| "Daddy?" |
| I do not wear the title of Daddy because it is currently fashionable in the lesbian BDSM scene. People often ask me why I Identify as a "Daddy" and what that means to me. My relationship with my Dad(not biological) is not the greatest, I don't want to be him. What I do want to be is the breadwinner, protector and keeper of the family,and therefore the lover, protector, carer and occasional disciplinarian of my lover. I guess I see the girls and boys/bois I have been/am Daddy to as teenagers, between 13-17, but it depends upon the person, I have had Daddy/girl, Daddy/boy relationships... both are different and require different strategies, any bio father will tell you there are different ways to skin teenagers...*weg* I base my Dad-ness , on a few things, not having had much of a "Dad" I really go for the stereotypical Dad thing, with the exception of some of my Daddy/girl/boy relationships are sexual - and I admit I do base the sexual ones on a solid relationship, oh, and pornography *weg* . Being Daddy is **not** just something you make up, it is part of your being, What feels right. I have always been a carer, a rescuer, of people that are in trouble and need someone to talk to. Even if it gets in the way of my own life. I have been told that this is part of what Daddy is..... To me being a Daddy is a nurturing and caring as well as disciplinarian role, it is comng at things from a psychological POV before physical, Being a Daddy is not "convienient" or easy, it is real time 24/7/365 responisibilty. but out of it you get some of the most amazing connections with your "girls" or "boys" than you can imagine. I have missed nights sleep, I have worried over my girl while she has been ill, I have disciplined her naughtiness and encouraged her through scary times. I have had to pick up bois from Hospitals and care for them when they get too drunk and silly.We have worked through some rough patches and glossed over some blackspots in life.....But I am a Daddy, and that is a part of my job. and I would never change it, not for any money in the world. |
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