Henry Stewart Matis

On February 25, 2000, Stuart Matis drove to the LDS chapel in Los Altos, California, and took his life. He was frustrated by the efforts by the LDS Church to pass Proposition 22, and he felt that he could not reconcile his religion and his homosexuality. He was 32 years old. After high school, Stuart enrolled in BYU and served a mission in Italy (where he met Clay Whitmer). After graduation, in 1996, he started to work for Andersen Consulting in California. Stuart left a suicide note in which he requested that there not be a funeral, because he wanted to be remembered alive. But his mother said that so many people came to her home and expressed love and told them that they needed to use the occasion to educate people about homosexuality, that they decided to hold the funeral. The day of the funeral the chapel was full. The speakers were Stuart's mother, his father, and Robert Rees. Stuart's mother talked about the hurtful things people say about homosexuals. She said that we need to be more tolerant toward all of God's children. Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons held a service in Salt Lake City. On March 19, 2000, in the middle of a raging snowstorm, 200 people and the Salt Lake Men's Choir gave tribute to Stuart and to DJ Thompson. Stuart hoped that greater understanding would come from his death. His suicide letter reassured his parents of his love for them and talked about what wonderful parents they were. He said that he was at peace with himself and was freed from the chains of his mortality. Stuart is buried at the Orem City Cemetery in Utah.