"I'm so disappointed. My feelings were just not reciprocated, and I feel
as if I've lost my chance for happiness. I guess I should try to salvage
what I can, but I don't think I'm ready yet.
"No one knows better than I that we all need a period of grieving after
loss. We can wallow in grief and self-pity, which I sometimes think feels
rather good, or we can use the time for emotional cleansing and letting go
of unrealistic expectations. Like all my siblings in this suit, I
represent both possibilities. I warn against doing too much or too little
grieving over losses and disappointments.
"Look to those cups still standing. Take stock of your present
alternatives. When you experience a sense of lost opportunity, revise your
goals and priorities. Search within for your own values and follow their
lead. Remember you still have two cups left.
"My key phrase is
facing your fear of disappointment."
