The
Freewoman's
Handbook
by
Dangrus

Chapter 2
Free women and flirting

It is not easy being a Gorean free woman. It is even more difficult to earn the right to call oneself that and be regarded as such by one's peers. Simply strutting into Gor with a capped name is not enough.

In the two and a half years or so that I have been in Gor, it is only within the past year that I have honestly felt I had the right to call myself a Gorean woman. This is a journey into the self. Taking a long hard look at what it is that makes us the person we are. Defining our strengths and facing our weaknesses without flinching.

I know full well what it is to prance into Gor and thumb one's nose at the cultural "rules," with that "I'm free and not a slave so I can do whatever I wish, neener, neener," attitude. I was the Queen of that.

But... and this is a big "but"... I was wrong. And there was always someone around to tell me exactly how wrong I was. (Some more tactfully than others.)

This seems to be a "phase" all FW go through, whether they admit it or not. It is not easy being around slaves who drip with sensuality. It is only natural to crave some of that male attention that is lavished on the slaves. We can be just as sensual, just as loving, just as female.. the difference is the manner in which those things are expressed. When a Gorean man wants sex, he will simply take a slave. When he seeks a free woman, he is looking for much more than a roll in the furs.

We all make mistakes. I am the first to admit that the path I have taken through Gor has been rocky and riddled with screw ups. Most of mine have been very public and I own each one. From a naked romp on New Year's Eve, to public scening, there were some whoppers. But each my own. And each time someone slapped me down, I argued and defended... until I finally began to learn. I choose to remember them rather than forget since each was a lesson. Yes, I have screwed up royally at times, but I have also known the feel of a boot on my neck, and I have known the devastating pain of knowing that my "fun" cost me the respect of one I held in high esteem.

You and you alone must make the decision as to what you seek here. If you wish to become a Gorean free woman, then learn what that is.

But if you are only trolling for a companion... try the Pick-up bar.

I wish you well,
Dangrus

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