By Hannah's
Denied Grandmother
Hi my name is Dartha. I'm a 45 yr old African American female and a mother of four. 2-Girls and 2-Boys all grown, whom i raised, love and cared for alone after their dad died in June 1993 as a result of a stroke. He was a Diabetic, and shortly later one of our daughters developed Diabetes. We all live here in Mississippi, a Southern State Of the United States Of America, where there's suppose to be where Freedom is Heard and the Land of the Free. Mississippi is one of the most Prejuduce and Racist States there are, especially in the later years where most society wouldn't accept interracial dateing or marriages, and because of the way society feel, with ignorant Prejuduce, I unknownly in 1994, lost the most Precious Gift from God and her name is Hannah Elizabeth. My very first grandbaby was given out for adpotion, simply because she was mixed with black and not all white. My oldest son who's black was 17 yrs old at the time, soon to be 18, was dateing a white girl which was about a couple of yrs older than he, against her parents wishes as they attended high school. In 1994 she became pregnant and they kept it a secret. I didnt find out that i had a grandbaby until 6 months after she was born and given away. God, If only i had known. I cant tell you the devastation hurt and pain i felt that day. Its been almost 8 yrs since that date, and the pain hasn't went away and never will. When i asked why was my grandbaby given away, why adoption, why wasn't she bought to me so i could take care of her, to love her. The birth mother replied, she and her mother didnt want me to know because they knew, i would had stopped the adoption, and they didn't want that to happen. Said that the birth mother-mother was ashame of having a bi-racial child as a grandchild and she was afraid of what her friends would think of her and she didnt want the child to grow up in the same town where they live, cause once the child got older, she would be trying to find out where her mother family are and they didnt want that to happen. It was told to me by the birth mother-mother, that her husband was the most Prejudiced and if he had found out that his daughter has been seeing a black guy and had a bi-racial grandchild he was going to kill my son. I couldn't believe what i was actually hearing. How could any human being think and feel like that about another. And the saddest part about it is, the other human being hated so much is because of not having their same skin color, she has their blood running thru her veins. She's a part of them. They refer themselves as christians....ha. I pray for all Racists, because we are all children of God, and he'll never give us away, nor denie us. My son had already been threaten in front of me when her mother burst into our home unanounce telling him that she should kill him. I took her by her arm asking her to leave as i escorted her out the door. I told her she wasn't killing anyone there. She can't say that she's never been touch by a black person. This had happened 6 months after they had given Hannah away. Her mother took her (the birth mother) to a women group home in Hattisburg Mississippi(south of here) until she had the baby, because she didnt want anyone here to know that she was pregnant with a mixed baby. They gave the baby to a couple that live in Texas, whom they knew. My son was trying to stay in school, working at nights, and weekends, and grieving over the death of his dad whom he was very close too. I could sense something just wasn't right. Whatever he was carrying alone, i didnt want him to carry it alone, but he did. Still he contiuned getting death threats. He felt alone, frighten and confused and didnt know what to do. He didnt want to put any more on me, because i was sick. He knew that being a black male in Mississippi, it didnt take much to be put in jail for no reason whatso ever or killed. He tried staying out of trouble and alive. After the adoption, the girl gave him some pictures and letters from the adoptive parents, but wouldn't tell him where the baby is. But later stopped. All thru the yrs he have been trying to get information about the baby, but doors have been slammed in his face with her mother still threating.They wont tell him where Hannah is, but he's holding onto faith that one day they'll find each other. This yr. i was blessed with a computer, and even tho i still dont know quite how to operate it, I wanted to write this true story online and pray that the adoptive parents will see this and know that i did not know about my granddaughter being given away and maybe open their hearts and please send me a picture or letter of Hannah. Her birthday is Oct 21st or 24th of 1994. My youngest son birthday is Oct 24th. Hannah is 7 yrs old and 10 months this month. In her fist birthday picture, Barney was the Theme of her party, and that picture of her, she and my second granddaugher look so much alike, that they could pass for twins, even tho they are first cousins. Her name is Justice, which means Justice For All. She's 3 yrs old and 1 month. My other granddaughter name is Shaquavia(quay for short) and she's 2 yrs old and 11 months. My oldest son is now married and has a stepdaughter, who's really more of a daughter and her name also is Hannah. Thats strange. She's white and is 5 yrs old. I love all of my graddaughters with all of my heart and there's nothing i wouldn't do for either. Yes, i have a very big loving and caring heart. To me, love just doesn't have a color. There's a peice in my heart that is missing and even tho i love all my granddaughters, there's a part of me died when i found out that my baby was given away, and even tho i have faith, sometimes i'm so afraid that i may not see or hear from her before i die. I can never give up searching, cause Hannah is my blood and i love her so much. God gave her to us, and it was ignorance and man made law that took her away, but God is over everything. I pray hard day and night that the adoptive parents will open their hearts and share a part of Hannah with us. I want to make it perfectly clear that i'm not here trying to cause any trouble or take Hannah away. I just want to fill part of the gap thats missing from my heart. Amy, by you being a mother yourself, i know you can understand what i'm feeling. From reading letters in 1994 and 95, I can tell that you and Dennis are a very loving couple and i want to thank you for loving my granddaughter as your own. There's some very important medical information i need to give to you that has been occurring with the biologic father side of families which Hannah may have some time in life. Which i pray that she lives to be very healthy and happy forever. One of my other granddaughter is now showing a health problem that i now have. Thank you again for loving my granddaughter and taking special care of her. God bless you and your families and may he contiune keeping love in your hearts. Sincerely Always Dartha To help and ID the adoptive parents from Texas, i'm including parts of letters that i have from them>>>>>Before adoption- Thank you from the bottom of our hearts is the first thing we must tell you. You are giving us a gift we otherwise never have without you. Daddy to be is tall (6'2) with blonde hair and hazel/green eyes. He is a native Texan and a veteran of the U.S. Army including the Gulf War. Mommy to be is on the short side(5'5), with dark brown hair and eyes. She was a foster sister to over 500 abused, neglected, and abandoned children while growing up. Oct31,1995 Dear Stephanie, Mario & Families Greetings from Hannah-land! Today was the perfect day to write--because 1 yr. ago today, Dennis & I were numb with new parenthood. My what the last year has bought! Hannah first 2 teeth appeared together in June. In July Hannah had her ears pierced & she started crawling forward. Anyone with any information please get in touch with me at [email protected] or [email protected] Thank you and God Bless. Update- May3,2007 Hannah has a new first cousin, his name is shamariun. My first grandson. He'll be 1 yr. old the 16th (May)of this month. Update: March 3, 2008 Hannah has another first cousin, her name is Sydnee Alana, born Jan 24,2008 ~My five sweepeas~ Stephanie has married, has had and kept baby, but still wont say where Hannah is. You will always be in my prayers. God Bless You. Sign Guestbook View Guestbook
