No Covenant; No Commitment
Michael Sei
In everything that you do,
you are investing in your future. If you
live like hell today, you should expect to receive hell tomorrow. This principle speaks succinctly to the issue
of pre-marital sex. There are no rewards
for having sex before marriage: instant and immediate gratification of lust
will only bring the judgment of God...in the long run there can only be
negative results. You will have (1) sinned against God, you will have (2)
sinned against your own body, and you will have (3) sinned against the one you
had sexual intercourse with if you engage in this immoral behavior.
(1) In the
seventh of the Ten Commandments, God has commanded all of mankind
to be morally pure: "Thou shalt not commit adultery." Although it seems like a stretch to apply
this command to pre-marital sex, it must be understood that this commandment is
really a summary of all the commands like those found in Leviticus 18, which
are considered a definition of the seventh commandment. Or as the Westminster Shorter Catechism
states: "Question 71: What is
required in the seventh commandment?
Answer: The seventh commandment requires the preservation of our own and
our neighbor's chastity, in heart, speech, and behavior." Besides this Jesus Christ stated: 27 Ye
have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' 28 But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman
lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5 (RSV). What an indictment! No man has ever been guiltless of committing
this sin. I think that if Jesus Christ
condemned "checking" girls out, then He severely condemns pre-marital
sex.
(2)
You also sin against your own body when you engage in sexual intercourse
outside of the marriage covenant. You
take the risk of contracting an STD and /or getting pregnant. Abstinence until marriage is the only 'safe
sex' and 'no fail' contraceptive. Our
bodies were made for God's glory not our own pleasure, but we are extended
these pleasures inside of the marriage covenant. We steal from ourselves our future delight
with the wife or husband of our youth.
We trade our birthright for a pot of porridge, so to speak. We have the opportunity to give our future
spouse a beautiful gift on our wedding night, 'you are the first, I have remained true to you even before we met.' What an awesome concept! (Included are the
lyrics of a song that speaks of this message.)
(3)
You also sin against the one you are involved sexually with so long as you are
unmarried. For all the reasons you sin
against yourself, these same reasons are applicable.
About
a month ago, at my old job, I was talking with a coworker about this very
topic. I came out strongly in support
for abstinence until marriage-she already has two children-she said she wished
that she had waited until she was married...There is a major problem with
thinking that pre-marital sex is okay.
For those who value long-term commitment, it is clear to see that if there
is no marriage covenant; there is no assurance of true commitment.
Wait For Me
Rebecca St. James
Darling did you know
that I/I dream about you/Waiting for the look in your eyes/When we meet for the
first time/Darling did you know that I/I pray about you/Praying that you will
hold on/Keep your loving eyes only for me/I am waiting for/Praying for you
darling/Wait for me too/Wait for me as I wait for you/I am waiting for/Praying
for you darling/Wait for me too/Wait for me as I wait for you/Darling
wait/Darling did you know I dream about life together/Knowing it will be
forever/I'll be yours and you'll be mine/And darling when I say/Till death do
us part/I'll mean it with all of my heart/Now and always faithful to you/I am
waiting for/Praying for you darling/Wait for me too/Wait for me as I wait for
you/I am waiting for/Praying for you darling/Wait for me too/Wait for me as I
wait for you/Darling wait/Now I know you may have made mistakes/But there's
forgiveness and a second chance/So wait for me darling/Wait for me/Wait for me
She sings this "on
behalf of young women today, encouraging the future husbands of our generation
to stay sexually pure, to wait for us."