Jarl wishes us use third person if Any Free is there ..it signifies our place and emphasises that we own nothing at all, not thoughts, things or even our personhood ... should we be alone as bonds, we are free to use first person if we wish
A)upon entering the Lodge when Free are present, offer an entry post
B)Once the Stranger or Guest is greeted by the Free, greet Them and offer Them a bowl of warm water and rep to wash and refresh themself after their journey and offer them food and drink in the same post (if they wish both -- then fetch the bowl of water and rep and while they are washing fetch their drink and/or food)
C)Serving greeting when its quiet
Offer your entry post
Greet the Free individually using the greeting order and the drop down
greet the bonds while fetching the pitchers
If a Free person comes in from 'outside' (Pledged or guest). Greet them and ask if they wish a bowl of warm water and cloth to wash away their journey, in that same post offer them food and drink. If they wish both fetch the bowl of water and cloth and set it to the table before them before moving to fetch their food or drink.
D) Serving, greeting, offer of hospitality when its busy
if you come into the lodge and there are more than One Free...and you are the only bond or the Lodge is busy
Greet your Owner or the most Senior FM and offer service in the same post.
While you are waiting for His/Her answer you can greet the other Free. If you are unable to offer greetings to All do not worry as you can then either greet Them while offering service to the next Senior FM or when you are able to offer Them individual service.
bond serves are less bound by "steps" and "protocol"than determined by the Free you are serving. here are some things that may help you.
It is very rare for a bondmaid to be found on the furs unless she is with a Jarl or sleeping ..usually we are moving around ...serving, preparing food
Bonds offer to serve from whereever they are and do not kneel
Bonds move from the hall to the kitchen through a large open doorway
No testing for mars and nics.
No shining up of vessels/plates
There are Horns placed at the tables, but we can get a "special vessel", fill it and return or use the horn placed at the table. Bowls, Kantharos, Mugs, Goblets, Cups are all in the normal place on shelves in the kitchen
No testing for poisons or asking to test (that would presume that somehow the Jarl might be serving poisonous food or drink)
Jarls we serve from the back and to the left(Sword is on Their Right generally)we press our breasts to Their Back, whisper in Their Ears or hazard as seat on Their Thigh or even can sit on the table in front of them...but never sit the bench beside a Jarl unless permissions are given
FW we serve by easing our bums to the bench at Their Side or if They are Standing...we stand at Their Side
Personalize the toast in a natural way
Assume once you have received the response to your toast that you are released to serve others
You can greet and hold conversation while you are serving