Advice from "the Rockstar" Robotgirl, So I had some time and I figured I'd scope out Robotgirl's site. What a sad state of events you've found yourself in. You chase the ones who aren't interested and rebuff those who are. Unfortunately, that's the way this shit always seems to work. I'd have to add that my experience has been similar save the last girl. I'd always been chased and unsatisfied or turned away with my crushes. My last gf was the only one I adored that I'd managed to convince I was equaly worthy of her attention. But of course, we both know how that ended. Anyway, back to you. So you want to maintain a healthy relationship with Robotboy. that's a good sign. (After all that I've heard about him,he sounds like a real gem...) But before you begin the cycle of gifts to win his favor again (I remember the keychain), think about how you'd react to such behavior. Wouldn't you feel yourself getting comfortable with the fact that you were going to receive the attention in the relationship? All of the sudden, you want the roles to reverse and he's not ready for it. Either that, or don't expect anything in return. In the immortal words of Ferris Bueller, "You can't love someone who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work." In that vein, I would stress that the most important thing in a relationship is an equal amount of respect and trust between the two participants. If you ever find yourself in a relationship where one person likes the other person even a little bit more, you've got trouble. Everyone can sense that feeling of control over their bf/gf and it's always a turnoff. I sense from your writing that you keep finding yourself in these situations. The sad postscript to that anectdote is that you can't manufacture a level playing field between lovers. If you and Robotboy don't see each other on that same level of interest, it will always be a struggle. that's why celebrities marry celebrities, ugly people marry ugly people, bipolars marry bipolars and so on. Funny story, (at least for you) I once was in Boston and managed to talk my way into a (not-so-famous but beautiful still) model's panties for an evening. The thing was, I was so aware of how gorgeous she was that I couldn't really enjoy what was going on. Don't get me wrong, I still performed and revved her engine but it was missing that "gusto" if you know what I mean. But that's neither here nor there... As for the self confidence issue, I don't believe you think you're unattractive or unintelligent but this pattern reeks of someone seeking approval from the opposite sex. One possibility could be that you are more comfortable making someone notice you as opposed to having them notice you first. Like you want to hand pick them and win them over. If they show an interest in you before you've done your gift/favor routine, then they're not worth your time. Anyway, at the bottom line is always the advice. If you're not getting what you want from Robot boy, look around and make him jealous in the process. I would concentrate on not taking anyone for granted. Some of the most solid relationships are built on one person acquiescing after months or even years of pursuit. If you have men chasing you, let them catch you. After all, if they dig you, they must at least have good taste.I doubt I helped here but if I did, great. See ya next week. Rockstar~ ***************************************************************************** ***************************************************************************** ***************************************************************************** Advice from "the Girly Girl" Robotgirl, DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM! And start calling him by his last name. And have him start calling you by yours. That was given to me by you know who and it makes sense in an odd sort of way. Love, Girly Girl |