Often times I see great friendships broken over the silliest things. Many times these are friendships that have lasted a lifetime in between two people. It is true that as friends grow up they become different people and eventually they grow apart, but just because two people grow apart it does not mean they should completely cut each other out of their lives. The greatest disagreements between friends start over a simple difference in opinions. If you and a friend have a difference in opinions simply agree to disagree. You do not always have to have the same opinion as the other person; in fact, it is said that we learn more from those who disagree with us than does who agree. It�s not worth fighting over and ending a life long friendship, especially on a bad note. Remember that it�s more fun to be friendly than to stress and argue.
It is very common, and in a way tragic, for first loves to not work out. One of the main reasons this happens is because two people that are together might not always be each other�s first loves. Getting through a break up with your first love is usually one of the hardest experiences of anyone�s life, but no matter what happens, or happened in the past for that matter, you WILL make it through. Remember that there are many other people in this world, such as family and friends, who love you, care about you, and only want to see you happy. When you do finally make it through the break up, you will realize many things that will make you grow as a person both mentally and emotionally. The next time you get yourself into a serious relationship you will be more aware of the things you want and do not want from the relationship and the person you are with. Also, you will be more cautious and you will learn how to prevent ever getting as hurt as you did the first time. When a relationship doesn�t turn out, and you know you did your best all along to make it work, don�t kill yourself over it. Just remember that in the end it was all a big learning experience. A learning experience that only made you stronger as a person, and one day will turn out to be greatly beneficial to you. That day will be the day you find the person you are truly meant to be with, your soul mate. Only after experiencing these heartaches, and learning these valuable lessons, will you be able to recognize and appreciate your soul mate.
Another major issue that results in two people not being friends any longer is when one friend finds a boyfriend / girlfriend they feel very seriously about. This often leads to that person leaving their other friend(s) behind, if not completely cutting them out of their life. If you are this person, and you have realized what you did was wrong, sit down and try to speak to your friend about it. Try and fix it and explain how you feel, and that you know you were foolish. If they still remain angry, and the friendship does not come back, then remember at least you tried, you realized you were mistaken, and move on. Often times if the friendship DOES come back it will not be like it was in the past. Don�t sit and frown upon this fact, be glad that the friendship exists at all and remember there is always time to improve upon it in the future. If you are in the shoes of the other person, where a friend has left you for their boyfriend / girlfriend and one day they come back to you, remember that YOU know what they did was wrong. Do not be stubborn and remain angry with them, instead simply accept their mistakes and let it go. Make yourself the bigger person; being stubborn will only make you stoop to their level.
It is very common for people to find themselves feeling very lonely when they have just gotten out of a serious relationship. We often find ourselves wanting a person to be there. If this is the case with you, you must remember a few things. Before rushing yourself into another relationship simply because you are lonely, focus on your own life for a short while. Evaluate the person you are and find places where you need to improve yourself. Focus on schooling, work, friends, family, good hobbies, etc, whichever aspects of your life you believe will benefit you the most in the future. Try and make yourself into a better person, it can never hurt to make a positive change. Fight for the goal of becoming the person you always wanted to be. Become a person who can look at himself or herself in the mirror, evaluate themselves, and proudly say, �I am happy with who I am and what I have made of myself!� Finally let go of your past failures and heart aches, and realize they are a part of who you are. They made you the person you have become. Only then can you be truly happy in a relationship. If you go into a relationship with this attitude it will make things 100 times easier for both you and your partner, because you know that no matter what happens in the future between you two, in the end you will still come out to be happy with yourself. So stop feeling lonely and looking around like crazy for someone to love and to love you. Instead focus on your life, your future, and the person you are. When you do this you�ll be surprised how quickly what your looking for suddenly appears out of thin air!!
