulaym bint Milhan, the wife of
Abu Talha. Although she was pregnant at the time, she had armed
herself with a dagger to use against the kafirun.
Fortunately the strong Muslims rallied round the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him) and although there were only
six hundred of them, their concerted effort, fighting valiantly
in the way of Allah, turned the tide of the battle until those
who had turned away in the initial panic and confusion had
returned and the battle was won. After the battle of Hunayn, the
only continued resistance to the Muslims was from the north and
north-east, from the Byzantine and Persian Empires. Having heard
that the Greeks were preparing a huge army of thirty thousand
men and marched out in the heat of the late summer to do battle
with them. After a long, hard, hot march, the Muslim army
reached Tabuk, and here they learned that the Greeks had
retreated back to their own territory. Accordingly, having made
peace treaties with all the border tribes, the Muslims returned
to Medina, in time for many of them to go on the pilgrimage to
Mecca. Those who had made weak excuses in order to avoid going
on the expedition to Tabuk now felt great shame and regret.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) himself
did not go on the pilgrimage this year, for people were coming
to Medina from all over the Arab lands to embrace Islam and to
pledge allegiance to him. It was this year that came to be known
as 'the Year of the Delegations', during which, at one point,
the Prophet became so exhausted from seeing people that he had
to pray sitting down. So instead, Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased
with him) led the pilgrims. It was during this hajj that the
ayat in the Quran that forbade the idol worshippers from ever
entering the sanctuary of Mecca again were revealed; they were
made public during the hajj by Ali ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be
pleased with him) who was sent straight from Medina to Mecca as
soon as they had been revealed, so that as many people as
possible would hear them. The following year, when the time for
the pilgrimage drew near, the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) announced that he was going on the hajj, and
as a result everyone wanted to do it with him. The Muslims who
did not live in or near Medina either first traveled to Medina
in order to accompany him on the journey to Mecca, or else
traveled to Mecca from every part of Arabia and joined him
there.
Amongst the people on what has become known as 'the Farewell
Pilgrimage' of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) was A'isha, for the Prophet asked all of his wives, may
Allah be pleased with them, to accompany him, to ensure that
they all fulfilled this particular obligation that every Muslim
owes to his or her Lord. It was an extraordinary pilgrimage.
There never had been, and there never has been, and there never
will be, another hajj quite like it, for at its heart was the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and
around him were his family and Companions, may the blessings and
peace of Allah be on them, and during it the ayat of the Qur'an
was revealed:
This day I have perfected your deen for you and have completed
My blessing on you, and have chosen Islam for you as your deen.
(Quran 5:3)
It was also during this hajj that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) gave his famous Farewell Khutba,
whose words still ring in our ears and echo in our hearts all
these centuries later. When he had finished speaking to the
thousands upon thousands of Muslims who were gathered around him
on the plain of Arafa, he raised his voice slightly and asked,
"My Lord, have I delivered the message?" And thousands upon
thousands of voices from all around him answered his question:
"Yes, you have." And many of those who were present passed on
that message to those who ere not present, and so it has
continued, right up until today. And one of those who was
present was A'isha, of whom the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) once said, "Learn some of your deen from this
red haired lady." Meaning A'isha.
This is not surprising, for she is one of the four people who
have transmitted more than two thousand hadiths, the others
being Abu Hurairah, Abdullah ibn Umar, and Anas ibn Malik. Many
of these are about some of the most intimate aspects of personal
behavior and hygiene which only someone in A'isha's position
could have learned. It was during the course of his marriage
with A'isha that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) married several other wives, usually to strengthen
ties between important families and tribes, or to relieve the
hardship of a woman who had been unexpectedly divorced or
widowed, or in order to clearly demonstrate whom it was
permissible for a Muslim to marry, but above all because all of
his marriage had been decreed by Allah, and because all of his
wives were exceptional women.
The Position of 'A'isha
Of the Prophet's wives in Medina, (may Allah be pleased with all
of them), it is clear that it was A'isha that he loved the most:
From time to time, one or another of his Companions would ask
him who it was that he loved the most, and the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him) did not always give the same
answer to this question, for he felt great love for many - for
his wives, for his daughters by Khadijah, for their children,
for Sayyiduna Abu Bakr and Sayyiduna Umar and Sayyiduna Uthman
and Sayyiduna Ali, and for many of his Companions and community
- but of his wives the only one whom he named in this connection
was A'isha. She too loved him greatly in return and often would
seek reassurance from him that he loved her. "how is your love
for me?" she once asked. "Like the rope's knot," he replied,
meaning that it was strong and secure. Many times after that she
would ask, "how is the knot?" and he would reply: "Ala haliha"
"The same as ever!"
Since A'isha loved the Prophet so much, she could not help being
jealous if his attention were directed towards others more than
what seemed enough to her. She once asked him, "O Messenger of
Allah, tell me about yourself. If you were between the two
slopes of a valley, one of which had been grazed, while the
other had been grazed, on which slope would you pasture your
flocks?" "On the one that had not been grazed," replied the
Prophet. "Even so," she said, "and I am not like any of your
other wives. Every one of them had a husband before you, except
myself." The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
smiled and said nothing.
It is clear that in spite of his wives' high station with Allah,
(may Allah be pleased with them) they were still human, and at
times rather jealous of each other. Thus, for example, it had
been related by A'isha that the Prophet usually visited his
wives every afternoon, after the Asr prayer. On one occasion he
stayed longer than usual in the room of Zainab bint Jahsh, for
someone had given her some honey, of which the Prophet was very
fond. "At this," said A'isha, "I felt jealous, and I, Hafsah,
Sawdah, and Safiyyah agreed between ourselves that as he visited
each of us, we would tell him that there was a funny smell
coming from his mouth from what he had eaten, for we knew that
he was particularly sensitive to offensive smells." Everything
went as planned, and as a result, the Prophet vowed that he
would never eat honey again, only to be reprimanded by the
revelation of the following ayat:
O Prophet, why do you forbid what Allah has made lawful for you,
in seeking to please your wives? And Allah is Forgiving,
Compassionate. (Quran 66:1)
Allah made the whole matter known to the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) and he confronted the one whose
idea it had been with the truth:
So when he told her about it, she said, 'Who told you this?' He
said, 'I was told by the Knowing, the Aware.' (Quran 66:3)
This incident indicates the extent of the Prophet's submission
to Allah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
was the means by which Allah taught the Muslims their deen in
every moment and situation. What might have seemed an innocent
bit of fun to his wives, (may Allah be pleased with them), was
not permitted by Allah to result in any alteration to the hudud
of Allah, to what is permitted and what is forbidden by Allah,
for if the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
had never eaten honey again, then many of his Companions and
followers might have done likewise.
On another occasion, when one of the Prophet's other wives, Umm
Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) complained on their
behalf about the fact that more presents were being given to the
Prophet on the day that he was with A'isha than on the days when
he was with his other wives, he replied, "O Umm Salamah, do not
trouble me by harming A'isha, for by Allah, the Divine
inspiration never came to me while I was under the blanket of
any woman amongst you except her." "I turn to Allah from
troubling you, O Messenger of Allah," she said.
However the Prophet's other wives were still not content, and
asked Fatimah to speak to the Prophet on their behalf. When she
raised the subject, he said, (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) "O my daughter, do you not love those I love?" "Yes."
She said. "Then love her." He replied.
On another occasion, A'isha was on a journey with the Prophet
and some of his Companions. She had borrowed a necklace from her
sister Asma and during the journey she discovered that she had
mislaid it. The journey was delayed while some of the Companions
looked for it, and after a while the time for the prayer came.
There was no water with which to do wudu, so they became very
agitated about that. They went to Abu Bakr and said, "Do you see
what A'isha has done! She has caused the Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) to stop at a place
where there is no water!" Meanwhile, the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) had fallen asleep with his head
resting against A'isha's leg. Abu Bakr went up to A'isha and
started to poke her and upbraid her for holding up the people
when they did not have any water. She did not move because she
did not want to disturb the Prophet's sleep. The Prophet soon
woke up and the ayats about tayammum were revealed, making it
clear to everyone what should be done when a Muslim on a journey
needs to do wudu, but has no water.
Usayd ibn Hudayr said to Abu Bakr, "This is not the first
blessing to have come from your family." And to A'isha, "May
Allah reward you with good! By Allah, whenever you have
difficulty, Allah relieves you of it and gives a blessing to the
Muslims by it as well!"
When they were about to resume their journey, A'isha' s camel
rose to its feet, and there was the necklace. The camel had been
lying on it all the time! Being the daughter of Sayyiduna Abu
Bakr, who on one occasion had given away all his wealth to be
spent in the way of Allah, and the wife of Muhammad (may Allah
be pleased with her) who kept nothing for himself, A'isha was
very generous. On one occasion, the Prophet had sacrificed an
animal, and A'isha was so generous in sharing the meat out
amongst the poor, that she found that she had left nothing for
the Messenger's large household except the shoulder of the
animal. Feeling a little distressed, she went to the Prophet,
and said, "I've only been able to save this." "That is the only
part that you have not saved," smiled the Prophet, "for whatever
you give away in the name of Allah, you save, and whatever you
keep for yourself, you lose."
It is sometime forgotten that the Prophet Muhammad and his wives
and Companions, may the blessings peace of Allah be on him and
his family and his Companions, led very simple lives. It has
been related that sometimes there was no smoke to be seen coming
from the Prophet's home for weeks at a time meaning that there
was not even flour to bake bread, let alone meat so that all
there was to eat was dates and water, dates that came from palms
whose roots the Prophet said were in the Garden.
On another occasion, a beggar asked A'isha for some food while
she was fasting, and there was only a loaf of bread in her
house. She said to her maid servant, "Give it to him." "But you
will not have anything to eat when you break your fast."
Protested the servant. "Give it to him," repeated A'isha. So she
did so. When evening came, the people of the house of a man who
did not usually give to them, gave them a sheep and some food to
go with it. A'isha called her servant and said, "Eat from this.
This is better than your loaf of bread!"
It has been related by A'isha, that once when it was the
Prophet's turn to spend the night with her, he quietly got up
towards the end of the night and slipped out of the room,
closing the door quietly behind him. A'isha was curious to see
where he was going, thinking that he had waited until he thought
she was asleep. Quickly she got up, covered her head and
silently followed him until he came to the graveyard of al Baqi.
"He stood there," said A'isha, 'and he stood for a very long
time. Then he lifted his hands (in prayer) three times, and then
turned to go, so I turned, He quickened his step, so I quickened
my step. He began to run, so I began to run. I got back before
he did, and entered my room and lay down. He came in and said,
"Why are you out of breath, A'isha?"
"It's nothing." I said. "Tell me, or the One Who is All
Pervading and All Ware will tell me." "Messenger of Allah," I
said, "May my father and mother be a ransom for you." And then I
told him. "Was it you who I saw running in front of me?" he
said. "Yes." I replied, and he hit me on the chest and it hurt.
"Did you think that Allah and His Messenger would treat you
unjustly?" he asked. "Whatever anyone conceals, Allah knows it."
I replied. "When you saw me leaving," the Prophet explained, "it
was because Jibril had come to me. He called me without you
knowing it and I replied, but without you knowing it, because
you were not fully dressed. I thought that you were asleep, and
did not want to awaken you in case you were frightened. He
(Jibril) said, "Your Lord has commanded you to go to the people
of Al Baqi and to ask forgiveness of them." "I said, "How should
I pray for them?" "Say; Peace be on the people of this place
(the graveyard), from among the believers and the Muslims, and
may Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us, and on
those who will follow later; and inshAllah we will join you."
As the day of his own death approached, it is clear that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) wished to die
in the company of A'isha, for it is reported that during his
final illness, which was probably the result of the poisoned
food that he had been given at Khaybar, he inquired, "Where will
I be tomorrow, where will I be tomorrow?" since he was hoping it
would be A'isha's turn to be with him. In fact the Prophet asked
his wives ' permission to remain in A'isha 's room during his
illness, and his other wives, (may Allah be pleased with them
all), agreed to forego their turns. For much of the time during
his last few days on earth the Prophet lay on a couch with his
head resting on A'isha's breast or lap. She it was who
repeatedly recited the last two surahs of the Qur'an, the two
surahs of seeking protection, and then blew her breath over him,
just as he had taught her to do in the past, and then passed his
hand over his body. It is related by A'isha that she used his
hand rather than her own, because she knew that his had had
greater healing in it than her hand.
She was the one who took a toothstick from her brother chewed it
soften it and then gave it to the Prophet. Despite his weakness,
he rubbed his teeth with it vigorously. "So," said A'isha some
time later, "Allah made my saliva mix with his saliva on his
last day in this world and his first day in the next world." Not
long afterwards, he lost consciousness and A'isha thought it was
on the onset of death, but after a while, he opened his eyes and
murmured softly, "The Highest Company." A'isha remembered that
when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had
been in good health in the past, he had said, "No prophet is
taken by death until he has been shown his place in the Garden,
and then offered the choice, to remain in this world or go to
the Next World."
Remembering these words, she said to herself, "Then he will not
stay with us." Then she heard him murmur, "O Allah, forgive me
and have mercy on me and join me with the Highest Company, the
people whom Allah has blessed from among the Prophets and the
truthful ones, and the martyrs, and the righteous ones and the
best of company are they." (Quran 4:69)
It was then that A'isha knew that he had been given the choice,
and that he had made it. Again she heard him murmur, "O Allah,
with the Highest Company," and these were the last words she
heard him speak. Gradually his head grew heavier upon her
breast, and gently she laid it on the pillow. Her beloved
husband, the Messenger of Allah, the Seal of the Prophets, the
Best of Creation, had died in her arms. At the time of his
death, the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) was sixty three years old, and A'isha was eighteen.
At first the Prophet' s Companions were not sure where he should
be buried, but then Abu Bakr as Siddiq remembered what when he
was alive, the Prophet had said that the Prophets were always
buried where they had died, so the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) was buried in A'isha's room where he had
died. A'isha has related that during his final illness, Umm
Habiba and Umm Salamah mentioned that when they had been in
Abyssinia they had seen a church which had pictures in it. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) replied,
"When one of their righteous people die, they build a place of
worship on his grave and then decorate it with such pictures. In
the sight of Allah they will be the worst of people on the Day
of Judgment."
A'isha has also related that the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said, "Allah has cursed the Jews and the
Christians because they made the graves of their Prophets and
righteous ones places of worship." A'isha continued, "If it had
not been for this, his grave would have been in an open place
,but it could not be so, due to the fact that it might become a
mosque."
In the passage of time, the Prophet's mosque in Medina was
enlarged again and again, so that now his grave is no longer
next to the mosque, but inside it. However, although the hearts
of the millions of Muslims who visit Medina every year are
filled with love, for the Messenger of Allah (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) they are always careful to
direct their worship towards Allah alone, perhaps remembering
the words of Sayyiduna Abu Bakr when he first spoke to the
Muslims who could not believe that their beloved Prophet had
actually died:
"Whoever worshiped Muhammad, Muhammad is dead, and whoever
worshipped Allah, Allah is the Living, and does not die." Then
he quoted the ayat;
Muhammad is only a Messenger, whom other Messengers have
preceded. Will it be that when he dies or is killed, you will
turn your back on your heels? And whoever turns back on his
heels will not harm Allah in the least, and Allah will reward
the thankful. (Quran 3:144)
Thus it was that the family and Companions of the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had to
accept the inevitable, even though no loss ever had been or ever
would be as great as theirs. It has been related by Anas ibn
Malik that after the death of the Messenger of Allah (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) Sayyiduna Abu Bakr said to
Sayyiduna Umar, "Let us visit Umm Ayman (who had looked after
the Prophet when he was a small boy), for the Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to visit her."
When they came to her, she was weeping, and they said to her:
"Why are you weeping? What the Messenger of Allah, (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) has now a better than this." "I
am not weeping because I am unaware of the fact that what the
Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
has now a better than this," she replied, "but I am weeping
because the revelation that used to come from the heavens has
ceased." This moved both of them to tears, and they began to
weep with her.
A'isha Siddiqa (may Allah be pleased with her) once said, "O
would that I were a leaf on a tree!" lived on for another fifty
years after him after the Prophet's death, (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) dying at the age of sixty eight, in 58 AH
(may Allah be pleased with her)
During that time she saw many changes, not all of which were
pleasant ones, for with the expansion and the conquests that the
Muslims experienced, there came wealth, and with the wealth came
disagreements and power struggles, and as we all know, the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "I do
not fear poverty for my community, but I fear wealth for them,
for it destroy them as it destroy the people before them."
A'isha, however, like all of the Prophet's wives, (may Allah be
pleased with all of them) remained detached from this world and
longed to be reunited with the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) in the next; but while she was alive, she
passed on her knowledge and wisdom to everyone who came to her.
Much of what she transmitted was recorded in written form, and
so countless Muslims have continued to benefit form it right up
until today.
Abu Musa reported that Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said, "There have been many men who have
reached perfection, but no women, have reached perfection except
Mary, the daughter of Imran, Asiyya, the wife of Pharaoh, and
the excellence of A'isha as compared to the other women in that
of tharid (meat or vegetable stew, which was the Prophet's
favorite food) over all other foods."
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