(who the hell is this crazy chick?)
The STATS:
Genetic Female (Yes, I was BORN this way....no crying game here...you can exhale now.)
Irish / German decent
Large family - 4 sisters, 8 nieces and nephews (and one on the way)
Long reddish-brown hair (but gets blonde streaks in summer, and yes, I have had some fun with hair dye - I like to experiement. That's what we artsy fartsy chicks do. )
Eyes - blueish-greenish-grey. My eyes are like a mood ring. They change from blue to green to grey. Depends on many factors: What I am wearing, the lighting, my mood. Who knows. I am a freakin' chameleon.
Short - 5'1"
Busty, curvy, vuluptous, BBW. - My weight fluctuates. Some consider me a BBW, some don't because I am under 300 pounds.
Seriously, I don't know my weight. I stopped weighing myself a long time ago. I've been as low as 126 and as high as 210, I would guess. I am probably hovering around 170 right now. I have big boobs - they fluctuate with my weight too - but no matter how small I have been, I have always been busty (D, DD, DDD). Shoot, my breasts started to peek out to say hello when I was in the 5th grade.! Bottom line: No matter what, I'll never be "skinny" and don't want to be. I think all those hollywood chicks are gross and emaciated. Even Marylin Monroe was never smaller than a size 10 - those chicks are a size 4? YUCK! Even at my thinnest, I always had a gut and hips. The only way that would ever change is through plastic surgery so unless you have a few thousand extra dollars, that's the way it's gonna stay.
So why am I doing this crazy internet thing?
1. Cause I'm cheap and geocities is free. Ha ha ha. yea...well, I did try a few dating sites but I just don't want to pay those damn fees - you can post an ad for free but can't respond to anyone unless you let them hack your bank account. ENOUGH! Also, none of those sites let me truly express myself or post links. I HATE censorship. If I am going to PAY for an ad, I should be able to write whatever the hell I want! I don't want to play by their rules - I am playing by my own. I create my own world - it's a pretty cool place, you might want to come visit sometime. :-)
2. I really do want to meet someone special. It's hard to meet decent single men these days and since I am not shy, what the hell? I've got nothing to lose.
3. I am tired of wasting time - mine or the man's. Traditional dating is ok, and well, was ok in my twenties. I'm done with that now. I am ready to settle down. I am ready to find my best friend, lover, and father of my children. I am tired of meeting someone I think is nice, investing time and emotion, only to be disapointed or traumatized by something that could have been avoided from day one, had we only had the balls to put it out on the table. That is what I am doing here - laying it all out. Fair warning. no excuses. Avoiding train wrecks as much as possible. Know what I mean? Many will be (and are) critical and say that I am giving too much away. "There's no mystery, dear." Ha! I say! So what? But I also say, "bullshit!". No mystery? Are you kidding me? First of all, if you are looking for some exotic scarlet peacock on the orient express with Hurcule Peroit, Ms Marple, and Sherlock Holmes guiding you on a hunt for "the real goddess comedia", then you are barking up the wrong tree anyway and I don't have time for those silly games. (although putting on a play with such a plot, would be a freakin' good time! ) Secondly, I am not words on a website. This is only a glimpse into who I am. It's a preview - nobody can read all my blatherings and know the real me and get into my soul. That takes time and in-person experience. I am not 'giving away' anything that you couldn't find out on a first or second date with me anyway. So just think of if as a tiny bit of fast-forwarding, be appreciative that you KNOW what you are getting yourself into, and either jump on this ride or move on. It' really not that big a deal. And besides, being 'open' IS who I am so poo-poo on anybody who doesn't like it.
4. This might be fun. Did you ever think of that? Any guy who actually takes the time to go through all this will have a HUGE advantage and CREATIVE men get major bonus points over any Joe Blow I would meet in a bar or at a party. Consider it an adventure - and good practice. Even if I'm not for you or you aren't for me, you might find that some of the stuff you write to me might help you figure your own shit out, and better prepare you for the right woman. (Thanks, I'll take my bow later...)
5. Although I am very outgoing, my boldness often gets mistaken for being really strong and confident. Yea, I am confident about some things - but I must confess that dating has damaged my self esteem greatly. I have many faults - just like you - and I guess I am being a tad cowardly by trying to avoid any more disapointment. Oh well! So I am being up front: I am a short fat chick. I talk alot. I am opinionated and like my soap box. I am stubborn. I am a procastinator. I am poor.I can be very emotional. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I need attention. I need reassurance. I need a committment.This is me. if you don't think you can handle that, move on. Let's just avoid the bull. No harm no foul.
6. I am tired of men answering my ads who obviously have not READ or paid attention to what is important to me. It shows a lack of respect. I am looking for the guy who has enough sense in his head to pay attention to the details. I have repeated certain things and made several things OBVIOUS and kind of pushy FOR A REASON! Why, for example, do men who don't want kids FREAKING RESPOND TO ME??????? Or racists? Why the hell would you even try? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!
GO AWAY PLEASE! I mean what I say and I say what I mean. I am determined to find a man who gets it. Maybe this website will lead me to him, maybe not, but at least I'm trying. :-)
Oh yea, I almost forgot....I have herpes. Got it from a cheating boyfriend in 1992. Close your mouth....do you know how common it is? Haven't you seen all those commercials for valtrex? Do you really think the drug companies would be spending that much on advertising unless a gozillion people would need the product? Think about it. Here is some info: Depending on who you ask, the CDC, ASHA, NIH ect... 1 out of every 4 or 5 people have it and its the largest growing silent epidemic among teens. ( I finally told my niece recently and she was not even shocked - "oh that, yea...like all my friends have that".) Sad, but true. 80 % of the population has been exposed to oral herpes. (if you have ever had a cold sore, you have it). Doctors say that the stats are probably even higher because so many people won't tell others they have it and pass it on, and many many many people are carrying the virus without symptoms. So, theoretically, YOU - yes YOU, the guy reading this - could have it right now and not know it. I have never cheated on anyone and always been responsible and even I got it. It sucks. However, after all these years, I can tell you it's not that big a deal and I am one of the lucky ones who does not have frequent outbreaks. Got questions? Here are some good links for all your HERPES / STD curiosity and education: ASHA , HERPES.COM, HERPES.ORG, niaid.nih.gov/factsheet.
Ok. Moving on.
Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo....here comes more....
As I said, I have done some online dating websites. Here is a sampling of some of the ads I have written:
ON MATCH.COM (as liberaleventgirl)
"Fun, Fabulous, Outgoing, plump and silly looking for my goofy prince charming to raise kids with."
I am a: 35 yr old woman
located in: Baltimore, Maryland, United States
looking for: 35 to 40-year old man within 50 miles of Baltimore, Maryland, United States
relationships: Committed relationships but never married
my ethnicity: White / Caucasian
body type: Big and beautiful height: 5� 1� (154.9 cms)
sign: Sagittarius
About me and who I'd like to date:
Looking for marriage and children with an open minded and trustworthy man. A sense of humor is REQUIRED. Bigots need not apply and cheaters need to go away. I believe cheaters and racists are evil. I have a multicultural family and diverse friends and love them all so take your hate elsewhere. I am ONLY attracted to non-skinny outgoing men with a big sense of HUMOR. :-) Outgoing and social. I am very loyal to those who deserve it, so treat me well, and I am yours. I believe in honesty, fidelity, and communication. PASSION is my middle name and laughter is my medicine. Once you make me feel safe, my libido soars. I am opinionated and strong - but looking for my equal. Shy and easily intimidated men, please don't waste your time. I simply love fun and new experiences. I am very eclectic in my interests- especially music. I love the kaleidoscope that is life. Even though I'm outgoing and strong-willed, I prefer the man to take the lead. I don't mind the occasional serve, but when the ball is in your court, you gotta hit it back IMMEDIATELY or I will think you no longer want to play. I am done playing with boys though. I want a real man - a man who knows what he wants, and knows he wants me, and SHOWS IT. No wishy washy stuff! I WANT A MAN OF ACTION AND ROMANCE! I would reward you well. I'm modern and independent - but I long to find another to share it all with. Come on man, where are you? Where's my lovable huggable bear? Not been loved in a while- but I know what it feels like, and I long for it again. That man who looks at me and sees only me - and the real me, and thinks I am beautiful - who doesn't care what the rest of the world thinks and knows a good thing when he experiences it. No fear in love or expression. None of us are perfect - we all have scars. I don't expect perfection - just a little bit of effort. I have 437737 reasons for still being single. SPECIAL PRIZE for the one who answers this correctly: "Where do you get your inspirado?" and "What does Canadian Yarn Art do?"
FROM ANOTHER DATING WEBSITE:
Note: Bigots (racists, antisemitists, gay bashers, sexists, snobs) please stay far away from me - trust me, I am not your cup of tea so let's not waste eachother's time, ok?
If you plan on writing to me, please read the whole thing and then respond accordingly. If this is too long for you, pass me by. It's fine...then we aren't a match anyway. Also, please proofread. Use spell check if you have to. Use capitals at the beginning of a sentence and a period at the end. Begin a new paragraph when you start a new thought. Occasional mistakes and typos are not a big deal....(I am really not that picky and I make occasional mistakes and typos too), but if your writing is incoherent, we aren't going to get along too well...just being honest. Some of you would be shocked if you saw some of the messages I have gotten. No need to get sarcastic with me or scared to write to me...I am not some old maid English teacher who is going to smack you with a ruler!!! Just THINK and proofread to make sure you have the basics down, that's all. I would appreciate it. Thank You.
Regardless of my "Just friends" status, here is my original ad:
This ad is long.....so what!!!!!!!! if you read it all, you will impress me! hehe Also, I no longer meet men alone for a date. If you want to meet me, you must agree to meet me at a social event in a group setting. otherwise - thanks for stopping by and have a nice day. Why? 1) SAFETY!!! 2) I'm social, you should be too 3)I find value / insight in watching how people behave in a crowd and seeing me in a group can give you a lot of insight about me too. 4)It's more fun 5) If we don't "dig" eachother, the evening isn't wasted - others to meet and hang out with 6) If we do "click", we can always leave ;-) 7) MORE SAFETY! (this is true for guys too - think about it - if you meet a chick and she turns out to be "psycho" - wouldn't it be nice to have a safety net of people around?)
SEND ME A PICTURE if you expect a response and tell me WHY you are responding. Proove to me you read this long rant I have written...lol!!!! It will show me this: 1)You have stamina.(Yippeeee!) 2)You can read 3)You aren't afraid of words 4)You aren't afraid of a woman with an opinion 5)You just might have a sense of humor - always a good thing! 6)You value communication 7)You just might be crazy enough for me 8)You are adventerous and took a chance to write to someone who has soooooooo much to say 9)Something about what I wrote connected to you 10) You probably like what I like
Sooooo....Are you outgoing and friendly? Are you an extrovert who can also enjoy a quiet evening cuddling with a loved one? Then you are in the right place! :-)
Would you like to be with a very outgoing person who likes to socialize and try new things? Do you have a sense of humor? I think a sense of humor is really important. I love comedians! Perhaps you could come over and cuddle with me on the couch while we watch "The Daily Show with John Stewart" on Comedy Central.
In addition to an English degree, I also have a degree in Theatre, so yes...I can be quite a drama Queen.(LOL)(That means flayboyant and fun drama not the whiney, bitchy,"issues" drama.) I have many talents including writing poetry and singing. Have you ever been serenaded by a lady?
I am liberal and open minded so I hate bigotry of any kind. Preferences are fine...we all have them, but bigotry involves the opinions that one group is BETTER than another and usually involves hate that I cannot tolerate. I have a multicultural family so it is important that the man I am with is accepting of that. The only time I am not liberal is when it comes to children. I believe most people these days are not parenting their kids correctly, if at all, so I plan on being a strict parent.
I love animals, kids, the arts - especially Theatre, books,poetry, movies, traveling, just hangin', and visiting with my very large family. I have a very eclectic taste in music - From classical to country to rock to R&B, Jazz, GO-GO, New age, Musicals, Big Band, Doo Wop, Hip Hop...whatever suits the mood. Want to dance with me?
I hope you enjoy curves since I am far from skinny. I have a full figure and I am all woman! Yes I am a BBW. If you like my picture, then just wait till you meet my personality!LOL. These two photos are pretty recent - June 02. So this is me, however I am quite the chameleon so I have many different "looks". :-) I am 5'1" with healthy legs and "busty". But just ask and I can send you more updated pics.
What am I looking for? MARRIAGE and KIDS. Having children is something I want very much and is non- negotiable. Also non-negotiable are my feelings about bigotry and prejudice. A friendly man who can get along with a wide variety of people and believes in equality is sexy!!! I am looking for a cuddly man who can make a relationship his priority, is open minded, likes kids, romantic, and most importantly - very outgoing. If you are shy...forget about it. Sorry, but shyness just doesn't gel with me. I have a lot to share and want to build a life with someone who wants to be with an opinionated, independant, bold, and artistic woman. I need a man who will not be embarrassed by my outgoing behavior and preferably join me. He needs to be able to hold is own and be able to speak to anyone. I also need a man who is flexible (jeans or a tux) and is willing to try new things.
Although I have strong qualities, I have a very soft side as well. I am a die hard romantic and very emotional. I crave affection and want a man to hold my hand or put his arm around me in public (once the relationship gets to that point). I am kind of a multiple personality. I can wear my heart on my sleeve and cry at a sad movie one minute, then turn around and be tough as nails the next. Want to wrestle? (LOL) I can be very silly at times. I do enjoy some sports. I studied some martial arts for a brief period in the early 90's and I think I can still kick some tail. hehehehe. I don't mind watching an occasional football, basketball, or baseball game. I might even play if you ask me nicely. :-)
I don't really have a physical type except for the fact that I am just not attracted to very skinny men...sorry...but it is the truth, just like there are lots of guys who aren't attracted to large women. (All is fair in love....)I would love to have a man hold me in his strong arms and shower me with kisses while I listen to the beat of his big strong heart. You don't have to be muscular.....just a little padding to match mine.;-)
I am not interested in a long-distance relationship but I might consider someone within a 2 or 3 hour drive if the vibe is there.
Remember, if you want to me, SEND A PICTURE, tell me about yourself, then be willing to meet me in a group setting.
Thanks for reading and may your days be blessed!
P.S. My weaknesses are chocolate and sex. (not necessarily in that order)
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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