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| If you are a guy with this fetish & think you must keep it a secret from your lover� - listen up!! There are a lot of women out there that if given the opportunity to be a ?stay at home mom / housewife? would jump at the chance. If you are hiding your desires from her ? think about this. If you are in a relationship that has you working everyday while she?s home; you?re taking care of her needs. Why should you have to hide your needs?� If a woman went to work and you could stay home; would you tend to her every need?� The following I found on a web site ? it is advice given to a newlywed lady on how to keep from becoming divorced. The writer, by the way, is also a female. | |||||||||||
| First, you must realize that some men are hedonistic pigs, and no matter how wonderful their wife is, they will still find a reason (a.k.a.excuse) to cheat. They give in to their desire for immediate gratification with little regard or respect for the sacredness and monogamy required in a marriage. Women are disposable objects of pleasure, and if temptation arises, they give in without a thought. | |||||||||||
| If your husband is this type of person, I simply say: good luck, stay looking real good, and hope for the best. | |||||||||||
| But if he is a basically nice guy, with imperfections and character flaws here and there, then, yes, there is a lot you can do to make your marriage a true and lasting success. | |||||||||||
| If you want your marriage to work, you have to do the work. Marriage requires effort. It demands understanding that you could lose the person you love if for even one day you dare take them for granted. It means doing all the little things that keep them happy and contented in your love. | |||||||||||
| If you ever fool yourself into thinking that your husband would never cheat, fall in love with another woman, or want out of the marriage, then you are in for trouble. | |||||||||||
| Here are some tips for keeping your marriage warm, loving, passionate and yes, fun: | |||||||||||
| * Pay Attention To Your Appearance: This seems so trite, so trivial, so non consequential. It doesn't seem fair that once two persons share true love, how a woman looks should still matter--but sadly, it does. It matters a lot. Keep yourself healthy and fit. Eat good food. Wear cosmetics. Wear appealing clothing even when you are hanging around the house. Don't schlep around the house like a lazy old house frau. Respect yourself enough to stay physically and sexually appealing. This means not giving in to the temptation of letting yourself go. | |||||||||||
| * Pay Attention to Your Husband's Emotional Needs: What does your husband need to emotionally feel happy? What makes him feel supported by you? What makes him feel appreciated by you? What makes him feel respected by you? What was missing or wrong in his childhood that he is looking to have healed in his adult relationships? Why did he marry you to begin with? What makes him feel like "king of the universe"? Once you have the answers to these questions, make sure you are filling these needs. | |||||||||||
| * Are We Having Fun Yet?: Marriage shouldn't be an ongoing chore. It should be fun. Hey, isn't that the reason you got married in the first place--to have fun? Make sure you are putting aside time to have fun. Don't get so caught up in "The Race" toward "Something" that you forget to take time out for fun in your marriage. Take fun vacations. Do fun things on weekends. Try to even make dinner time fun. Laugh together. Don't dwell on the bad stuff all the time. Sure, the credit card bills may high, the children badly behaved, the house a mess, and the car in need of repair, but still, you need to make it fun. | |||||||||||
| * Don't Fight So Much: Fighting doesn't make a marriage better--it only makes people angry and hurt. Don't pick fights about everything. If you need to vent and get your frustration out, join a gym and learn kick boxing. Try to cut down the number of times a week that you fight. Try to let most stuff go and only fight about the real big important stuff that you simply cannot dismiss regardless of how very hard you try. | |||||||||||
| * Have Common Goals: Are you working toward the same goals? Do you share some of the same dreams and hopes for the future? Make sure you always have at least one common goal that you are both working for? It could be a dream vacation, the desire to pursue your creative interests, or even buying a dream house. Just make sure it is a goal that your husband truly wants and is committed to. | |||||||||||
| * Don't Make His Life Hard or Bothersome: Everyone likes a person who makes their life easier, happier, and generally more wonderful. Everyday ask yourself: what did I do today to improve my husband's life? | |||||||||||
| * Make Him Feel Good About Himself: If you learn just the right way to stroke his ego, you'll have him eating out of your hand for life. Men desperately want to feel good about themselves. They desperately want to feel respected, admired, appreciated and looked up to. His drive to feel good about himself is so strong, that if you don't make him feel good about himself, he will go hunting for someone who does. Try to criticize only on rare occasions. Never put him down. Weigh your words carefully. Words that cut a man will send him looking elsewhere for that feel-good high. | |||||||||||
| * Think Before You Speak: This one should be self-explanatory. Very important. | |||||||||||
| * Forget You Are Married: Yes, sometimes, forget you are married and see yourself as a single woman in a relationship with a charming man. Remove the cloak of a wife and become simply a woman. Flirt. Play. Let him chase you. Be alluring. | |||||||||||
| * Heal Your Own Wounds: Don't ask your husband to be your therapist. Yes, he should be there to support and help you, but he can't heal your pain. | |||||||||||
| * Be Nice To the People He Loves: Don't make an enemy out of someone who is in his "inner circle." Make it a point to stay on good terms with the important people in his life. | |||||||||||
| * Give Him What He Truly Wants--Not What You Think He Should Want: If your husband doesn't value something, don't put time and effort into giving it to him. Give him what he truly wants and values--and he will truly want and value you. If you learn to understand his needs, then you'll know exactly what you need to do. | |||||||||||
| I hope I've given you a few suggestions on how to keep your marriage alive and well. I don't just hope that your marriage lasts. There are lots of miserable "success stories" out there of marriages that lasted far longer than they should have. I hope your marriage not only stays alive--but also stays happy, passionate and fun. Best to you. | |||||||||||
| �������� Just remember: Life is too short not to put your own happiness first!� No matter which side of this issue you?re on. | |||||||||||
| ������������������������ THANKS FOR COMING TO MY PAGE!!! | |||||||||||
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