Good As You

Frequently Asked Questions



A supportive and safe social space for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgender [LGBT] people and other sexuality-minorities

To know more about Good As You, Contact Sahaya Help Line.
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What is "LGBT"?

LGBT stands for Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, and Transgender persons.  It is commonly used to denote many sexuality-minorities. On this site also, we use "LGBT" this way.

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What is a Good As You meeting like?

Good As You meeting normally begins with the participants introducing themselves. A member then volunteers to chair the meeting and sets an agenda for that meeting. This could be anything from discussions on falling in love or coming out to parents to discussing movies and relationships or playing group games. Nothing rigid goes into the agenda and all the meetings are flexible. Anything important could get discussed at any time, especially if it is a member's personal issue.. It is a support group interaction not a share-holder's meeting!

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I have arrived at a Good As You meeting.  Now what?

Just sit down, make yourself comfortable. If you are not comfortable introducing yourself, you don't have to. If you don't want to take part in the discussions, you don't have to. No one will force you to do anything in the meetings. Just observe how the group functions and when you feel comfortable with it, join in anytime. But remember, this is a space for you and without your opinions and suggestions, the group becomes useless.

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What do you mean by "safe" space?

A "safe" space is a space where people can feel comfortable with who they are and interact with other people like them. In such a space, people feel "safe".  Good As You offers such a space.

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What do you mean by "supportive" space?

A space that provides emotional and psychological support, like Good As You does for LGBT people, is called a "supportive" space. LGBT people can take comfort and support from the knowledge that they are not alone.

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Can I cruise at Good As You?

Good As You is a social space for LGBT people to become comfortable with themselves and make friends.

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Are Good As You meetings confidential?

Any information that is passed around in Good As You is confidential.  All members should treat that information as confidential. 

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Who can attend Good As You meetings?

Anyone who is , and is not identified as exclusively heterosexual is welcome to attend the Good As You meetings.

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How do I become a member of Good As You?

If you are 18 years old or more, and you identify yourself as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or some other sexuality minority then all you have to do is walk into the meeting and you are a member. You don't have to fill up any forms nor do you pay any membership fee! 

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Who are the members of Good As You?

Self-identified gay men, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people are members of Good As You.

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Is counseling available?

Good As You is itself a supportive space and you can make friends, essential for someone who is going through a lot of confusion and wants to understand themselves. For referral to a professional counsellor, contact SAHAYA, a telephone help line (223-0959 Call Tuesdays/Fridays, 7 p.m. - 9 p.m.)

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I have heard that support group meetings are boring and not fun.  Is this true of Good As You also?

Good As You is what you make it, as its member. Anyone can start a discussion and provide interesting insights. You can start a game for all to play or just sing songs.  

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I don't speak English.  Can I still attend Good As You meetings?

Sure you can. Sometimes Good As You meetings are held in Kannada or Hindi with English translations. At other times English meetings are translated into Kannada or Hindi. Language is not a barrier.

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Are all gay men feminine (that is, effeminate)?

No. Being gay or lesbian or bisexual has nothing to do with being effeminate or masculine. There are gay men who are not effeminate just as there are straight men who are effeminate. There are lesbians who are not masculine just as there are straight women who are masculine.

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Is there a gay magazine in Bangalore? How do I subscribe to it?

Sangha Mitra is an LGBT newsletter published from Bangalore. Good As You is its patron. There are also other newsletters and magazines about which Good As You can give you information. Contact Good As You.

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Do I have to give my real name or give any personal details or address etc. ?

You don't have to give any personal details like your real name, phone number, address, if you are not comfortable giving them. A lot of our members initially provide other names until they grow comfortable. 

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What resources (such as books, magazines, pamphlets, etc.) are available in Bangalore for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people?

Organisations like Sangama and Swabhava have LGBT documentation like books, newsletters and magazines which you can read.

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Can I get pornographic materials at Good As You?

No.

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How do I find gay/lesbian-friendly doctors, psychiatrists, counsellors, etc.?

Organisations like Swabhava and Sangama and Sahaya help line can provide referrals to LGBT-friendly professionals including lawyers, doctors, psychiatrists, counsellors, etc.

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I am not gay, but I have sex with men.  Can I come to a Good As You meeting?

Yes. Good As You is a space for people to find answers for themselves about their own sexualities.

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I am attracted to both men and women.  Can I come to a Good As You meeting?

Yes. Good As You is a space for people to find answers for themselves about their own sexualities.

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Do straight people come to Good As You meetings?

The group simply accepts your description of your sexuality. No one can determine a person's sexuality by looking at them or merely talking to them.

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At Good As You meetings, can I meet people who have come out to their parents, friends, etc.?

Yes you can.

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Can I find relationships / partners / lovers at Good As You?

Good As You is a space for becoming comfortable with yourself. Good As You does not involve itself in finding partners for anyone.

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I just want to have sex.  Will Good As You meetings help me?

No.

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I have come out to my parents.  How can they talk to other similar parents?

Talk to Good As You members who have come out to their parents. They may be able to help you.

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I hear that homosexuality is illegal in India.  Then how come Good As You has meetings?  Aren't they illegal?

By law, it is the act of sodomy that is illegal. Identifying yourself as gay or lesbian, by itself, is not illegal. Discussions and interactions form the crux of Good As You meetings.

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