My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now and have talked
about sex alot. I'm trying to decide if i should go to my mother to talk to  the
doctor about going on the pill. I want to be safe about this. I  don't
want to end up pregnant, my mom told me to come to her as soon as i
need to talk to her about the pill but since I'm only 15 she said that
it'll break her heart if i come to her now.. but she doesn't want me to become
pregnant.  I told her that i wouldn't be able to come to her and i also told
her that its not going to be that much longer until i need to go on the
pill. My boyfriend doesn't want me to go on the pill and is giving me all
these excuses like "it costs too much" "people will think youre a slut"
"if we use two condoms that will work" he wants to use spermicide on the
condom.. do  you think thats a good idea? i turned to him because i figured we
should talk about this together.. but he's no help. So my question to you.. is
should i go to my mother and get birth control.. or should i just use a
condom and spermicide.. and hope that i dont get pregnant? i dont want to hurt
my mom.. and i dont want to get pregnant. this is very stressful, thanks for
listening.. hopefully you can help me make the right decission.

(Name Withheld)
 
 
 

   Here's the thing. If your mother has asked you to go to her in the
   past, you should definitely talk to her; it's never easy to face that
   your kid(s) is/are going to become sexually active, but she'll feel
   *much* better about it if you go with her to get the pill than if she
   finds condoms in your room or something a couple of months down the
   road.

   I think you should certainly use condoms *with* the pill, but I think
   the pill's a great idea as well. As to your boyfriend's protests, who
   the hell is anybody else to judge *you* as a slut? You're making a
   mature and serious decision about protecting *your* self, and no
   matter what your sexual practices are, that's the only thing that
   really matters, so long as you're not hurting anyone. I don't know
   why he's tripping, but forget him. Use *one* condom, not two, and
   spermicide, and yes, go talk to your mom and get some birth control
   pills too. You can never be too safe.

   Hope this helped!

   Pandora