ERT #4: On Gullibility, Respect, and Sweet-Talkin' Guys (No, You'll Never Win)
To be blatant, I'm tired to hell about how society in general has taken the definition of
'love' and twisted, gnarled, and degraded it into a barely recognizable silhouette of what it
should be. Granted, it doesn't surprise me that this has happened, considering the hell-bound
pathway along which humanity has decided to meander blindly, but love is the one thing that
should not be fooled with. Absolutely… positively… don't fool with love. It is not to be
taken lightly. Love works wonders when it finds a well-meaning, compassionate heart in
which to reside, but it can be a ticking time bomb in the wrong one. It can be a live
landmine in a heart belonging to someone who does not know what to do with it, or,
worse yet, one belonging to someone who handles it like it's as expendable as a nickel.
This is why I am so urgent — plaintive, even — about the declivity of the average
perspective of what real love is. Many people don't get it. It's all about respect.
It sounds so fundamental, which is why I'm shocked to hell that no one really gets it.
Respect — nothing else — is from what everything stems. Not just any respect — mutual
respect. You can't have it only one way. You can't force anyone to respect you.
You might try to do that, and you might think that you've accomplished it, but it'll
never happen. Forcing respect, and love, for that matter, is counterintuitive; the
only way either is truly achieved is when it's earned. You can't earn it by beating
anyone up, you can't earn it with sexual prowess, and you can't earn it by dividing
your attention among several people. So why do the "good guys" get left in the dust
while the "bad guys" have all the fun? Easy. The "bad guys" can sweet-talk damn
near any female they want to into their rat trap. How can those gals be so damn
gullible? They're going to get used… and some of them will even like it, for some
godforsaken reason… and they're all going to get left in the dust, one way or another.
As the song goes, "Sweeter than sugar, kisses like wine, don't let him get under your skin,
'cause you'll never win." I'm convinced that all the bad guys in the world would go away if
those certain women would just see the big picture. If those women could just step back and
think. The only way that they will find love is through mutual respect. Mutual… meaning that
if the guy doesn't respect her, it won't work. Some women think that they'll still be able to
stay in a relationship as long as only they hold respect for the guy. News flash… if everyone
else tells you he's a boor, he's not respecting you!
By the way, gals, nice guys do not appreciate being lumped in to the crowd. Not every guy is out for
sex or power. Not every guy lures you in with false motives and tries to use you for their sexual
adventures or supremacy trips. Guys are not all like they're portrayed on TV, as sex-crazed egomaniacal,
clueless louts. Some of us are actually well-meaning individuals, and we do not appreciate it when females
look at us with a suspecting glance every time we do something nice for them. Maybe we actually do something
nice for you just for the sake of doing something nice to you, not because we have ulterior intentions to take
advantage of you. Think about that next time you go after a guy. Because if some of you keep thinking this
way (and don't all of you deny it, because I know that there are some of you out there), then we nice guys
will start lumping you all into the gullible, impressionable crowd or the suspicious, paranoid crowd, and
maybe we'll start acting weird around you at the first sign of our suspicion. You wouldn't really like that,
now, would you?
It all comes back to respect. Have it, and if the other one has it, you both win. If you don't, or the other one doesn't, you both lose big. It's your choice.
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