Asexuality - Page 2

LuciaDisturbed · 08-10-2006, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Jolie_77

I know I'm not the best person to know what it is to be an asexual but really, I have no idea what makes them become one. You can ask someone who is more knowledgeable in that area.

Perhaps Gnulinuxman would know? He has mentioned that he is asexual.

Sweetheart · 08-10-2006, 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Your Mom

I did read it carefully, you reffered it as being weird.

My friend have that, Asexuality.

She get digust by the penis in anything like.. The pictures or whatever... And, she does get digust by lebisan too. She's not lebsian, she's straight. And she don't like sex that much and even, she don't masturbate... I feel like that she's weird for that. But she's a wonderful friend.

You say that you feel like shes weird for that, i was just saying that you shouldnt feel that shes weird, for that. Its nothing to call weird, its just who she is. ya know?

I didn't mean that she's weird because of that.. I just said she's weird for that because I love it, she dont.... I just found it as an odd...

Jolie_77 · 08-10-2006, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

Perhaps Gnulinuxman would know? He has mentioned that he is asexual.

Perhaps, Then if he really is - He can answer such questions like those, That is if he is open to any of these questions.

guido · 08-10-2006, 12:52 AM

Nothing really forces one to become asexual. This is just the way I am. I didn't choose to be this way. Geez.

CyberRed · 08-10-2006, 03:53 AM

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Originally Posted by guido

I guess I'll go ahead and come out with it. I'm asexual, myself. I have no sexual attraction. It's something I'm particularly uncomfortable talking about a lot of times because people like to ostracize me because of it. There has even been speculation that asexuality is a made up concept, but I can assure you its very real. I just don't see the big deal over sex, and I have no desire to.

Ok, since you mentioned that you'll go ahead and come out with it. I would like to ask you a question if, you don't mind.

How long have you been asexual ? Have you ever tried makin' love with a woman before ?

Liebling:-))) · 08-10-2006, 05:45 AM

I do not consider absexual as werid.

They need to check with doctor to find out where it come from and also test as well if they want to know about themselves...

Physical/Emotional/sexual trauma could be often reason why the people suffer absence of sexual desires.

SxyPorkie · 08-10-2006, 06:57 AM

There are many factors that makes one asexual.. For example: watching xxxxx movie rate.. it turns me off big time.... it makes sex look so ugly.. but in reality sex is beautiful... another reason... I was on Prozac for a year.. i lost sex drive...when i realized that.. so i stopped taking them.. my sex drive came back normally....
last reason.. My late husband passed away in my arm I lost sex drive completely..
SxyPorkie

LuciaDisturbed · 08-10-2006, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Jolie_77

Perhaps, Then if he really is - He can answer such questions like those, That is if he is open to any of these questions.

It's up to him. He doesn't have to say anything about it.

SxyPorkie · 08-10-2006, 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Jolie_77

Perhaps, Then if he really is - He can answer such questions like those, That is if he is open to any of these questions.

I remembered one of posts GNU made.. he mentioned that he is 85% feminie (spelling??)
SxyPorkie

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Your Mom

I have several asexual friends and even went to an asexual awareness meeting to learn more about it.

My friend gave me this link http://www.asexuality.org/home/index...=6&Ite mid=29

Asexual people can and some do masturbate, some asexual people have no sexual feelings and some just have no desire to be with anyone.

So they can masturbate, but just dont want to have sex with anyone.

This is how I would describe myself. I have no interest in sex. On a rare occasion, I want it. However, 99.9% of the time, I have little to no interest in sex.

My lack of interest stems from abuse issues and other physical reasons.

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by guido

I guess I'll go ahead and come out with it. I'm asexual, myself. I have no sexual attraction. It's something I'm particularly uncomfortable talking about a lot of times because people like to ostracize me because of it. There has even been speculation that asexuality is a made up concept, but I can assure you its very real. I just don't see the big deal over sex, and I have no desire to.

I feel much the same way. People think I'm weird because sex doesn't really interest me. It doesn't. I can go months (read nearly a year), and not even think about it.

I don't think I'm weird. In fact, I don't even think about my lack of desire. Its just the way I am. I'm comfortable living life like this.

Sometimes, I think about being with someone, and I think what I may be missing out on. However, when I think of all the crap I'd have to go through to be in that type of relationship, it's just not worth it to me.

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by CyberRed

Ok, since you mentioned that you'll go ahead and come out with it. I would like to ask you a question if, you don't mind.

How long have you been asexual ? Have you ever tried makin' love with a woman before ?

I would like to answer this, too.

I've been asexual for most of my teen and adult years.

I've also been with a man before. It did absolutely nothing for me. Partly, I think, because I'm gay. But, also because I find it difficult to have any interest in sex.

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

It's up to him. He doesn't have to say anything about it.

Openness to something like this should be dictated by one's own comfort level.

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Your Mom

I did read it carefully, you reffered it as being weird.

My friend have that, Asexuality.

She get digust by the penis in anything like.. The pictures or whatever... And, she does get digust by lebisan too. She's not lebsian, she's straight. And she don't like sex that much and even, she don't masturbate... I feel like that she's weird for that. But she's a wonderful friend.

You say that you feel like shes weird for that, i was just saying that you shouldnt feel that shes weird, for that. Its nothing to call weird, its just who she is. ya know?

I won't speak for others, but I'll say that I am comfortable being this way. Someone said above that being asexual isn't really a choice, and I agree. However, I believe that for myself, it's a choice to stay this way. I could go into counseling to deal with some of the issues that cause this for myself, but I choose not to. Personally, I feel I'm better off (read safer) being asexual. Therefore, that's what I choose for the time being.

MsGiglz · 08-10-2006, 10:04 AM

Umm,
how about this.. am i or not?

I have been losing intersted in sex lately because my pms have been so fk'ed up.. and am on schedule for surgery soon but when i dont know.. just because of medical insurance needs to go by to approve..

I have pms almost three months.. sometimes one week break per month.. it was really heavy.. the pills dr gave me.. didnt work.. afraid that it might affect my heart.. since i took different pills.. i gained weights, and lost interested to have sex because its nasty to have sex while you are pms plus its painful cramps.. so i have no moviation to have sex.. just.. blah.. and frusrated to get this over with.. yes, i am going to have surgery for having hystermocy but.. i have other few things to be repair.. herina and remove some part of skin/muscle in navel area that where herina is.. and start over with new line to sew together... so thats why medical insurance need to approve that.. 3 in one.. i wish it go hurry up before too late to lose my man..

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by MsGiglz

Umm,
how about this.. am i or not?

I have been losing intersted in sex lately because my pms have been so fk'ed up.. and am on schedule for surgery soon but when i dont know.. just because of medical insurance needs to go by to approve..

I have pms almost three months.. sometimes one week break per month.. it was really heavy.. the pills dr gave me.. didnt work.. afraid that it might affect my heart.. since i took different pills.. i gained weights, and lost interested to have sex because its nasty to have sex while you are pms plus its painful cramps.. so i have no moviation to have sex.. just.. blah.. and frusrated to get this over with.. yes, i am going to have surgery for having hystermocy but.. i have other few things to be repair.. herina and remove some part of skin/muscle in navel area that where herina is.. and start over with new line to sew together... so thats why medical insurance need to approve that.. 3 in one.. i wish it go hurry up before too late to lose my man..

Sounds like you have a lot going on. You may not be asexual, though. It sounds more like a temporary lack of desire, which is different. In asexuality, you have NO desire for it at all; at anytime, without specific reasons. You just don't want it. Sex doesn't interest you.

MsGiglz · 08-10-2006, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Oceanbreeze

Sounds like you have a lot going on. You may not be asexual, though. It sounds more like a temporary lack of desire, which is different. In asexuality, you have NO desire for it at all; at anytime, without specific reasons. You just don't want it. Sex doesn't interest you.

thanks.. for making me feel better

guido · 08-10-2006, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by CyberRed

Ok, since you mentioned that you'll go ahead and come out with it. I would like to ask you a question if, you don't mind.

How long have you been asexual ? Have you ever tried makin' love with a woman before ?

I honestly don't recall when it was that I realized I was this way. I'd say probably the summer of my Sophmore year of high school. I realized I had very little interest in sexual activity with my girlfriend of the time. I enjoyed spending time with her, but I was not looking for a sexual relationship at the time. Since then I've come to terms with the fact that I'm different.

Jolie_77 · 08-10-2006, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

It's up to him. He doesn't have to say anything about it.

Yeah, It is only on a comfort level - that is if he wants to have a say in this, Just like what OceanBreeze said. Anyone should not be opening up something when they don't want to have a say in this as well. It is only if they want to or not to. It's their choice and I do sincerely respect that.

Oceanbreeze · 08-10-2006, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by MsGiglz

thanks.. for making me feel better

You're welcome I'm sure that after your surgery, and you're healed, you'll feel better, and will want to be close to your husband again.

Hang in there.

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SxyPorkie SxyPorkie Join Date: May 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 690	There are many factors that makes one asexual.. For example: watching xxxxx movie rate.. it turns me off big time.... it makes sex look so ugly.. but in reality sex is beautiful... another reason... I was on Prozac for a year.. i lost sex drive...when i realized that.. so i stopped taking them.. my sex drive came back normally.... last reason.. My late husband passed away in my arm I lost sex drive completely.. SxyPorkie __________________ Life Goes On!!

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MsGiglz PTL!! He's great.. Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: MN Posts: 4,067	Umm, how about this.. am i or not? I have been losing intersted in sex lately because my pms have been so fk'ed up.. and am on schedule for surgery soon but when i dont know.. just because of medical insurance needs to go by to approve.. I have pms almost three months.. sometimes one week break per month.. it was really heavy.. the pills dr gave me.. didnt work.. afraid that it might affect my heart.. since i took different pills.. i gained weights, and lost interested to have sex because its nasty to have sex while you are pms plus its painful cramps.. so i have no moviation to have sex.. just.. blah.. and frusrated to get this over with.. yes, i am going to have surgery for having hystermocy but.. i have other few things to be repair.. herina and remove some part of skin/muscle in navel area that where herina is.. and start over with new line to sew together... so thats why medical insurance need to approve that.. 3 in one.. i wish it go hurry up before too late to lose my man.. __________________