I Yearn for a Time...I Yearn for a Place...Respecting All Life, As A Universal Race.

Then I would Rejoice to be me...and permit my soul to be free.

------High_lands

Aside from myself and The Goddess (to whom I have dedicated a page), there are a few significant others that will probably find themselves in the pages of my journal on a regular basis:

Family:

  • My Parents:

My parents are both in their late fifties. My mother has had to take a leave of absence from nursing due to serious physical/mental health issues. My father is retired from the military but works full time. Their relationship is extremely dysfunctional, and their priorities are, in descending order: their grandchildren, their dog, my sister and me. I am not griping, this is the reality of the situation, and I have resolved it in myself. This is not to say that I continue to be emotionally abused by them; I am getting very good with boundaries.

My sister was not spared the hell it was to grow up any more than I was. However, as with most familial issues, each member deals with them differently. Ms. Crabtree is a depressed, bitter woman who has had many failed relationships in her adult life, including one marriage. She chooses to transfer a lot of the pent up childhood and adult wounds onto me. Again, no gripe, this is reality. To her credit, in spite of what she has been through, she has obtained a Masters Degree and will be starting a PhD while trying to raise three children. We have a very tenuous relationship as I have been forced to change the rules in an attempt to take care of myself. She resorts to the old rules at times, and thus there are periods of time we do not speak to each other. I love my sister...very much, despite all of this. I long for a day when we are both healed and can have a wonderful, mutually respectful relationship.

  • Meris, Pookie, and Ms. Thang - my niece, nephew, and niece:

The children of my sister are nine, seven, and five respectfully. I love them as they were my own, but unfortunately, our family's shit has not spared them. I try to spend as much time with them as I can when things are okay between Ms. Crabtree and myself. I especially like to spend time with Pookie, my nephew, as he is growing up in a house with all females, all of whom are overbearing at times. I firmly believe that he can benefit from a positive male influence, and realize this could get me in trouble with my "sisters" out there.

I love animals, and feel a deep spiritual connection to them. My pets are two dogs and two cats respectfully, a male and female of each. Animals can teach us so much about unconditional love. Mine sure have. They keep me grounded when I am feeling insane, and ease the wounds with kisses and purrrs when I am sad. Nevertheless, they are a lot of work, and let's just say there is no more room at this inn.

Lowlandz and I have been best friends since we were seven years old (24+ years). I have him here in the family section because he is a brother to me, and I believe we have shared at least one past life together. He has a lovely wife (also a very good friend) and two endearing daughters (I have not figured out what their pseudonyms will be yet). We have been through our own individual hells at each other's side, and I can truly say that I can count on him for anything. My life would be drastically different had he not been in it. We share an affinity for many things, including Celtic culture. Although he does not share my Paganism, he respects it, and I respect him for it.

  • Frieda - best female friend:

Aside from The Goddess, Frieda is the one other female I consider my best friend warranting family. We met at the same time The Goddess and I met at the same youth facility. Frieda is married, and is a recreation coordinator. She is also out "Matron of Honour". I love her like a sister, and like Lowlandz, she has been there through hell and back and sill cares about me. What a gift that is.

Dray and Brie:

Brother and sister who have been friends since childhood. Like Lowlandz and Frieda, I love them like siblings. Both live quite long distances away, but we have never lost that connection. We never will.

Husband and wife who I do not get to see very often due to distance. Blair lived with us when I was a child, and is a prodigal brother. He is one of the wisest people I know, and I firmly believe he is in my life to keep my head on straight.

My cousin and her three year old daughter. Of four first cousins, Kaylah has been the one that I have been able to form a close bond with, and to truly consider her family. Distance keeps us from seeing each other, but we both have email thankfully. They are both much loved.

I met Animal many years ago in grade school, and we have been good friends ever since. In time we were to discover that we had a common ancestor, and thus, I have considered him family ever since. He and his wife Scarlet are both in social work professions, and I wish I had more time to spend with them. They have a wonderful baby boy, and another child on the way.

 

Friends:

I met Alyx also at the youth shelter. He works as a financial advisor. He has been a very good friend when I really needed one. We try to have weekly coffee, but sometimes just cannot get our schedules to coincide. He has had his share of hardships, but has never lost his great sense of humor. I really count on it sometimes.

Colm and Katrine are a married couple that moved quite a distance away a couple years ago. I met them through caring for their son. Both have had difficult lives, and I enjoy being a support to them when need be. They keep me humble.

I met Willow a couple years ago while she was living with Ms. Crabtree. We share an interest in literature and ER. She is a future Canadian Award Winning Author. You heard it here first. Willow recently graduated from university and is spending her time working in a grass-roots book store right now. I would love to trade professions with her.

Brianna ia The Goddess' roommate. She has not always been supportive of our relationship (a bit jealous and lonely she is), but she has been very supportive to me as an individual, sensitive man. For this, she deserves credit and and I have no difficulty calling her friend.

An old friend of The Goddess. She lives here in town, and we are developing a good friendship in The Goddess' absence. She is a great support when I am lonely for my love.

I met Jake (she uses this nickname herself) while working at the Youth Shelter. She is also now a social worker practising on the west coast. I miss her a great deal; she helped to keep me grounded. Email just does not seem the same.

Marrin and I have been friends since Kindergarten. Currently, she is in the States working on her Masters Degree. I had the privelege of being her "first kiss", as she was for me. We were only six years old, and were in the woods behind her parents' house. What an honour to still be in touch with the source of a cherished memory, over 25 years later.

These are four special people I met on IRC. Although I do not have time to be online with them often, I still think of them a great deal. They were an objective presence when I really needed one.

....Blessed Be, As You All Have Blessed Me.

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