At this point, hopefully both you and your partner are investigating this lifestyle together and if you are, then you have probably done a good deal of talking about the pros and cons of this lifestyle you are contemplating. Now is the time for each of you to ask yourself and your partner certain questions with regard to your own relationship and your own individual feelings. We don't have all the questions, just as we don't have all the answers - each person and each couple has to decide for themselves whether swinging is right for them or not. However, we do have some questions that we asked ourselves and other, as well as the questions others have asked us, so this is a starting point. Answer these questions honestly. Don't try to fudge the answers. You are answering these for you, no one else. If you fudge, it will come back at you later, with a magnified impact. * Do you truly understand that love and sex can be two different things? * How are you going to feel when you see your partner, obtaining sexual Satisfaction with another person? * If you were assured of retaining your partner's love and respect, would you be interested in sexual variety? * If you are considering swinging, are you doing it to please yourself, or is to to please your partner? * How do you feel about female bisexuality? * What fantasies do you have and how would you like to go about fulfilling them? * Can we fulfill our sexual fantasies together? * Can we be totally, brutally honest with each other about everything? * Can you and are you willing to be honest with your partner? * Can you both talk about your honest feelings? * Are you ready to accept an honest answer to your question - even if it's not the answer you wanted to expected to hear? * Are we ready to be completely committed to each other? * Can you be ready to "come to the aid" of your partner or keep your partner's well being and feelings foremost in your thoughts (check on your mate periodically - "Are you OK, Having fun, etc.") during your first few party experiences, without getting "totally carried away" or oblivious to what's happening in all parts of the partyhouse? * Can you stop in the middle of a sexual experience, if your partner really needs you? * Can you honestly tell your partner you love them after you watch them engage in sexual activities with another person/s? * Can you love your partner after watching him/her engage in sexual activity with a partner/s of the same sex? * Are you willing to set limits on your sexual activities while enjoying the lifestyle? |
| QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELVES |