Today I should tell you how we met. He and I had ads on the Yahoo personals. He contacted me on January 29, 2006.
He was very persistent. Within two days I had not only his phone number but also his address. He was (is) very charming, sexy, smart, and funny. He stole my heart immediatly. We talked on line nightly, we began to fall in love, or at least on my part. He had told me that he had ended a relationship with the female he was living with and wanting to explore the Bi side of him more in-depth. I had never spent that time with Bi's because the concept is so convaluted. However, like I said, he had charmed the ass off of me.
Our first face-to-face meeting was a little strained. We were both a little nervous, but we did end up in bed. Now being someone who had not been in a relationship ever, and someone who had not been sexual with anyone in over 10 years I was immediately lost in love. Our conversations became longer, on the phone as well as online. I began visiting him at his home. Our first meeting was when his girlfriend was in the hospital, nothing sexual occured, it just did not seem right. He spoke often of how he had to get away from her and away from the house he was living in. I began dreaming of how it would be great to have him live with me. When the opportunity appeared to be right I asked him to move in, about 2 months after we had met. At first he appeared to be resistant to the thought but later agreed. We decided on a date and he told his girlfriend. I had met her on several occasions. She seems to be a nice person but a little lost. She seemed to really love him and seemed to be very appreciative of his attention, like I said, he is very charming. Being obese myself I totally understand where she was coming from. When someone like him pays attention to people like us we become head over heels in love. Which seems to be a common part of his cycle.
I knew he was Bisexual, which did not appear to be an issue at first. He had told me that he would need to be with a female once in awhile. It seemed harmless at first. He called it a "booty call".
At this time he is on the two before mentioned pick-up sites. He has many male freinds he has met up with , many females, and now has another girlfriend; this is a little funny because he never trully broke it off with the previous girlfriend. Now the first still thinks that she will end up living with him again and that their seperation is only temporary, of course he does not tell her otherwise. Then their is the new girlfriend that he states is just a "booty-call". Now this booty call calls him an average of 8 times a day, demands his time and attention every Tuesday and every other Friday. Her only days off. On Fridays they go to a hotel and have sex while I sit at home and the first girlfriend thinks he is being celibate waiting for the day he and she reunite forever.
It is interesting that he meets his online friends and new girlfriend the same way he met me. He states that he tells the men that he is Bi and that he has a boyfriend and two girlfriends. He does not tell the females. Of course for the Bears he talks to this is a challenge. There is one guy he currently talks to that I know is falling in love with him, and another local guy who would nothing better than to get him in bed even though he states he is my friend. I have asked for a committment from him that he not have sexual encounters with these guys, he stated that he could not, he stated that if he did he would be lieing because it could happen. It appears that he would feel worse about lieing than than being with a man behind my back. He states that since his ex-wife hurt him very much he cannot committ to anyone about anything. He is afraid of being hurt if he falls in love. This seems to explain his not being able to committ and to love just one person.
End for today