What increases your chances of getting into a false dowry case ?

(This study only shows the chances of risk of a false dowry case. This need not necessarily mean it will happen always.)

One simple thumb rule is: The girl's mother is dominant with a big ego( or short tempered) and her father is a henpecked husband. This combination makes the house unstable because of overemotionalism. Henpecked men being supressed develop vicious traits. So, while mother-in-law remains dominant and arrogant, the father-in-law behaves viciously. Girls subconsciously seek men who are similar in behaviour to their fathers. So, a girl from this kind of a house has a greater chance to have serious marital problems as she needs a henpecked husband. If the guy is non-assertive and principled (gender equality oriented), then this humility is often considered as a weakness in above kind of families.

Family: Is newly-rich: Likes to show-off (thir house/cars/paintings/relatives/ connections, etc.); Related to politicians/bureaucrats/lawyers/judges/police officers; Has a history of filing cases against anybody and everybody (search the website of the courts in their State of residence); Beats up its employees; Lives beyonds its means; Mother's face cannot be seen beneath the layers of cosmetics; Father acts like a 'Brown Sahib'; Girl/her sister has been in more than one previous relationship, etc.
A push for a quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "I�ve/We've never felt loved like this by anyone/or so close to anybody." An Abusive woman/her family pressures the man/his family for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly: prevents you from going to work because �you might meet someone;" smells your jacket for perfume residue, checks your shirt collar for lipstick marks and goes through your pant pockets.
Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you�re late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; wants her name on all your assets/control all the money.
Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect man and meet her and her family's every need.
Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your well wishers of "causing trouble."
Blames others for problems and mistakes: The boss/the employee, her ex-boyfriend/ ex-husband, it�s always someone else�s fault if anything goes wrong.
Makes everyone else responsible for her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry instead of, "I am angry� or, "You�re hurting me by not doing what I tell you." Less obvious is the claim "You make me happy."
Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming that her feelings are hurt when she is really mad. She�ll rant about the injustice of things that are just part of life.
Cruelty to animals and to children: Kills, maims (e.g., tears the wings off a butterfly) or punishes animals brutally (e.g., by kicking them till they bleed). Also may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (makes an 18 month old stand in a corner or whips a 2-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.
"Playful" use of coercion during sex: Enjoys initiating and controlling sex, stimulating herself and teasing; asks about your sexual fantasies.
Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes you/your family, or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things; degrades, curses, calls you/your family ugly names. This may also involve sleep deprivation, waking you up with relentless verbal abuse.
Rigid sex roles: Expects you to serve and obey her/her family.
Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a trotter of minutes or even more confusing, within seconds. You feel as you are walking on "eggshells" around her.
Past behaviour: May not actually admit to hitting men in the past (but may write it in her journal/diary and says they made her do it or the situation brought in on).
Threats: Makes statements like, "My parents will support me even if I murder someone," or "A woman is always right/the system should always believe the woman" or "I will cut you up the way a fisherman slices fish" and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didn�t really mean it." If she has come this far, it is time to get help and get out!

Disclaimer: This page is entirely my perception of scheme of things, and there is no attempt to cloud anyone's judgement or manipulate perceptions in anyway.

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