The Self
by Humza!
I am still
trying to figure out who or what I am and until this mammoth task is complete,
I won't know anybody and nobody will ever know me. You ask why? Well, if I
don't know myself, then how can somebody else know me? If I can't get to know
myself, then how can I get to know another? So it all starts of with ME. This
document is about getting to no one’s self and should be acknowledged as a
guide, rather than a set of rules, to getting to know what one is all about.
“It is like a finger pointing the way to
the moon. Concentrate not on the finger, for you’ll miss all that heavenly
glory.”
So why
should one get to know oneself? The answer to this may be derived when we ask
the question, "Why was I born?”
I don't know about you, but the reason that I was born was to worship my
Creator and to grow and develop in all aspects(emotionally, physically,
financially, psychologically, mentally, etc.). In essence, the human has to
consistently be in a state of change or transition. If the human is not in this
transitional state then the being might just as well be DEAD! Now, if one is
constantly changing, then how does one keep up with these changes? The first
step would be to differentiate between intentional
and unintentional changes. An intentional
change is when a being thinks about making a change and then actually makes the
change. An unintentional change is when a being changes without actually
thinking about it. Upon undergoing an unintentional change, it takes some time
before the human actually discovers the change, and in some instances, the
human isn't aware that a change has taken place at all. Bearing this in mind,
it is definite that the being would be a step or more behind the changes
resulting in the being never totally knowing itself. Then how the hell would
somebody apart from the being be in-touch with the being when the being is not
in-touch with itself?
Now let's get back to the original question, "Why should one know oneself"? It has been ascertained in the previous paragraph that we were born to change. The important rule of change is that in order to change, we need to know what to change from. In other words, to be different from what we are, we need to be able to at least know what we are. This is why we must know ourselves.
How does
one get to know oneself? The only way to accomplish this is to develop a
relationship with one's self. Considering that we have many distractions like
other relationships, work, study, entertainment, noise, etcetera, this is not
going to be easy. It is not daily increase, but daily decrease that counts. We
need to hack away the unessentials that act as a veil from us looking into
ourselves. Firstly, let’s distinguish what distracts us from ourselves. The
saddest thing is that humans always seek comfort in entities apart from
themselves. This is a natural response for it is human nature to choose comfort
over discomfort. If one is uncomfortable with one’s self, then it is human
nature to look elsewhere for comfort. But this is only temporary escapism, for
the discomfort within the human still persists and will be part of that person
permanently, unless of course, something is done about rectifying this
discomfort. Would it then not be beneficial to resolve the problem at grass
roots, i.e. within the person itself, rather than diverting from this
discomfort? A feeling of discomfort could result from a problem of some sort.
Can there be a solution without a problem? The answer is most definitely not!
There can never be a solution without
a problem, just as there can never be
night without day, nor can there be right
without left. We can therefore
surmise that these opposites are one entity, for it is only the human mind that
separates them. Bearing this in mind, it is safe to say that the problem and solution
are together, that is, they are one entity. It is human nature to escape
from the discomfort caused by the problem and seek comfort elsewhere. This in
turn leads to the human diverting from the problem and in so doing, the human
diverts from the solution, for we have established that the problem and
solution are together. As a result, the problem wouldn’t be resolved and would
persist in the background until whatever is comforting the human ceases to do
so, causing the original discomfort to come to the fore. Feeling this
discomfort again, the human succumbing to the course of nature once again seeks
comfort from any source possible. This vicious circle continues until the human
runs out of comfort zones and the persisting problem becomes present. At this
stage, the human has no alternative but to deal with the problem and eventually
either resolves it or learns to live with it, for the human’s ability to adapt
is a phenomenal trait. The reason that the problem is easier to bare at this
stage is because the human has had this problem over a period of time, and the
human has somewhat gotten immune to the effect it has. In other words, time
heals all wounds.
At this
stage it is pertinent to discuss my philosophy regarding problems. A problem
only becomes a problem when it is perceived as such by the human who names it.
Naming a problem makes it tangible and if it has no name, then it is nothing. A
problem is only recognised as a problem by the mind, for the rest of the body
doesn’t have the reasoning to acknowledge a problem. When one experiences a
physical problem, e.g. a pain in the calve muscle, the calve sends impulses to
the brain. The brain would then search the memory for all types of pains until
it finds a pain that matches the impulses being received and names it. This is
how the body’s experiences are defined. Now what if there wasn’t a matching
name for the feeling being experienced by the calve? My guess is that it won’t
be recognised as a problem and would be ignored totally. So too, many problems
are accepted as such by one’s own attitude. When one is confronted with an
undesirable situation, then it is only one’s attitude that can present this
scenario as problematic or not. Similarly, one might also be presented with a
solution, but it is the attitude that could accept or reject this solution. The
above examples of how the being deals with problems and solutions are clearly
indicative of how much these entities have in common. Although we look at them
as opposites, they are actually very much alike.
If comfort
and happiness is derived from an external source, and because this external
source could be removed or detached from the human at any stage and without any
warning, then this happiness and comfort is temporary. This is also not conducive
to acquiring eternal happiness, peace and comfort. The best way to achieve
eternal bliss is to be happy and content from within and do not look for
happiness and contentment elsewhere. If one derives happiness and comfort
externally, then this must be supplementary and a “nice-to-have” rather than a “must-have”.
In essence, external happiness must lead to one feeling happier for one should
always be in state of happiness within one’s self. I believe that happiness and
love must radiate from within and this in turn will definitely affect those
that come into contact with this radiation. This concept brings about a feeling
of love that is true, rather than diverting one’s attention to the words of
love that might be false. In short the recipient of love, care, etc. must feet
love and being cared about rather than these entities being spoken about. The
core of the human must be in such a state of contentment, that if it is placed
in the most miserable situation, it will be too content to allow the misery to effect
it. Reaching this state in life doesn’t happen overnight for it is through
constant evaluation of one’s self and constant reflection of what one learns
about one’s self, that this state may be reached. Getting to successfully know
one’s self is as difficult as cracking a combination to a safe. It could take a
lifetime or more before this is achieved, as the possible combinations are
endless. Knowing this leaves one feeling despondent, but don’t despair for a
step in any direction is better than none at all. The first step would be to
think about it, for the body will never go where the mind hasn’t been before.
The mind is an extremely powerful tool for achieving goals. The first step is
to visualise the objective. Then get the rest of the five senses involved. Add
texture or heat for feel, or add colour to make it more vivid, the brighter the
better. In other words, see, hear, feel, touch and smell your objective within
your mind, for if it is real in the mind, then it could become a reality.
Affirmation is another powerful tool for it programs the mind to follow orders
that a being gives it.
Why is getting to know one’s self like cracking a
combination to a safe? To unlock a safe, you turn the dial backwards x-times and forwards y-times,
a little to the left, then a little to the right until that proverbial click is
heard. Turn the handle and Voilla! You’ve
found that valuable so-well-guarded treasure. Similarly, in life we slip a
little, get up a little, then fall a little, wake and sleep a little, cry and
laugh a little, live and die a little, experience this and that a little. It is
only when we understand all of these experiences, reflect upon them, and draw a
correlation between them, that we have finally started knowing a little about
ourselves. It is when we reach this state of knowing ourselves that we have
finally found the combination to unlock that secret treasure called enlightenment.
The human
is like a building and each brick that makes up this building resembles an
experience in life. The brick that resembles the time when you were little and
burned your finger on the stove is located close to the ground. Near the
ceiling there is another brick that resembles you close to a stove that’s
switched on. If you cannot correlate these two bricks together, then you will
be doing yourself a great injustice. Furthermore, you don’t want to destroy a
single brick in your building because the mere existence of this building will
be destroyed. Every brick in this building, every experience in life is important.
Lets take the example of the two bricks concerning the stove illustrated in the
example above. The brick that resembles the burning of your hand is a nasty
experience, an uncomfortable one and one might choose to destroy it and replace
it with a more pleasant experience. If this happens, what’s going to happen
when one approaches the brick that resembles one being close to the stove that
is switched on? Obviously, one is bound to burn again. So too, changing any
brick no matter how unpleasant that experience might be, could possibly result
in one having to go through those experiences again.
Let’s
discuss external sources of comfort and their effects. The first on the list is
the entertainment industry such as movies, music videos and books create the
greatest mass hysteria. Some people identify themselves with the make-believe
false heroes that are created by producers and storytellers alike, which causes
these people to lead their lives according to that stipulated by this media.
It’s extremely dangerous that humans mimic and imitate their heroes, which
makes the human false and artificial. One should be leading one’s own life, but
within the folds stipulated by the Creator, following the examples of God’s
prophets, and not those false heroes personified by the media. On the contrary,
the false heroes have been created as a diversion from man following the
prophets.
Why should we live our lives according to that stipulated
by God and God’s messengers? Getting to know one’s self is made easier by the
authority on life and the self, God, the Creator of the universe. I believe
that the universe and everything therein was created by the Creator we all call
God. So how do I know that there is a GOD and how do I know that God is the
Creator with Knowledge Infinite?
This air that we inhale is composed of a number of
elements, two components of which are important: One component is suitable for
man’s breathing which chemists conventionally call oxygen. The other component
is a harmful one that they call carbon dioxide. Among the qualities of the
great interrelationships amongst the units of this miraculous universe is that
the component that is harmful to man is inhaled by plants and it is useful for
them, whilst animals inhale oxygen and exhales carbon dioxide the plants do the
reverse process. Consider this co-operative relationship between man and plants
with regard to that which is the most important element of life for both of
them, namely breathing. Now, could something like this be done in the great
universe by other than an Omnipotent, Omniscient and all-Wise Being? What is
also intriguing is how the lung of the mammal is fashioned to cater for that
which is coming from the plant. How does the lung know that it’s going to be
accommodating a gas called oxygen, so it has to be moist in order to convert
this gas into a liquid that will allow this oxygen to then pass through the
lung into the rest of the body using a process called osmosis? Come now, oh you
with the ability to reason! Think! Reflect! Can all of this occur by some freak
accident, some big explosion? And then there is the important fact that none of
this has changed since the beginning of creation, and is maintained by the
automatic cycle of nature.
Another point to ponder and reason about is the
miracle of birth and in particular, the fertililisation of the embryo. What
occurs at the time of conception is that the egg in the female attracts the
sperm. This is indicative of the fact that the egg was designed to cater for an
external entity, namely, the sperm and knows how to attract the sperm into
fertilising the egg. Where did the egg acquire this intelligence? What happens
next is a further miracle. Once fertilisation takes place, the very same egg
that attracted the sperm, immediately changes this attraction to repulsion in
order to repel the rest of the millions of sperm that it was attracting. Not
even the female who this egg “belongs” to has the ability to control this
process, and inevitably practice the best form of birth control. These are just two of the millions of
reasons why there is a God!
When an
inventor invents or creates something, then he or she documents the
characteristics and unique attributes of this creation. Inventors also publish
users’ manuals for the users of the invention as well as a technical or
workshop manual for the person that will fix and maintain this invention.
Everybody else might be able to figure out the workings of this invention, but
it is the inventor that will have true infinite knowledge of this invention.
Every man-made creation can be dissected and copied or fixed if broken. But
still, it is imperative to have a manual regarding these entities’ workings. To
date nobody could copy the creation of God, and this feat will never be
accomplished. One can strip the components of a machine, copy and reproduce all
the parts in order to create another machine based on the stripped one, but
this couldn’t be done to any creation of God. The reason for this is that man
cannot have enough knowledge or education regarding the working of God’s
creations. Medical professionals profess to understanding the way the body
works but have to study at least seven years and have many years of practical
experience before they begin to truly understand the physical aspect of man.
Then there are still the more complicated mental and spiritual aspects. This
only touches the surface of the intricacies of God’s creation. It can be
therefore deduced that man hasn’t enough knowledge about these sensitive
intricacies of God’s creation. If I created the latest Mercedes Benz and
documented in the owner’s manual that the engine temperature must reach 15
degrees centigrade before driving, would you the owner who paid a quarter
million for this vehicle adhere to this rule? Most definitely, you would.
Similarly, when the instructions regarding the washing of a garment specifies
that the garment be only washed in cold water, would you the owner of the
garment adhere to this rule or not? You would adhere to this rule because the
authorities and creators of these entities have stipulated it. It has been
established above that whenever an entity is created or invented, the inventor
or creator has to support the user by transferring pertinent knowledge by means
of a manual or other documentation. Various representatives from the
manufacturers of these entities would then give demonstrations and teach the
usage of these entities. This is true especially when the entity is an
expensive and intricate one. It seems that all inventors follow the Ultimate
Creator of the Universe in providing support by transferring knowledge
pertaining to what was created. Not only did the Authority on life and the
universe send various manuals on the handling of life, but together with it,
sent practical examples in the prophets or sages, to enlighten those human
beings that have the ability to reason. So the understanding and adherence to
these manuals and the human-examples that have accompanied them would then lead
to the self-enlightenment and better knowledge of the intricacies of nature and
the “self”. I have searched for an
apt description of mankind’s purpose in life that’s conducive to the
much-needed success of life in this world.
Here is an example of guidance to mankind as taught by the Prophet of
Islam Muhammad (peace be upon him).
Mankind is sprung from Adam,
therefore they are brothers and
it is their duty to cooperate with one another,
to keep the peace among themselves,
to deal mercifully with one another,
to guide one another toward the good
to vie with one another in performing good works.
It is their duty to strive, each within his (own) sphere,
so that mankind may advance.
Have you
ever seen humanity rise to heights loftier than this, or a teaching more
excellent than this?
By
mimicking the lifestyle of those false heroes personified by the media, man is
no longer himself. When one is not leading one’s own life, but a life of
somebody else’s, then that person’s originality and individuality dies, and
with it the spirit, strength and soul. Every attribute that such an individual
has is artificial and false. Furthermore, this media is so powerful that it can
influence human emotion such as sadness, happiness, etcetera, as well as human
thought processes. In other word, this media can brainwash humans into behaving
in a particular way. Why are humans susceptible to this mass hysteria? One of
the reasons is that we all have this entity called the ego. The ego, if not
controlled is best described as a huge hungry serpent inside us that has to be
fed all the time. The more this serpent gets, the more it wants. The ego
thrives on power, glamour, fame, etcetera and dictates our carnal desires. The
workings of the ego are not fully known. The best way to make one understand
the intricate operations of the ego is to give one lots of gold jewelry and let
that person go public. A person in this state automatically will have more
pride, feel euphoric and adopt a different attitude, an attitude just like that
of a peacock. When this gold is taken away, then this pride and euphoria is
lost, proving that the pride was a false one. We all have carnal desires, but
because we have been blessed with the power of reasoning, we are in a position
of letting our ability to reason buffer these desires. If we don't reason, then
we are animals, for it is the ability to reason that differentiates us from
animals. Possessing that entity called reason is great, but how many of us are
able to utilise this ability.
Upon
watching a movie where actors are being personified in a manner that’s
conducive to fulfilling the needs of our egos and desires, we mimic their
actions thinking that our egos will be satisfied. But the ego is never
satisfied and all we got to do with our lives is feed this ego.
The next on
the list is that humans have the need to conform. Why do humans always have to
conform to others? The reason is simply that we feel insecure and don’t have
any faith in ourselves. We rather be other people than be ourselves for we feel
that we are not good enough to be ourselves. One of the reasons for having a
low self-esteem is that we want to compare ourselves to those false heroes that
are created by the media. The reason
that we compare ourselves with those heroes created by the media is because the
media presents them in a very attractive form, making them perfect beings. All
this hype is a diversion and a distraction from what and who we are. Upon
trying to match up to these heroes and failing, for it is impossible to match
up to something that is not real, the human loses self-esteem, making the being
feel like a failure. Still busy thinking
what to write about next…