| Dynamics of Human Relationship |
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| The most sacred of the relationships is between man and a woman since Adam and Eve, the conjugal relationship, since it is responsible for the continuity of life. We have forgotten the fact that all other relationships are the outcome of this relationship. While we are busy doing everything in life, we are badly ignoring this basic relationship, which is sick and withering day by day due to loss of attention. Allah had taught us to bow and we have forgotten to bow and surrender in love. Refusing to thank a human being, our natural partner in life, is refusal to accept the divine gift of God favored for us to provide moral courage and emotional support to face the challenge of life. We all deserve love and success in our life. Let us dream for a beautiful life. Read Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo... |
| In this world we are in a Sema, so we all must lend an empathic ear to everyone. We have to learn to bow not only before the most enlightened but everyone, thus we are permitted to whirl in our own sphere undisturbed but harmoniously with others, because all others are paying same attention and respect to me. Thus we become more enlightened and spiritual human beings aspiring toward better relationship with ourselves, with others, and with God and universe. Let us examine how it is possible. |
| What I have learned from Rumi is to accept all persons as individuals and respect their individual personality regardless of typical notions of good and the bad attached with certain personality types. It has helped me to understand human enigma in a much better fashion with all its depth and detail. |
| The West is at a dear loss after commercializing and materializing the basic relationship between man and a woman. The relationship has lost its grace, compassion, and the satisfaction for which it was originally designed. Hence, there is loneliness, isolation and depression everywhere. Paulo Coehlo has endeavored to draw the attention of the West toward this issue, and he has tried to reconstruct the broken bond between man and woman on this earth. He follows Rumi Philosophy in honoring and caring for relationships in life. Though all of his novels are set in Western socio-cultural environment, the east can take it as a word of caution because day by day they are progressing toward the western attitude toward human relationships. |
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| Now the relationship under discussion involves completely surrendering oneself into the relationship to honor and respect the other. It is surrendering to the will of life and thus submitting to the Will of Allah, because the Life is the most beautiful gift offered by Allah. Moreover, in mirror of this relationship we must try to adorn each other, compliment each other and compensate for each others� shortcomings and make up to realize each others� dreams regardless of the gender we belong to. Each of our effort should be sincere and genuine to bring happiness to the other and do good to the other. Read .... River Piedra.. by Paulo Coehlo... |
| When selfish ego fails to do that, it violates the natural law and spreads negativity around. The pain felt is just the defense mechanism seeking help for healing and recovery. Not listened for or cared for, it begins to wither and die. With it dies the Libido�the will to live. Libido is not meant for sexual gratification only, it is the energy to meet the challenges of life courageously and find it�s most suitable and creative expression to serve and nurture life. When it is limitlessly spent on sexual gratification, it spreads chaos and destruction with all its coercive needs. Thus sexual restraint is the first step towards morality and building civic attitude in life. We need to follow natural and Divine Laws in careful expression of most precious of the life energies. Undue self mortification or suppression of one�s bodily needs will not lead to any salvation. We need a lawful relationship to demonstrate the potential of care and love we have in our souls. |
| The body, especially of a woman is like a temple a sacred place, because life happens here. So it must be cared for, honored and respected. Read 11 Minutes by Paulo Coehlo... |
| Allah has placed sweetness and content as reward of respecting Divine Laws. It is most valuable and yet free like all natural beauties, the wind, the light, the water and the fragrance of rose. So anybody who puts a price on it and tries to buy or sell it is a sinner; he/she will not bear any sweet fruit of the contact, since it was not naturally gifted to each other. Thus any other relationship which is of some selfish desire, to mutilate other�s body or soul or to possess or overpower it without the sweet consent is a sin. Prostitution or adultery is unlawful and is a sin. In both the cases it robs someone of the self respect and trust that one had in the natural relationships or the right to enjoy these emotions in fairest of ways. He/she will be guilty and will get punished for violating the Divine Laws unless vows to amend his/her ways seeking forgiveness. |
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