A message on respect .........
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A message on respect ......... |
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| If you are going to place your life and your trust in an individual it becomes increasingly important to recognize that it is important to make those choices well. From a Dominant's perspective it is necessary to be respectable, trustworthy and inspire those feelings in the submissives you interact with. It is necessary to live with those traits in the forefront. You cannot 'force' anyone to respect you. And, respect offered without having been earned is of questionable worth at best. Be leery of persons too willing to thrust expressions of unearned respect at you! It is easy to be strict and strong and still maintain decorum or control over your personal behavior and choices. In addition it is a reflection of the individual when they freely elect or choose to behave in manners that are of questionable honest and truth. Pay attention to the individual's actions, not their words. People are quite capable to telling you what they believe you want to hear. Look to the minutia, the details. Are they consistent, open, honest? Or are there things that just don't fit properly? Genuine respect is something quite different from verbal blandishments of respect. It is offered without colorings of fear or expectations of reciprocation. It is equally important that we each come to respect ourselves. To every action of personal dishonesty there is at least one witness. You! If you make choices that are dishonest you will in some manner project that outward, or you will always know and recognize the falsity of other's opinions which will color your relationships. Lying tends to be a failure inside to accept the self in honesty. Part of becoming whole as an individual is in self-acceptance. I find this especially true in the D/s community where we must learn to embrace our true self which generally is at odds with larger community standards. Failure to totally accept our natural expressions leads to internal conflicts which may be visited upon others by actions of anger and destruction. Uncontrolled outbursts can and often are abusive which is directly at odds with one of the most crucial basic premises of D/s. Most of all, to thine ownself be true. | ||||||||||
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