First, create a quiet, calming environment. Turn off all lights. Light a white, off-white, yellow, or red candle. Place the candle so that the flame is out of your direct field of view from where you will be sitting, or laying. (this part is important)
     Light the Jasmine incense, and allow it to smoke the room a little. Put it close to where you will be sitting or laying.
     Next, put on some light, calming or soothing music, non-lyrical and without a lot of drastic changes to it. The music needs to flow evenly so that it helps to calm, but does not draw attention to itself. Turn it up to drowned out any silence or house noises, but not loud enough to be noticed after a few moments.
     Make yourself as comfortable as possible. Remove any jewelry or clothing that you will constantly be aware of on your person, such as a pendant that as you try to relax you just keep noticing it resting on your sternum (example). If you are acutely aware of little things like this, then you cannot completely relax, and this will not work.
     Take the Hematite (The shiny metallic grey-black stone) into your right hand. Place it so that it is comfortably resting in your palm, almost to the point that, after a time, it seems to feel as if it melds into your hand. Then place the Quartz or Fluorite stone in your left hand, comfortable in the palm, just as the other.
     Close your eyes, and control your breathing. Deep, slow, easy breaths. Allow your body to feel a slight airyness, but be careful, …don’t fall asleep. When you have achieved this, begin to envision all the anger, or fear, or upset nerves, or whatever has you distressed as emanating a pale red glow. Then envision all of the red slowly, gradually drawing itself through your body, pulling itself toward your right shoulder, moving down your right arm, into your hand, then into the hematite stone. Hematite is legendary for having the unique capability of drawing negativity into itself, and out of the object it touch, whether it be human, animal, or inanimate.
     As the red glow slowly gets sucked into the hematite, envision the crystal stone in your Other hand gently drawing in the calm atmosphere of the room, and allowing it to seep into your left hand, becoming a pale blue or white illumination as it does so. Envision the blue or white glow slowly flow through your body, filling every point that the red had just left, until it eventually reaches the hematite stone in your right hand.
     At this point, stop. Open your eyes, take a deep breath. Lay the stones down away from you, not touching each other, and just allow yourself to continue relaxing, listening to music, smelling the jasmine, watching the candle flame flicker. And remember to lay your hematite upon the earth overnight to allow the negative energies to draw out of the stone.

(by Nikolai)