NameWithHeld: Hey Nick....
Buki 99: He...
lo?
NameWithHeld: Hi, this is Suzanne
Buki 99: ahh...
Buki 99: hey.
NameWithHeld: You may know me as Lauren's terrible mother
Buki 99: Ahh...
different Suzanne than I was thinking of.
Buki 99: Pardon
the confusion.
Buki 99: Tho,
I wouldnt say I know of you as Laurens terrible mother.
NameWithHeld: ah, yeah.. so anyways I'm not exactly enjoying your deep
fried friends who are suggesting I should be 'bitch slapped' oh I am pissed
off here young man
Buki 99: Well,
I suppose in your situation I can see how that would be a natural response.
NameWithHeld: good answer
NameWithHeld: Just for your information This computer thing has been a
problem for approx 4 YEARS
Buki 99: Also,
as far as my 'friends' go... there are very few people among the community
I hold close enough to myself to be considered friends. I beilve your daughter
would account for about 1/2 of my friends there.
NameWithHeld: I have watched Lauren sit at this computer for 6, 10 14 fucking
hours not bathing-yes she smells- not getting dressed or doing much of anything
except for sitting in front of this puter
NameWithHeld: we've asked her nicely MANY TIMES to do some chores. to be
more a part of the family but she'd rather sit here doing nothing else
Buki 99: Well...
unfortunately, I'm not quite sure I can sympathize with you on that point.
I'm very much the same as she.
NameWithHeld: we're not some monster frickin parents
Buki 99: in
that respect, anyway.
Buki 99: I wouldnt
have assumed you to be from what I've heard.
NameWithHeld: she has always been inclined to spend her time this way-
I wouldn't mind some moderation, but she gets on and the time passes day
after day.
Buki 99: Again...
I'm sorry to say that I cant quite sympathize with you on that. For the
majority of the last... 8 or 9 years... most of my free time has been spent
in much the same manner.
Buki 99: I believe
that there is simply a rather large gap in what my and your generations
deem appropriate for time spent with electronic entertainment... and it
seems to me that neither is really much willing to listen to the other's
point of view.
NameWithHeld: Nick- Lauren has probably told you I'm not like most other
Moms, okay I'm pretty cool when it comes right down to it. I don't know
one other Mom who's packing Linkin Park tunes in the car and getting asked
to turn it down
NameWithHeld: I have always been 50% their friend and 50% their parent
until I've needed to change that equation
Buki 99: That's
commendable. Too few parents make the effort to strike that balance between
authority and friendship in this day and age.
Buki 99: However...
from my own personal experience... This is about the only way I have to
interact with people. And, while my parents may have spent that 8 hours
hanging out with friends walking around, or cruising or whathave you...
I dont do so well with people in that kind of situation.
NameWithHeld: whatever.. anybody wants to fuck with us they really should
know I'm nails for breakfast and tacks for lunch. I ALWAYS choose my battles
and I've not met many who came out on the winning side of a verbal dicing.
Buki 99: For
me... as it may be for Lauren... this may just be the most confortable
way for us to feel like part of a group.
Buki 99: For
my folks, social interaction was never really a problem. They're both rather
people persons... So, for them... they dont see why this is how I interact
with people. Well... they didnt.
Buki 99: They've
started to come around recently. I guess what it all comes down to is a
basic understanding of the whole "Different strokes for different folks"
thing.
NameWithHeld: Look- I wasn't really so pissed until I read the feeble minutia
of these morons who are Lauren's so-called 'friends'. I realize you're not
the problem- though I've backtracked your phone number and know exactly
where you live- I'm just really not up for a bunch of interference from
people who do not even know us. So as you go about your posting to the PVP
crew you may want to mention, in what ever way you deem effectual- that
it's prob not a good idea to mess with me
Buki 99: Of
course... the few people I do feel comfortable interacting with... I try
to get out with fairly regularly... and I did, for a while. Unfortunately,
they all started to get a bit on the busy side, and schedules conflict.
So, I'm back to the computer.
NameWithHeld: Do you understand my prev. message, Nick?
Buki 99: Well...
beyond the thinly veiled threat against myself... You're rather displeased
at s bunch of other people passing judgement on you. Which is, again...
rational.
Buki 99: And
honestly... I can understand your displeasure with the situation. Tho,
as I see it... it basically boils down to people seeing one side of an argument,
and trying to resolve a situation based on that.
Buki 99: And,
since one is highly unlikely to get an unbiased story from anyone personally
involved... thier proposed resolutions usually arent the best choices.
Buki 99: And,
whatever it is that they're proposing... it's all in what they see as the
best interst of thier friend.
Buki 99: Whethere
that is or isnt the case... that's not my judgement.
Buki 99: However,
i don't think these folk who care enough about your daughter to offer thier
emotional and even possibly financial support to her, in order that they
might help remedy what they percieve to be a bad situation deserve to be
called morons.
NameWithHeld: In all reality I don't know you- I'm not stupid nor would
I stand around amd try to figure out after the fact who/where you are if
my daughter took off one day. I am trying to get things ironed out between
all of us and take some steps back toward Lauren having privileges she
can earn. For what it's worth I don't mind you calling at reasonable hours
of the day and keeping the conversations somewhere under 2 hours.....
NameWithHeld: take a more reserved tone Nick- you'll not engratiate yourself
by sticking up for people who post the kind of junk I'm seeing.
NameWithHeld: You seem like a nice guy- and if you really care about Lauren
you'll support her and try to help her ride this out- noy make it worse.
NameWithHeld: not
Buki 99: I do
try to support her. I offer myself as a souding board to vent to without
passing judgement. I try to ler her know that whether she sees it at the
time or not, a lot of folks care about her, even you. I do whatever I can
to help her.
NameWithHeld: furthermore I do not mind if you tell Lauren that I IM'ed
you. No threats, just a heads up. careful as ya go
*Thanks for that, I appreciate that and I'm glad she's got a good friend
in you- I've told her so :)
Sorry to rag, but I am the Mom here.......
NameWithHeld: anything else you's like to say? I'm tired and I'm gonna
head off to bed
Buki 99: Nothin
off the top of my head.
Nite, sleep well.
NameWithHeld: See ya Nick^