Loving Relationship
When I asked my near ones to
define loving relationship they define it as follows.
1.
A loving
relationship is choice partnership. Loving someone in who even imperfection is
seen as possibilities and therefore, a thing of beauty; where discovery
struggle and acceptance are the basis continued growth and wonderment.
2.
A loving
relationship is one in which individual’s trust each other enough to
become vulnerable, secure that the other person won’t take advantage. It
neither exploits nor takes the other for granted. It involves much
communication, much sharing, and much tenderness.
3.
A loving
relationship is one in which one can be open and honest with one other without
the fear of being judged. It’s being secure in the knowledge that you are
each other’s best friend
and no matter what happens you will stand by one other.
4.
A
loving relationship is one in which the individuals involved grow in their
understanding and loving acceptance of each other’s differences and
encourages each person to reach out and share as much beauty and love as is
possible to find.
5.
A
loving relationship is one in which you accept the other person the moment as a
whole and receive that same acceptance.
6.
A
loving relationship is one in which the distinctions of personal rights,
possessions, thoughts, emotions and even actions become blurred, and it
doesn’t matter, because we share as much as is humanly possible with the
same ultimate goals.
7.
A
loving relationship is a mystical, yet concrete, dynamic experience, fluid, an
end in itself rather than being a means to some end, where there are no
expectations of the other, yet a deep appreciation of the relationship because
of its intrinsic value, its possibilities, its wonder and its truth as it is
experienced with other.
8.
A
loving relationship is one in which there is a mutual caring about the growth
and progress of each, where possessiveness gives way to offering the other to
be his/her own person, where selfishness gives way to selfless giving, sharing
and caring, where the lines of communication are kept open, where the good in
each is maximized, the bad minimized.
9.
A
loving relationship is one in which each person fearlessly allows a deep
awareness, knowledge of the other, and sensitivity, to grow between them, with
the understanding that no one is perfect, but that love is perfect, and
therefore, as the basic tool for relating, can solve all problems.
10.
A
loving relationship is the unconditional acceptance of another person. Helping
him or her to attain personal goals, to grow and encouraging that growth. Each
sees the other as a friend who can be trusted, depended upon, and enjoyed.
11.
A
loving relationship is one of trust and acceptance, which creates a tender warm
feeling of security and contentment. It offers unlimited supports and strength
upon which one can always draw.
12.
A
loving relationship is an undemanding exchange of affection and concern, rooted
in total honesty and continuing communication without exploitation.
13.
A
loving relationship is not defined by length of time, but rather by quality of
caring. At its best, it is a healthy, mutual exchange of thoughts, feelings,
and experience. It is home for one’s soul - a place to be
ourselves and explore our deepest, inner yearnings, hopes, fears, and joys,
without fear of condemnation, rejection, or being abandoned. It is an
environment within which we can relax, are comforted, and gain the strength to
fight the daily battle.
14.
A loving
relationship is a reciprocal, active, changing bond that allows, encourages,
and in fact, almost demands using all the qualities necessary so that the lover
will be all that he or she can be.
15.
A
loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself to
laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me: to
love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based
upon freedom and can never grow in jealous heart.
16.
A
loving relationship is one, which offers comfort in silence presence of other
with whom you know, through words or body language; you share mutual trust,
honesty admiration, devotion, and that special thrill of happiness simply in
being together.
17.
A
loving relationship is one in which both parties feel so loved, so accepted and
so safe that they can share their innermost feelings, dreams, failures, and
successes, without reservation. It is a give and take, two ways reciprocal
interaction rooted in mutual respect and cloaked with dignity, where tears and
smiles are of equal importance and one that continually nurtures and supports
growth.
18.
A loving relationship
is like an ideal home within it you can totally be you, be accepted,
understood, trusted, and respected as a valuable being. It is a nurturing
environment where effort is made to provide enough caring and security so that
one is encouraged to learn and grow.
19.
A loving
relationship wants to celebrate, communicate, and know another’s heart
and soul.
20.
A loving
relationship is being able to express feelings frankly and honestly with
childlike spontaneous trust and openness.
21.
A loving
relationship is one in which each one sees the beloved not as extension of self
but as a unique, forever becoming, beautiful individual a situation in which
the persons can bring their own special I to each other, a blending of selves
without the fear of loss of self
For
long-lasting relationships my dear ones remind following points:
1. Don’t think in terms of forever. Think of now and
forever will take care of itself.
2. Grow up together, constantly
3. Expect to invest a great deal of time and energy in
your relationships. Lasting relationship don’t just happen, they are
created.
4. Recognize that all relationships cannot be forever.
Recognize their temporally qualities, but continue to act as if they are
permanent.
5. Respect the other person’s relationships apart
from you. If they are important to the one you care about, they should be
important to you.
6. Never idealize others. They will never live up to your
expectations.
7. Take your time to see them.
8. Remove price tags from people. Everyone has worth: the
excitement lies in the discovery of his or her value.
9. Don’t be afraid of giving. You can never give too
much, if you are giving willingly
10.
Don’t feel
as if you are required to spend your every waking hour with those you love.
Move aside from time to time and allow them a separate space, too.
11.
Never force anyone
to do anything for you” in the name of love.” Love is not to be
bargained for.
12.
Don’t over
analyze your relationships.
13.
Realize that you
always have choices. It’s up to you.
14.
Remember that a
relationship is a polling of resources. That means that with each relationship
you are not giving, you are becoming more.
15.
Don’t allow
experience to harden your heart; rather use it t become more aware and
sensitive.
16.
Don’t
smother each other. No one can grow in shade.
17.
Don’t lose
touch with the craziness in you. This with a large dose of caring, will assure
that your relationship will never boring.
18.
Don’t brood.
Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.
19.
Don’t hold
to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
20.
Always starts a
relationship by asking: do I have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to
this person? Am I planning to change the person? Do I need this person to help
make up for a deficiency in myself? If your answer to any of these questions is
“Yes” leave the person alone. He or she is
better off without you.
21.
There are times
when you may want to give up on a relationship, but never give up on relating.
22.
Keep the child in
you alive and playing.
23.
See peoples good
and beautiful, even when they seem to be trying hard not to appear so.
24.
If you take time
to talk together each day you’ll never become strangers.
25.
Divorce, fighting,
arguing, will never solve your problems: better to try understanding, warmth
and flexibility.
26.
Value yourself.
The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes.
27.
Stop going through
life in self-pity, self-blame. We are not as bad as we think
28.
Before you form a
relationship, ask yourself if there are things about the other that you
can’t stand. If there are ask yourself if you would be able to lie with
these things forever. If the answer is “no,” then leave it alone.
29.
Write down all the
reasons why you love each person you relate with. Then, when the going gets
tough, take the list out and reread it. It resolves problems quickly.
30.
Don’t make
the other’s problems yours. It only makes solving it twice as difficult.
31.
Don’t be
afraid of disagreements and arguments, the only people who don’t argue
are people who don’t care or are dead. In fact, don’t have short
arguments. Make certain they are thoroughly over and done with.
32.
After an argument
is over, forget it.
33.
Learn to bend.
It’s better than breaking.
34.
Don’t take
yourself so seriously; but never fall to take the other person seriously.
35.
Don’t become
involved in pettiness, ego, and childish hurts. These will only serve to
degrade your relationships and prevent closeness.
36.
Watch for little
irritations, they grow into destructive monsters. Verbalize them at once.
37.
Let go of pride.
It is usually false, creates barriers, and prevents closeness.
38.
Acknowledge
humanness of the other.
39.
Keep examine the
nature of each of your relationships for they are dynamic, not static and are,
therefore changing for better or worse.
40.
Exercise feelings.
Feelings have meaning only as they are expressed in action.
41.
Increases tenderness
and intimacy. They are a powerful source of nourishment to relationships.
42.
Be compassionate,
it is the sure way to understand and acceptance.
43.
See all criticism
as positive for it leads to self-evaluation. You are always free to reject it
if it is unfair or does not apply.
44.
Learn to listen.
You don’t learn anything from hearing yourself talk.
45.
Stop all worry.
Most of what you are worried about you’ll have difficulty remembering a
week later.
46.
Expect what is
reasonable, not what is perfect.
47.
If each partner is
a relationship is willing to give up75% of him or her self, then you will have
50% more than you need for a perfect relationship.
48.
Since love can be
created, there is no reason to be loveless.
49.
Don’t allow
anyone to put you on a pedestal. It’s too easy to fall off.
50.
Don’t be
concerned about what you get from a relationship. Instead, concern yourself
with what you can bring to it.
51.
Stop playing
games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.
52.
Even though you
are only halt of a relationship, you must remain a whole person, apart from the
relationship.
53.
What a grand
feeling to have a relationship with someone who is loved not only by you, but
also by many. That means you’ve made a good choice.
54.
The creating of
anything worthwhile takes patience and energy.
55.
Forming good
relationships takes a lot of looking. But looking can be fun.
56.
Remember that
moral and spiritual values don’t restrict, they protect.
57.
Keep laughing. It
exercises your heart and protects you from cardiac problems.
58.
Relationships are
not sporting events. Stop wrestling for control. No one ever wins this kind of
match expect divorce lawyers.
59.
Perhaps it’s
not too bad to do some things you’d rather not if it makes another happy.
60.
What you learn
about yourself will infinitely help in trying to understand others.
61.
See problems as
small miracles, which can bring about knowledge and change.
62.
Even though
maintaining your integrity as a person, strive to make yourself one with
another. You can do this best if you make each one THE ONE.
63.
Don’t fall
in love with love; you’ll drown in its complexities.
64.
Be polite. Love
does not give license for rudeness.
65.
You are at the
center of all your relationships; therefore you are responsible for your
self-esteem, growth, happiness, and fulfillment. Don’t expect the other
person to bring you these things. You must live as if you are alone and others
are the gifts offered to help you to enrich your life.
66.
When you get angry
with someone it might be well to stop and consider all the things you like
about them before you respond.
67.
Don’t allow
your relationship to die of neglect.
©
rabin rachalica 2007
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1.Tourism
Tourism is a type of industry, which helps to
promote other business. Local people are beneficiated from visitors as they
contribute some money in terms of lodging, fooding and entertainment. The
visitors get information about the goods produced in places they visited. They
also get chance to know quality, type and kind of goods produced and
manufactured.
It is human nature to learn
new matter and things. Visiting new places make us entertained and get relief
from daily works. A beautiful and peaceful place is needed to organize a
business party or any other auspicious ceremony. So such programs are organize in places decorated with traditional styles, far
from urban pollution and facilitated with modern equipments. Education has
become basic need. Nowadays people like to continue their studies, remaining
outside home. The people from outside come to live in the
place and get services from local resident. Establishment of high
quality academic institution can promote educational tourism.
2. Tourism in Bhaktapur
Following are the type of tourism that can be
promote in Bhaktapur
2.1 Cultural Tourism: Culture is the
things we get from ancestors. We are rich in following types of cultures.
2.1.1. Manner: It is way in which we treat
with other. We Bhaktapur are very friendly and co-operative. We are famous for
our good manner in foreign countries. Most of foreigners visit Bhaktapur to get
company of good people.
2.1.2. Jatras: There is a lot of jatras
celebrate in Bhaktapur to get entertained and enjoy. During Bisket jatra and
Gaijatra and on days of other festival many people come in this town to observe
those Jatras.
2.1.3. Monuments: There are a lot of unique
temples and historical places in Bhaktapur. Nyatapola, 55-windows palace,
2.1.4 Gallies: The narrow streets are called Gallies.
Some of Gallies are Kisimhanhyon Galli, Pangracha Galli, Damala Galli,
Dugumalla Galli, Kwathadau Galli, Kamicha Galli, Khichhen Galli, Kuthumala
Galli and others.
2.1.5. Ponds: There are about 40 ponds in
Bhaktapur. These ponds are also religious sites. Siddhapokhari, Kamalpokhari,
Yatumahadev Pokhari are main ponds of Bhaktapur.
2.1.6. Hities: The traditional tap made of
stones are found all over the bhaktapur.. People use
water from such tap for their daily uses. Although the water source has been
blocked water supply from pipeline is adopted. All the hities of bhaktapur are
in good condition physically.
2.2 Business Tourism
Bhaktapur exports following goods in other part of
world.
2.2.1 Curd: Bhaktapur is famous for king
curd. King curd is sweet kind of dish available all over Bhaktapur.
2.2.2 Vegetables: Most of people in Bhaktapur
are farmers, who grow various types of vegetables and supply in major city of
2.2.3 Handicraft: foreigners like Handicraft
of Bhaktapur. Homemade clothes, earthen materials, needlework, paper materials,
and sculptures are handicrafts manufactured in Bhaktapur.
2.2.4. Woodcarving: The Woodcarvings of
Bhaktapur are liked all over the globe. A lot of woodcarvings are exported
every year.
2.3. Educational Tourism: There are
some foreign students studding in KU
2.4. MICE Tourism: The halls of durbar
square and museums can be rented for meetings and other ceremonies. The open
places of Taumadhi, Layakuu, Bolachhen, and Tachapal can be use as exhibition
grounds.
Conclusion: Hence we can say that
Bhaktapur is potential of both external and internal tourism.The local
businesspersons should invest in this industry if they wish welfare of
Bhaktapur and its citizens. Only after promotion of this business other
industries can be developed and promoted.
Although
Bhaktapur is suitable for
learn Nepali culture and tradition. We can know and observe traditional
monument having significant historical meanings. We invite schools to observe
and watch historical monuments of Bhaktapur. As you know Bhaktapur is cultural
city of
The
five storied temple, Dattatrya temple Taleju temple, and 55-Window Palace.
Peacock window, are major historical site. Beside these there is the tallest
Linga of Nepal at hanuman Ghat.
Student
can also learn how to make clean their city by visiting here. Now a day
Bhaktapur is regarded as the cleanest town of
About
one Lakhs foreign visitor visits this town. And the municipality
earn about ten millions each year from tourists.
There
fore to make student familiar with Bhaktapur we invite you to organize a trip
to here, we hope that after a visit your students will learn to keep clean
their surrounding as in Bhaktapur and they also learn about culture and
tradition of Bhaktapur
So,
we hope you will contact us to fix a date to visit this city.
© rabin rachalica 2000
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