What_I_Look

for those who wonder "What Do I Look For In A Man"

          It's a nature that we women are always stunned by good looking guys, even myself, I don't deny ; However, I have never been one to judge a man by his eyes or body or even his looks, I know we are not perfect nor are we perfectly built. We all have body flaws, even the sexiest of models have their flaws.

        "The best and most beautiful things in the world can not be seen nor touched , but only felt in your heart." Helen Keller

         I guess what I am getting at is I am attracted to a man based on certain thing about him other than what he looks like. I learned in my life from past experience that is more important that I choose a good Husband/Father. That's the qualities that I look for in a man.

                                                              What I look for in a man

         (Intelligence) I believe with education a better choice of words can be used when angry. and a more clear understanding of the price we pay for love each day comes with understanding love and the things we must do to have it in our life.

         (Respect) Comes with education, we need to think what we say before saying it. And saying it where respect is not lost. "I don't have to growl like a tiger to be heard. I can how ever say it nicely."

         (Husband) A man that will give trust and love as received and know always where the bed he sleeps in is. Give 100% of his love as well as receive it. Know the vows of marriage and live by them. "For better or worse does not mean that's how hard you fight in a court."

         (Father) A very important key in what I would love to find. Children may be wanted in a relationship, and many times I see this, fathers are not read to be fathers as well as mothers are not ready to be mothers. Or simple don't want to deal with kids. If I am a mother , I have to make sure that I'm ready for that and will never let my kids down nor do I want any new
children in this world to live like it has been for myself now. (Lack of a father)

         (Friend) A man who will tell me how he feels. Even if it should be wrose than a class room which I was almost ready to fall asleep. I want to know how the most important person in my life feels. his feelings do matter in this world and a true friend tells all. I cannot learn about a person in my life , if I don't know he feels about life or himself in it.

         (Trust) When I tell him as he tells me where I was , to believe in me as I do in him. Trust to me is a seed of love , without it? There can not be love , let alone friendship , or anything. A man when told his woman was with another man , wil not go defense and bring me down like trash only to find out her friend made a mistake. He would question me with respect and ask anything he wants... As long as asked and not attacked. There are many men as well as women that lack giving trust because of their past. But never forget, you cannot compare a new relationship to annoyed's past. Unless they were there. In most case? A new relationship means NEW.

         (Honest) A very hard to find among men and women. But I always want the truth. Even if it will hurt me, because I don't wanna be in the dark room without really knowing who's in and how they feel about me. But I expect the same honestly I give in a relationship. We are not perfect and if one or the others feels something is wrong? Best to talk to each other and not an opposite sex on the internet where they truely understand just because you're down and possibly available.   A lost to ask for huh? Well, men ask for as much but forget we also want to...

                                                       I am tried of men who say to me ?

         "I want an honest woman" but have a lot to elarn about being honest themselves. Never ask for something yourself can not give. Honestly is a sided table "I want a faithful woman " But why do they talk to more than a woman about love ? I have caught so many times so many men talking to others at the same time ... sort of like a pick of the litte.

         "I want someone to accept me" Then they also need to accept me for the person I am. They want me to accept him but they want me to loose my wight, choose a different song ... and paint my world his color. "To love me, you must accept everything around me."

         "I don't want a player!" I have met some of the worst player in my life in my life and yet they all have said the same thing about not wanting one. Men are starting to pick out the women players, but women can pick out players too. So , don't think we are in the dark.

         "If you love me, you will change" I hate it when love is challenged in that form of way. It is a two way comment. "If you love me ? You would accept me as I am " ... You SEE? And here a little secret for those who believe in changes? you can take the animal out of the jungle but you will not change his way. Never will I go in to a relationship with a man whom he feels needing changes. It would not be fair nor right for me to expect a change... We are who we are and live as we live.   I'm not anyone who judge you as you are. If I can not love you? Then should not be with you. There's a few more ... I guess my point is , don't expect from a person something that you cannot give them.

          I hope this gives you an understanding of what I look for in a man... If I offended anyone? I'm sincerely sorry. I'm honest and won't change for anyone. I am not perfect and can even find many of my flaws without help. However I also have a heart and it bleeds for these things in my life.