Rant # 2
On Love And The Pain We Seek
Why is it that when it comes to finding someone to love, we humans so consistantly pick the one most capable of causing us pain?
Does this serve some evolutionary need to allow the most brutal, callus, domiatory of the species to continue to perpetuate?
Or is it that we have become conditioned to believe that love must needs equal pain?
Is unconditional love mearly a myth?
We claim to have it for our children, but is this true?
Everywhere you see children used as weapons in divorce cases, abused and brutilized by parents or others in places of trust...increasingly even killed in the most horrific ways imaginable....are we turning into beasts that care only for our own base needs over any thought for others, including our own flesh and blood?
But you see it even in people who do love and protect their children....this almost need to feel pain with their feelings of romantic love.
Do we, as humans....feel that we somehow do not deserve love to just be wonderful?
Is love somehow less in our minds if it doesn't hurt?
Must we bleed emotionally in order to know that we care for someone?
Why is it we reject the one that offers us everything we say we want/need in favor of the one that rejects what we offer them?
Do we honestly feel we can "make" them see how wonderful what we have to offer is?
Or is it simply a way of fullfilling some need to "fail" at a relationship.....is it somehow "safer" to love someone we know will never return that love then it is to love someone who will?
Are we all just suffering from some huge martyr complex, looking for someone that fullfills our need to be someone's victim?
Is it a way to not take responsibility for our own happiness and wellbeing?