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Bev's
Story
My name is Beverly J. Doucette of Marinette,
Wisconsin.
I suffer from a disease called Adhesion
Related Disease (ARD). I
have been instrumental in starting the International Adhesion
Society with Dr. David Wiseman, Ph.D,. of Dallas, Texas -- and a
woman from Minnesota, who also suffers with ARD.
Please familiarize yourself with this disease by going to: http://www.adhesions.org.
Although there is no known cure -- nor even an effective
treatment for ARD -- I did undergo surgery in New York City on
April 22, 1999, in an attempt to have my attached internal organs
separated -- with the hope that surgery would offer me the only
chance to survive this disease.
To date I have been able to live a normal life, instead of
being totally incapacitated by ARD after having suffered with it
for 14 years!
Since then, I have been able to volunteer as
an IAS outreach worker, and I have been instrumental in assisting
many other ARD sufferers to find this same surgeon; because he is
the only surgeon in the USA with the skill needed to separate
attached organs -- with any hope of keeping them separated!!
He has offered me the chance to experience life once again.
With the exception of two people, all my
communications and assistance has been through the use of the
Internet. I have never met any of those I have assisted.
The majority of those I assist are located
within the United States; but I also assist people in other parts
of the world. Currently
I reach out to and assist ARD sufferers in securing the best
standard of care they can receive with this disease.
I also offer them education and support.
In addition to the United States, I have been effective in
helping people in Ukraine, Australia, England and Canada.
My personal fight with ARD:
Thank-you Helen, Anne, Laura and everyone
else who has had the courage to reach out and touch the lives of
fellow sufferers of adhesion-related disease (ARD).
Let's build this thing!
Let's pray for strength, let’s pray that progress in
treating ARD will give others, who suffer as we have, another
chance at life!! I
WAS dying as I lay on my couch.
I was not able to eat.
I vomited all the time.
And last September I became intolerant to ALL of my
medications. I
couldn't have a regular bowel movement without the use of
laxatives. I couldn't
sit for more than ten minutes without being in excruciating pain.
In April of 1999 I went outside only two
times... to travel to New York for surgery. I went from my bed to
my couch... took pills... waited.
Oh God how I waited for 7 PM to come so that I could take
my heavy dose of sleep/pain pills and go to bed again!
I remember looking outside and my husband
asking me if I wanted to try to take a walk.
I was too weak and he knew that; but I said "No"
because it looked like it was going to rain... it looked cloudy...
not very inviting to me. But
you know what friends? My
husband said the sun WAS shining and there wasn't a cloud in the
sky! But, by the
grace of God, it looked uninviting to ME! I didn't have to suffer the reality that I was just too ill
to even take a walk outside.
What a good God I have.
He didn't want to tempt me, I guess.
But I really think he didn't want to hurt me even more!
Social life... no, not interested... couldn't eat or sit
anyway. I hadn't sat
at my own kitchen table for the past two years.
If and when I did eat, I reclined on the couch!
I loved my husband and three children so much, but I was
ready to go because I was just so tired... just so tired... not
unhappy... not unloved. I was just ready to sleep forever; and not continue to lay
and watch life go by. Even
that didn't matter anymore. I
was just sooo tired!
What IS life if it isn't living? What was the highest quality of life for me at that time?
What did I wish I could do to, at the very least, feel like
there was some quality in my life... something to look forward to?
My wish was simply to just be able to get up in the morning
and move about. No
vomiting... not a lot of pills... to be able to eat something.
And now I have this… and much more!
Now I am able to do almost anything a "normal"
person can do! Even
though I had lost five years of my life, I couldn't be any happier
with the life I have now!!
I can eat and eat and eat... unfortunately.
I include that here in that I am lacking the self-control
needed to NOT enjoy food so much now!!! Poor me, huh!!! NO
CHEESE; because cheese is so constipating!
I will forever be afraid to eat cheese.
And I live in the dairy state, WISCONSIN!! So I won't be doing any commercials, I suppose!!
The other day I mentioned to my husband how
bright the sun was shining -- as we were preparing to take a drive
-- with ME sitting up in the FRONT seat... not laying in he back
seat with pillows!! WOW!! Now
that IS life!!!
I notice all the little things now; but to me
they are the big things. I
went to the grocery store and shopped last week... alone!
Two weeks ago my husband said he was getting tired and was
going up to bed. I
said, "Ok, honey, I'll be up in a bit... when I finish
puttsing here." He
stopped and looked at me. Then
he looked at the clock. It
was 10 PM!! We both
started to laugh! HE
was going to bed, and I was staying up!
Then we hugged... and I started to cry.
I mean REALLY cry!! You
see, I WAS STAYING UP!!! That's
all... something so simple; but to me it meant LIFE!
I want to enjoy the time I've been given.
Please offer support, educate your selves,
share your stories -- anything you can do to reach out and give
hope and a chance for LIFE for all adhesion sufferers... for all
who suffer pain for whatever the reason.
For God's sake, if for no other reason, do it for
yourselves! We now
have our first grandchild, our little Jacob!
Not only can I think about traveling to visit him, but I
can cuddle him for hours, walk him, rock him.
And I can plan for a future of enjoying everything a
grandma wants to do with her first grandchild!!
I have that now!! It
has been a year and a half since my surgery.
Will I continue to be an adhesion survivor?
By November I will know the answer.
For now, I'll simply enjoy what I have been given and take
each day ONE AT A TIME!
Update: January 2002:
Having been cued to the fact that the
"Hospital Consent to Procedure and Operation" form
states that all complications of the procedure must be fully
explained to the patient prior to the procedure being completed on
the patient, 99 percent of ARD sufferers we are aware of did NOT have
post surgical adhesions discussed with them, nor had they ever
heard the word adhesions and non were offered an alternative
method of medical intervention prior to any of their respective
surgeries, me included!
GOD BLESS EACH ONE OF YOU!
Bev
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