Friends, what are they? Can you REALLY depend on them when you need them most? Can you really trust that they will always have your back? Can you feel comfortable enough to give them your heart and know they won't STOMP ON IT?
I'm beginning to think not. There are very few people I trust anymore. Very few people I care to call my "friend" and a few people I did call my friend who have proved otherwise to me.
Point is most people will show you what they want you to see. An exterior, usually something nice to catch your eye and pull you in. But once you are in and they have you where they want you, in for the kill they move. They know your intimate secrets and desires and wants. They know things about you that your parents don't even know. You trust them. In turn they will have you believe they will always be there and will always have your back and never let anyone harm you. Why? BECAUSE THEY CARE AND YOU ARE THERE FRIEND! BULLSHIT
Now don't get me wrong there are a couple of true blue people in this world who really will have your back no matter what. Who will stand and hold you up when you are falling. BUT and unfortunately there are alot more of the people out there who will kiss your ass until they have you right where they want you then BAMO they show their true colors and stab ya straight in the back.
I figure there are a few types of "friends" out there
You have REAL friends who are part of your real life/everyday life/have always been there kind of friends. The true blue ones ya know. The ones you can always trust and never have to second-guess.
Then you have the TODAY friend. Everyone knows about these. "I had nothing better to do today so I guess I'll call so and so...hey wanna hang out TODAY?" then you don't hear from them again until everyone is out of town on a ski trip again and this person just couldn't make it. Of course you have your bandwagon friends too. "Oh hey look Mrs. popularity is talking to so and so, so we should talk to them too. Ohhhhhhh how I wanna be like Mrs. Popularity" These are the same friends who will stab you in your back as soon as Mrs. popularity decides to take a hike. Last but certainly not least are the FAKE friends. They tell ya what they want you to hear. But their hidden agenda is to use you for all you are worth (emotionally, physically, financially doesn't matter) and then drop you like a ton of bricks for the next ride around the block.
Pretty scary don't ya think?
Who needs ENEMIES when you have FRIENDS like that?
So whom do you trust? Who do you allow yourself to get that close to? How do we learn to take people at face value again? How do we stop seeing everything in black and white and start seeing the shades of gray?
How do we allow ourselves to make "new friends" when we have a hard enough time trusting the friends we have?
Its all a matter of time before everyone shows his or her true colors. You eventually find out who your real true friends are. It hurts to find out that someone you trusted and called a friend is really nothing more than a two-faced, lying, cheating, in it for the popularity of it all, kind of friend. But sometime the truth hurts and we live with it. We deal with it, and we move on from there. Just be careful of who you pick as your friend I guess. And make sure you yourself are the kind of friend you'd like to have as well. Treat others, as you would like to be treated. Good thing to live by I guess:)
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