 |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Alive3000 Life-coaching |
|
|
Page 3 |
|
|
|
|
|
HOME page |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
 |
|
|
|
Anti-Bullying Coaching |
|
|
|
|
|
Support for individuals, groups and institution |
|
|
|
|
|
Dr Paul Heslin has been involved in anti-bullying support work since 1996.
His work as a medical doctor for twenty years, a Narrative* and Systemic family
therapist for six years and a life-coach for one year means that Paul has a lot of
experience in the area of bullying at work, at home and at school. |
|
|
|
Paul has given talks in Sligo, Cavan, Dublin, Portlaoise, Greystones and Sydney on this topic, has been on midlands radio and written in the medical press on bullying. He has attended international conferences in Australia on bullying and been in contact with many of the groups interested in this subject in Ireland, Britain and Australia. Dr. Heslin has given a four week certificate course on bullying to teachers in the midlands. He plans more of these events for groups and organizations. |
|
|
|
Paul's relative success in bullying is attributed to his belief that bullying is both a health and a human rights issue. He believes that communities must work together to promote community values rather than expecting targets to deal with this alone. He believes that all teams are more effective and dynamic when anti-bullying principles are included. |
|
|
|
He believes that targets of bullying need to be heard and their experience of unfairness acknowledged at different levels. Appropriate steps need to be taken by the victim and on behalf of the target of bullying to ensure safety and health. Sometimes these steps are unique to the values, strengths and vulnerabilities of both the target and the surrounding teams of support. |
|
|
|
Paul's successes with targets have included: |
|
|
|
"You seem to understand what I am going through, as if you have experienced it." |
|
|
|
"I got validation through the courts but not a huge settlement. It is a relief." |
|
|
|
"You helped me understand why some others had difficulty supporting me." |
|
|
|
"Some unexpected people were supporting me and I did not even see it." |
|
|
|
"Listening to you and my mother speak made me understand that the bullying was not about me, so I got on with my education" |
|
|
|
"I began to see that I was not a victim but a brave and ethical person who refused to be part of their bullying culture. This connects with my membership of Amnesty International. Now I have an awareness and empathy for human rights abuses." |
|
|
|
"Paul, as an adult at work, I did not even know that bullying was the cause of my stress until we spoke together. With that awareness, I knew exactly what to do. Thank you" |
|
|
|
 |
|
|
|
Types of people who have worked with Alive3000: |
|
|
|
Husbands, Parents, School Principles, Clothes Designers, Amnesty International |
|
|
|
Call-center staff, Unions and union members, Not for profit organisations
Students on counselling courses, Pharmaceutical reps, Whistleblowers |
|
|
Managers, Politicians, Fathers, Mothers, Nuns, |
|
|
|
Doctors, Nurses, Teachers, Pupils, Journalists |
|
|
|
 |
|
|
Government officials and policemen and fire-officers. |
|
|
|
|
|
Opportunities: |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Personal coaching and support for victims/targets.
Coaching for new and established managers, human resource personnel and those with dilemmas of power and responsibility.
Support for accusations of bullying.
Support for companies and organizations that wish to increase both awareness and improve skills and practices.
Assessments for individuals and companies.
Reports for legal and medical initiatives |
|
|
|
Seminars and workshops: |
|
|
|
Bullying at work: accidental, stress related or cultural? |
|
|
|
Team building workshops. |
|
|
|
Giving and receiving feedback at work. |
|
|
|
Stress management and meaning at work. |
|
|
|
Setting up support groups, Raising awareness, Diversity training. Systemic thinking. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Coaching: Seeking and supporting excellence in practice and outcomes through clarity.
Setting up a structure of steps and attainable goals towards a worthy and personal vision. |
|
|
|
Medical effects of stress and bullying: Headaches, abdominal pain, depression, anxiety, sexual
dysfunction, apathy, loss of appetite, chest pain, muscle pain, diarrhoea etc. |
|
|
|
Systemic approaches: Looking at the wider social, structural and cultural systems in which problems and opportunities reside, rather than just at band-aiding the problem. |
|