Mr Right
I suppose I should write my views on dating... it would be nice to see it written... or typed out! So maybe I'm not completely oppossed to "dating". But certainly not the way America does it. First, my boyfriend will ask for permission to date me. I want my boyfriend to have respect for my parents and me. The same way I will have respect for his parents and Him! Our first "date" will be with my parents. Because I want them to get to know him and him to know them. If they don't already know each other. It would be wonderful to me if we could be friends before a "dating" relationship. Or I suppose it's more like courting than anything. Though I don't really like using that word. But it's not in the term it's in the actions! Our "dating" will be in church groups, family activities, double dating, and if it's just the two of us it will be in a restraunt with people around, or a mall, or places with lots of people around. I want to avoid any "alone" time. I want to do alot of fun things together! I want to see how he acts in public places, with family, in his church, and different situations like that. I want to see how he respects people, how he treats them. I want to do ministry work together for "dates". I'd love to visit the nursing home with Him. I want to spend family days together. I want to take a day and pass out tracks from door to door with him. I want to see how he reacts to a traffic jam! I want to see how he reacts to a flat tire and with kids. He has to have respect for everyone around him, especially women. He has to adore kids... and not just be nice to them, but play with them He has to treat elderly people politely and respectively He has to be obedient to his father and have respect for him He has to be fun and be able to laugh *even at himself* He has to be patient, loving, kind, gentle, sensitive, self-controlled, passionate, among other things He has to enjoy my parents presence... not dread it He has to love God above all things! He has to want to homeschool He has to want to adopt He has to want to be in the ministry And he must love me and treat me with the same respect as I treat him! Of course... I don't expect him to be perfect. But if I see he is striving to meet these qualities... then my goodness I'd be a fool not to marry him as soon as possible! lol!! Here are a couple things he should not do: He should not pressure me for Sex... because he won't get it He should not smoke He should not have any new tatoos or piercings *with in the last year* (I can see if he "rebelled" but not within the last year) He should not have kids He should not have some funky hair color... or odd clothing Something else that is most important to me... he should be pure. I can totally see if he has made mistakes in the past, but he should be completely honest with me about it if he has. His past dating experiences should be an example of what mine will be like with him. I want him to save his kiss for our engagment and his body for our marriage! And I totally expect myself to save the same things... I can't expect it of him but not of myself. And not just that... but there are certian lines I don't want crossed... as far as my boyfriend or husband should have gone with past relationships is holding hands... for me any further is like stealing something that doesn't belong to you. Any guy that wants to date me must and will understand all of that before he even dares ask me or my Dad if we can date. If I can not find a guy that fits those qualities... then I guess the Lord doesn't want me to get married and I will stay un-married and un-dated until I die! Though that sounds terribly lonesome... if that's what the Lord has for me... I'm all for it! But anyway I must admit... I did enjoy celebrating Valentine's Day with my class today. Just because I got to see how much the kids love me! But I'm single. And I don't mind being single, I know that God is in control. But Valentine's Day is hard because you are surrounded by "couple" stuff. And what girl doesn't want to have someone special to love and cherish her. Well if there is someone, it's not me. Last Valentine's Day was terrible because I did like a guy... and didn't get the responce I wanted. I honestly shouldn't have been expecting anything.... I shouldn't have had a guy I liked... but that besides the point it's behind me and we all make mistakes. I dread saying... that though the Lord has kept me from physically giving myself away... emotionally I've given part of my heart away.... but thank the Lord he forgives and forgets and gives me i all back. My heart is not mine to give away. When the Lord sees fit... he will give my heart to the man that will be put in charge of caring for it. And the man will be my husband, and will stay my husband "till death do us part". I know I've set up such strong boundaries for what my husband will be like, but the Lord knows the desires of my heart. And I believe that he would give me no less. At the moment... I'm the "less". It will be a while before the Lord entrusts me to take care of a husband. I'm not yet to the point where I can sompletely submit and be the best for my husband. If I wish to have someone as special as I described above, I have to become all those things first. I've not yet got to the point yet. When i get to that point, that is when we will bless me with the priviledge of marriage. Of course that is only if he has marriage in store for me. And I have to admit, if he doesn't I'll have to spend a lot of time in prayer because I think it will take alot for me to get along without someone loving and challenging me and praying with me. To not have that type of companion... would be hard for me. But I know the Lord would never give me more then I can handle.... and he will pull me through all things! But the Lord has given me a peace about knowing he is in control of my "love life". If I wasn't it would be another depressing Valentine's Day. Well, I guess I have written out my views on Valentine's Day and what my husband will be like! lol... the word mushy comes to mind. My friends think I'm sentamental romantic. I am in many ways... I like he candle lit dinners... the mushy liners... the dozen roses... the passionate kisses... the little love cards... the engagement ring... the traditional wedding... but above all else I want my future husband to be deeply in love with the Lord... He should put the Lord above all thing... even me! And when I get married... I'll walk down the isle with my white wedding dress on, completely worthy of it, with Dad at my side. And, knowing him... he'll be crying, he'll give me to my to-be-husband and the wedding will be wrapped in God's love, peace, presense, and approval! I'll take him as my husband and we'll live happily ever after... with twenty kids . Just kidding... how about four kids (two adopted)!
